Trying to be brief, but would very much value any advice.
I have 3 DC (5, 3 & 10 months), one of whom has a serious medical condition which could necessitate short notice hospital stays etc.
I finally got my PhD this year after working part-time on it for 7 years. I have worked as an RA full time for 5 years and part time for 3 years, which is what I am currently.
I am being encouraged to apply for post-doc fellowships by my employing uni, and in the meantime to keep publishing and try to fit in some additional teaching experience. This involves of course doing some of this at home in my evenings, where time is very short (not helped by baby not sleeping well)!
I am at the point where I'm really not sure it's worth the effort. I love research, kind of enjoy teaching, but my DCs come first and the juggling act just working 20hrs a week as an RA is hard enough. A proper lectureship even in 8 years time should I ever get the opportunity would possible be too much to juggle- DH works long hours and would want to keep his job going.
Is it worth it? I could go the government science route as many of the contracts I've worked on over the past 9 years have been for government/legislative requirements rather than true academic research. I know jobs are thin on the ground (especially if you're not mobile) but I'd love if possible to at least stay in this general field. I'm 31 so still fairly young I hope!!
Thanks for any shared experience/advice etc.