working away fro home

[FlorenceMattell]

Hi
Would it be awful to accept a job, brilliant pay. That means working away from home 5 or 6 nights a week.
Husband been ill, was made reduntant, long and short, lost our home.
Job would mean leaving our 9 year twins with husband, who now works from home, three days a week and into office two.
Mother-in-law lives with us too.
Am very tempted as could save for a bigger deposit on a new home.
But am worried about leaving children.
Have a friend near job, who has offered me free accomodation, in-exchange for babysitting etc.

Is the Job itself brilliant or just the pay?
Would you resent every part of it except the cash?
Or would it rejuvenate you, provide an excellent role model to your children and give your husband the space and time to run the house well?
Money is not everything.
Not seeing your kids all week is ONLY worth it if you know that the benefits are good.

Yes job would be good too.
Money not everything. But we are renting now. which is fine but not secure, having to move every year or so.

If you are renting, could you not move to where the job is? I think 5/6 nights is too much time away from home for anyone, married/in a relationship/single/whatever. Does it really have to be that way? That would mean you would only be home on, maybe, Saturday night each week?

Plenty of men do this, but would you want to?

How would your DH feel about being left to look after the twins and his mum almost full time with no hands-on support from you? Do you think your couple relationship could take the strain?

Children grow up quickly, in 9 years your two may have left home and your MIL (if old / ill) could be dead. If you still think the job is worth it, go for it.

I would do it. Great job, great pay, travelling is a downside - but as long as you have the support of your H, can put up with the travelling as a disadvantage to the job (all of them have some!) and can work in practical terms I'd definitely take it!