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Work is making me ill...

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StellaBrillante · 21/09/2010 08:09

I've come in this morning and I'm shaking. After a visit to the surgery yesterday, I have started taking medication for gastric pain. I was off ill with depression for two months at the end of last year and had to force myself out of it by religiously taking my medication and forcing myself to do positive little things like go for a walk in the park every day. And, of course, I had to keep ds' side of things going too.
I'm worried I'm over-reacting. Maybe I should be stronger and keep looking at it (work) as 'glass half full'. After all, a lot of people I know have lost their jobs. I wanted to be one of those. I wanted to be released from here. I can't afford to leave though. I have got huge debts to pay, I am a single parent and ex does not help with anything so I've got pretty big expenses covering schools hols and 1/2 terms (not as much now though that ds is a bit older). Also, I have completed a professional qualification paid by my employer meaning that if I leave before 2 years, I have to pay something between 100-50%.
I never did get my degree but now that ds is well placed for senior school, I desperatly want to study and use my language skills (something that I am extremely passionate about) so I've found out about a tourism management undergraduate course at Glouceser Uni. I've been thinking about declaring myself bankrupt so that I can leave my job - they will probably dismiss me anyway as I'll be in breach of my ts&cs of employment. I don't know what to do. I'm worried that my health and my sanity will deteriorate if I stay. It's a combination of how bad things are here and how much I want to be doing something else. When we had the last round of redundancies, I prayed so hard that I would be included. Instead, what I had referred to at the time as 'my worst case scenario' has become true: I know report into somebody who does not know the concept of giving praise, who will not lift a finger to back your decisions and working with people who have no problems with stabbing you in the back. I am still friends with people from my old departments (some of them I worked with over 5 years ago) but here? The level of bitching and pettiness has been raised to a whole new heights.
I don't know what to do...

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flowerybeanbag · 21/09/2010 09:38

Well it does sound like working on a plan to leave would be a good idea, so that you at least feel some kind of control over the situation.

Does your doctor agree that work is the cause of your illness? Are you signed off at the moment?

StellaBrillante · 21/09/2010 13:18

Hi flowerybeanbag,

When I was ill at the end of last year, my GP was more than happy to sign me off for stress and depression but I also think she saw that I was trying really hard to help myself by seeing a counsillor and speaking to the 'health nurses' from work.

I only saw the nurse yesterday though and she advised me that my gastric pain was likely to be stress related and prescribed me some medication. I'm back at work today but getting cold sweats and ready burst out crying.

It's all so unlike me though. I've gone through a very problematic divorce, I have been raising my ds on my own whilst working full-time and have had no help as we won't have family around. I'd like to think that I'm a fighter. Maybe I've reached my limit now.

Amazing how things have got to this stage where I'm seriously considering going bankrupt just so that I can get rid off my job!

Thank you for 'listening' though!!! x

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