Bullying at work?

[harassedinherpants]

Is it, and if so what to do??

I work for a small company and it's an on-going problem with the MD, whom I report directly too.

It's nothing obvious, but snidey comments about how I dress, the colour of my hair, comments about my children, how well off I am (or not) etc etc.

Two recent instances:
I recently dyed my hair and it went a lot redder than I'd expected (sorted now), but I had to endure comments about putting a bag over my head, did I pay to have that done, was my dd traumatised by my hair.
About a week previous to this I'd been wearing leggings with a tunic type top. He said that when I went home I should take my trousers off, get every other pair I own, and burn them.

This is from someone who meant to respect me, and hopes that one day I'll take over the running of the company...... I'm fed up with it all tbh, and it's really starting to get me down. Add into that another colleague who has always been a bit of a bully, and I've had enough really!!! It could be taken as jokey comments, but having put up with it for years now, it's really taking its toll.

to be honest it sounds horriable.
my first piece of advice is to start keeping a journal of the comments. Be as factual as you can about the situation eg date, time what you were doing, what was said then put in a bit about how it made you feel.

What you do next really depends on the size of the company. If you have an HR department ask them about it. If not you might need to find out if you have either a behaviour at work policy or bullying policy.
Review these in detail.
Then if your up to it think about speaking to the person directly. They may not be aware of thier behaviour. If you don't feel comfortable doing this and i understand if you don't then try to speak to someone either at the MD's level or above. Do you have a management board?
Having just expereince bullying at work i know how hard it can be and my heart goes out to you.

Thanks for replying, it's a relief just to hear someone say that I'm not being unreasonable!!

It's a very small company, it's the MD making the comments, and the other person I mentioned is in a similar role to me, but I run the office and he runs the factory. So everyone takes on a variety roles and we don't have a HR dept, that's my job too! We definitely don't have a behaviour at work policy or a bullying policy, because I would have written them. There isn't a management board, but there is another partner ( a silent one).

I'll def keep a journal of what's going on, and try to find some more advice. It's all really disheartening.

I hope your situation is resolved now.