Not seeing my son enough, help!

[Sonar]

I have just started working again after a year on Mat leave. I live at least an hours drive from work. I am full time & my son goes to nursery.
I've only done 4 days so far & it's awful, traffic has been horendous so I only get to see him for a couple of hours a day & I'm already leaving early. He appears to like nursery but is so tired when home that he's irritable for the time I do see him. He's off his food at home cause he's only having bland food there due to allergies. It's so horrible not seeing him I just don't know what to do.
Work did offer 4 days, should I take this afterall if offer is still open?

Any suggestions appreciated.

Oh you poor thing. If the four day offer is still there, grab it with both hands. Working full time is fine if you're happy with not seeing your son that much - but if you're unhappy, it's absolutely not worth it.

Four days isn't long enough to make a judgement, particularly after a whole year off. TBH you'd probably feel knackered and anxious starting a full time job after a year out of the workplace even if you didn't have kids!

Leave it a few weeks, and then take up the 4 day option if you think you'd prefer it

Do you have a partner you can share some of the nursery drops / pick ups with? Then perhaps you could get to work earlier on the non drop am and pick him up earlier to have more mummy time. Won't be easier for you but will give him more time with you.

I would seriously consider the 4 day thing, and not leave it for a few weeks. That 1 day a week can be wonderfully precious time for the both of you.

I wouldn't leave it a few weeks either. Why put yourself through the agony of it?

Thanks everyone. I have taken a day off a week until Sept so I'm only doing 4 day week now so I have some time to consider it.
My husband could drop off/collect but we only have one car so a bit tricky as I use it.

Really appreciate your comments/advice, thank you.

I think it's perfectly possible to know how you feel after four days - I did not need one second to know that I wanted to be with my son as much as physically/financially possible - I didn't need a nanosecond! If you want the four days, go for it, why the hell not?!