Boy babies are not cute

[Ryoko]

Not sure if this is the right place for this but my son is 3 weeks old, when I took him out down the shops wearing a white and black sleepsuit, 4 people stopped to look and said "She" was so cute.

A couple of days later went to the shops again not a single person said anything, he was wearing his blue sleepsuit with a dino on the front.

I can't help thinking that he got no interest from people because he was wearing blue so must be a boy and who cares about boy babies they are not cute

Ryoko,
Boy babies are gorgeous.

Although, can I let you into a sales trick my husband learned. HE was taught that if you go to an important customer's house and you can't tell if their baby is a boy or a girl, always ask if its a girl because that's more of an overall compliment than assuming its a boy (when it could be a girl IYSWIM).

BUt the fact he had to be taught that shows that in actual fact neither are cuter than the other, but its a social construct for us to believe girls are cuter.

Oooh...see,I don't think any babies are cute until they are a month or so old and stop looking spotty and wrinkly and squashed...I am 35 weeks pregnant, not good eh!

Oh and some babies are just fugly anyway.

interesting point there elvis!

I have to say, I had lots of comments about how cute DS is, so I refuse to believe they are not.

Mind you, he still gets called a little girl about 50% of the time - apparently boys aren't able to have blond hair and blue eyes - and that's despite wearing blues and browns and looking like a boy!

My 14yo smelly, hairy, dirty oik, was the most gorgeous blue eyed, golden haired angel on the face of the planet. Everyone used to stop and call him gorgeous. I just wish he was the remotest bit 'cute' anymore! Enjoy every second they are sweet sweet babies, and dont worry about them being gorgeous enough! Who cares what anyone else thinks anyway? It was a bloody pain if you ask me, it took ages to go anywhere! No one looks twice at him now, they leg it as soon as the smell hits them!

I admit, I do worry a bit about that, saggy - my DH was a gorgeous cutie when he was a baby (although not as lovely as my DS) but he was a dead ugly teen! He's one of those whose face changes with age though (like his Dad, another ugly teen who got good looking in his twenties/thirties). DH looked like a male version of his mum in his teens, not a look that suited him - now he's almost a carbon copy of his Dad at the same age.

I think that most small babies look like aliens to be honest (mine certainly did!). Some baby outfits are very cute though

If you can't tell whether a baby is a boy or a girl, you can just avoid using pronouns almost indefinitely, though. "Oh, how gorgeous... what an alert little baby you are... how old?..." Etc. etc. etc. And sooner or later one of the parents will let a pronoun slip.

DD used to get more attention when she was awake (because of the big blue eyes, I think) whereas DS used to get more attention when he was asleep (because he was generally screaming when he was awake and people were running in the opposite direction...).

My 3DSs got as many lovely comments as my 2DDs. My twin boys were constantly getting attention as babies/toddlers.

I think my son looks like his dad, at a month old he still looks a bit alien, it's the eyes they are still very dark and kind of almond shaped and at an angle like the eyes of grays are.

He gives me funny looks and keeps sticking his tongue out which due to his former tongue tie he still does in such a way sometimes that it looks forked like a snake, which makes me laugh then he gives me an even funnier look, I also laugh when he cries I just think it's funny the way he looks when he does it and the fact he goes bright red I call him little radish cos of that.

You can tell a boy from a girl, boys are long bodied, girls are shorter bodied and fatter.

Frankly I think there are more pugly babies then cute ones especially the bald ones.

When we're out people are almost always remarking on how cute my DS is. Of course yo get occasional days when you only meet miserable people and they don't That's what happened to you on the blue outfit day.

I make a point of always trying to compliment any babies I meet but in non-gendered terms - eg how smiley, cute, alert they are, lots of teeth etc.

I was always being told what an intelligent little baby boy I had when I went out with very chatty and vocal little DD1. I thought she looked really cute too, with her little red curls and alert expression. She wore a lot of white and yellow. She would never be mistaken for a boy now, 20 years on. They were all right about the intelligence though.

With DS, who had long curly eyelashes, and big blue eyes, plus a very charming manner, I got many compliments on my beautiful baby girl. DS used to smile and bat his eyelashes in a very coy manner. He was also wearing the same white or yellow clothes that DD1 had grown out of.

The people making the comments tended to be old ladies, and I figured they would have very set opinions on what constituted acceptable boyish or girlish traits. Younger people could always find something more appropriate to say.

I think boys and girls have different shaped foreheads, and the eyes are somehow slightly different too.