Not much we can do about this but we should know it's happening

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I know nobody reads the Daily Mail so you might miss this

anyway tis very interesting

if that is true, then I'd like to know what happens when they return to the UK. Surely they can't just drop out of the system that late on?

What can be done?

There's nothing to be done. It's disgusting.

no, i agree but you'd think the hospitals themselves would have records of so many "late mcs" and linked with ethnic origin...sure she could have asked for that info.

I am a little surprised if this is such a strong trend in Britain, because British girls automatically have a huge dowry; their european passports.

Agree, it is a very worrying article, and very disturbing that it happens at all. Serve them right if their boys grow up and marry women from other cultures if there arent enough Indian women.

It's dangerous ground though, can look culturalist or racist: you can't select ethnic groups for special inquiries. I don't know, maybe if this becomes enough of a scandal it might happen. But it's very dodgy and open to accusations of racism.

NbyN: would a passport make a huge difference? I don't think it would to be honest. In our eyes it looks that way but if you read the article it's all about money. And it's within Britain anyway, so the boys would have passports to. It's only going abroad for the terminations.

Is this posting? I can't tell. comp or mn is slow.

I'm genuinely surprised at this. I'm Indian myself and can't say I personally know of of a British Indian either aborting a girl (but obviously most people wouldn't make it public if they did this) or being at all disappointed by the birth of a baby girl in a family. The attitude of my family in the UK to girls is markedly different from relatives in India. Even my grandmother, who did suggest that many years ago that one of my aunts should be murdered as a child because there were "too many girls" in the family, would know that this is clearly wrong from the decades she has spent living the UK. I can't imagine her suggesting to me that I abort a girl.

With regards to education, in my experience the girls in a family tend to be given the same educational opportunities as their brothers but I do know of some families where this doesn't seem to be the case. I can imagine that as students are expected to pay more towards their own higher education, that poorer families would tend to concentrate their resources on the boys. I can see that this may well become a problem in the Indian community.

The main ways that I have seen sexism exhibited have been around the allocation of domestic work. Girls are expected to help out a lot more at home while boys are often expected to do nothing at all. Most of the Indian mothers I know are keen to teach their daughters to cook but expect that their sons will be catered for by their DILs.

backtotalk: a girl with a British passport can marry a man from a non-EU country, and he automatically gets EU residency. That's worth a lot.

Obviously can't talk outside my own experience (so mainly my own extended family and family friends) but it seems to be very rare for British Indian women to marry men brought up in India. Much more likely for a British Indian man to marry a woman from India. So not sure how much the passports would count for anything.

When we lived in Slough, it was fairly commonly talked about. Everyone seemed to know a girl who had been pulled out of school and sent off to India.
I am not of asian origin, but the pp issue also affects our family. Ex h once said that dd should marry a man from his country!

(but he is a tosser)