I find it really amazing that anyone can really think all this. It makes no sense at all! Why do you think this - is it just because it’s what you’ve been told and you want to be a good person?
Gender stereotypes are very powerful and in almost every society they have been and often still are rigidly enforced. Almost no one naturally fits an extreme masculine or feminine stereotype. I don’t, I’m a lifelong tomboy with a lot of stereotypically masculine interests and skills, as well as some feminine and some neutral.
Some people do not fit the gender stereotypes expected of them at all and naturally long to break outside them. And of course in the past or in the most repressive societies, that;s very difficult. Lots of people have wished they were the opposite sex for totally understandable reasons. Often gay people, and of course many people who just wanted to escape expectations of masculinity or femininity that didn’t suit them or harmed them.
That doesn’t mean anyone is “really” the opposite sex inside in some undetectable way, just because they wish they were. It means gender stereotypes are stupid and restrictive. No genderist I have ever met or discussed this with is able to explain what “being trans” really means, how it works, how a “trans” person differs from someone who just wishes they were they opposite sex, and how we’re meant to tell so that we can distinguish love;y, innocent, suffering “trans” people from people (generally men) who want to take advantage of self-ID to get access to women and child victims or to gain other advantage such as kudos, eligibility for LGBTQ+ schemes and grants and awards, sporting success, etc etc etc.
Can you explain the above because you would be the first, and I would genuinely like to hear this explanation.
In the creative field I work in, as a short-haired, largely gender non-conforming woman, I could very easily “come out” as non-binary or as a trans man tomorrow. It would fit my look and my genuinely non-stereotyped gender expression (because I am female without adhering to feminine stereotypes, because I don’t believe they should restrict me as a woman). If I did this, it would be a massive grift. It would get me access to all kinds of financial and career opportunities and I’d be showered with praise and adoration. I’m not “non-binary” and I think “non-binary” is a load of sexist guff that defines everyone else as fitting into gender stereotypes when that’s actually untrue. I’m not a man and I think it’s offensive to appropriate the lived experience of men and act like I know what being male is like.
But people like you would be all over it and pontificate that I was a poor oppressed trans person who just wanted to be allowed to exist. Wouldn’t you?