Asking whether I feel angry about sexual violence is completely different to asking me if I want to beat an actual man to death. I reject violence.
I do feel angry about the rapes and assaults suffered by almost every woman I know. I've never met a woman whose rapist has been convicted, but I've met many many women who have been raped. Rape is basically legal, it's so little prosecuted or punished. The conviction rate is less than 1%. It's almost impossible to imagine a world in which it was actually prosecuted at the rate of murder. But I'd like to try.
We know that around 90% of rapes are committed by repeat offenders, and on average a repeat rapist commits 5-6 offences, so we could cut the numbers drastically and quite strategically, especially if we triangulated by the common comorbidities of domestic violence and child abuse. The absolute numbers are still staggeringly large. If we estimate there are around 300,000 serial rapists operating in the UK today, if 60% of them went to prison (roughly the conviction rate for murder), we'd have to build two more entire prison systems. So there are very strong social forces against handling this in the criminal justice system, alas.
Taking one serial rapist off the streets saves four women. If we could identify them earlier, when they're just hitting their mum or their teacher, maybe we could even save the rapist too. It's a vast project, but consider what things like police and deweaponisation has done for the murder rate. Moving from a culture where all men carried knives and swords to one where nobody is armed has cut our murder rate massively. We changed the culture and over time the culture changed us. We can keep on at this. I'm working on it, myself. I think for me part of the feminist project is to work on building a culture women can live in, can thrive in, without this bullshit.
So I guess for me, anger can motivate action but it's got to be productive action. I'm just not here to entertain revenge fantasies or to add more bullshit into the world. We've got enough.