Dear BBC - identify the issue please - it matters to women

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https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce3kvw4q29wo

"We are just cohabiting, like we're not a couple. We are just parents," she says.
Like many parents, they struggle to find time to spend alone.

"Our kids are so young and they are so demanding that it's hard to even get five minutes to catch up and we're both exhausted come the end of the day."

She says the dynamic of her relationship changed after she gave birth to her first child.

"We knew it was going to be different when we started trying for our first baby, but I think the gravity of it, we weren't expecting how different it would be."

In Rebecca's case, her whole life has changed as she's switched from working full time to becoming a full time mother, and says she has struggled to open up with her partner about her feelings.

"His life is still his life. He does see how hard it is for me at home and also our relationship, he knows it's affected, but he'd never bring it up."

Can we spot the obvious elephant in the room. Not once does the article really reflect on the fact that its WOMEN'S LIVES that change but the men largely just carry on just like before....

Why do we think this prince won't bring the subject up? Let me think about it...

Also the focus of this article!!!! Nothing about needing social time away from the home / responsibilities. Its pretty much all about rebuilding the SexyTime/Romantic Time and not a thingabout a wider need for multiple relationships.

Just an AWFUL article.

"We are just cohabiting, like we're not a couple. We are just parents," she says.
Like many parents, they struggle to find time to spend alone.

Just from your extract

"We are just cohabiting, like we're not a couple. We are just parents, a full time stay at home working mother and a father who appears to have delegated parenting to his childs mother and still expects ....." she says.
Like many parents, they struggle to find time to spend alone.

I know. It's a truly awful take and representation.

This is where gender neutral language and focus is doing women a massive disservice.

His life hasn't changed after having children. It is women whose lives change and they are still expected to be served humans and be providing this intimate relationship.

The bloke isn't making any fucking effort here. The whole tone of the article seems to be aimed at women and women serving the relationship. Not at it being an equal partnership.

Thank you for flagging this dreadful article - I was furious when I read it on the BBC news home page this morning. The answer to the problem couldn't be more obvious but they just ignore it. They also ignore the fact that any mother who is at home all day with 3 small children is going to be totally touched out by the time her other half gets through the door and the last thing she's probably going to want is physical contact. All this article does is pile on the pressure to be active in the bedroom whether she wants to or not. It's basically institutional gaslighting

Yep

3 children
Left her job
Lost her financial independence
Is an invisible unpaid worker
and he is pretending nothing has changed.

The whole tone it that the woman should be babying him along into dating again not that he should be taking on the emotional support role by recognising her live has changed

Yep Agony Auntie doing Stepford Wife advice

Reminds me of the 1950s articles about brush your hair before he comes home, fix your makeup, have a nice dinner on the table, listen attentively to his day and don't clutter up his air space with your silly natter about womaning all day... the 'how to be a better wife' bullshit.

And then men wonder why many modern women, with the education and independence, say I don't need the deadweight, I would do better and be happier raising the kids alone in a house of my own, in my own routine.

That has given me the rage. How dare those "therapists" suggest the women makes an effort.

As usual, the man appears to the the problem here.

This has reminded me I already have a bbc complaint to put in this week.

How could the BBC get this so arse about tit?

Practice?