Thanks for this. Me, too - at least partly:
Second wave feminists tried to be like men, farming out child care to poorer women.
This is such an ignorant misrepresentation of all we did, against what obstacles, yet so widespread that I've given up countering it. Still makes me bloody cross, though, in a "Why did I even bother?!" sort of way.
She then goes on to recognise it without even recognising it:
I’ve felt crushed by the dialogue on Twitter/X, the complete lack of sympathy for older women. Misogyny is always ok when directed at women past their last fuckable day it seems.
The ‘ok boomer’ narrative is tiresome. Blaming the older generation for absolutely everything. It was always hard to find affordable housing. Always. In London anyway.
Yes, yes, it was, it is, and it is crushing.
These 'reactionary feminists' are very annoying. I've been trying to give up feminism to focus more on elderly rights - turns out I can't, though, because old women get the short end of every stick. The sticks that hit old men hit old women twice as hard.
Mine was an exciting and difficult time to be a woman. It was exciting because the women before me had built a great foundation for us to make real, tangible differences to women's rights, freedoms and opportunities. The obstacles previous feminists had to surmount were even more daunting; they did it. We did what was needed next.
It pisses me off to see so-called feminists merrily deeming the job done, compromising women's prospects for the future while developing various styles of half-arsed feminism and putting my generation down. I feel like they don't deserve any efforts I might make to see them better-placed in their older years.
I think I'll open my wine and watch some detective crap on Netflix.