Removed from group and refused rejoining

[Tursl]

I joined a Facebook group in December as I wanted to make friends with other women into personal development. Tonight I was removed from the group and it says I need to answer the questions. So I answered the questions and asked to join again and got declined.

I see they have accepted 131 women to the group this week. I feel disheartened as I have had no explanation about why I was refused. How is this a group that is inclusive and says they are there to let people make new friends yet are declining people without a valid reason. I don’t get why some people pick and choose who joins a group.

You may have failed on the identity bit. That usually means they include 'women' who are men - and if you disagree with this in any way then they exclude you in the name of inclusivity.

Hi OP - sadly on facebook lots of groups that seem like they could be really nice to be part of are run by people who become facebook tyrants.

I really wouldn't let them get you down.

But I can sympathise if you were hopeing to join something that would give you connections. Many women on FWR have in the past talked about how hard it is to meeting up with other women IRL.

I also think that sadly the word woman in the title of something doesn't mean it is going to be kind, or feminist, or just women.

Not sure is this will help you but according to AI:

Based on the search results, there are two distinct entities with similar names:
Woman Fest (UK) and Womanifest (UK, based in Cheshire).

Woman Fest (UK/Glastonbury)

• Founder/Organizer: Tiana Jacout is the founder of Woman Fest UK, based in Glastonbury.
• Context: Launched as a "man-free" or women-only festival focusing on empowerment, workshops, and music.
• Company Info: Registered as "WOMAN FEST UK LTD" (Company Number 11306829), with Tiana Jacout listed as a director.

Womanifest (Cheshire)

• Organizers: A team of four female entrepreneurs from Manchester and North Wales are at the helm of Womanifest 2025 at Cherry Orchard Farm.
• Team Members: The team includes Lisa Williams (event planning/coordination), Tracy Cawthray (community and communication), and Sara Hughes (crystal healing/business development).
• Context: A wellbeing and empowerment festival for women and teen girls.

Its not talked much about on FWR but there is a distinct and quite flourishing strand of feminism that is basically about being a business.

And it may be for some women that running their own business is the best way to feel independent.

But that doesn't mean that how they interact with other women is as feminists but more as potential clieants.

I am taking a guess that the group you had joined and then been excluded from is the second one described by AI.

Is there any way locally of meeting up with other women through some sort of shared activity?

Or maybe just go to the event, ie dont bother with the facebook group as obviously it is in the hand of control freaks.

You may well find other women attending are much more interesting and worth while than the business women who have put this together.

(Though if anyone remembers the group UK Women's March I think was its name started out as an all women welcome of join a march by women became a battlefield of competing group admins, politics and of course, being kind.)

I wonder in MNHQ could set up a small ads section for FWR to let women in similar parts of the country meet up?

I wonder in MNHQ could set up a small ads section for FWR to let women in similar parts of the country meet up?

It would be pretty risky though - you’d always be laying yourself open to the risk of TRAs placing or responding to ads. Shitty as that is.

I realise that, so why I said MNHQ setting it up.

ie effectively they would have to act as some sort of vetting service.

You would be able to post and see ads for meet ups based on you having been posting on FWR for some time

Although that would mean the relentless thread hijackers would be let in.

Sigh.

There just has to be a way.

I don’t think mnhq could or should take on to vet and run that.

Well no, I do realise that.

But at the moment not just those on FWR but elsewhere have no reliable safe way of organising a local meet up.

Which is really, really sad.

And for women who feel isolated, and just further emphasises that isolation.

Thank you for your helpful advice and research.

I agree, not all group leaders have good intentions. It comes across as though they are people who are business women who are ‘experts’ and want to be ‘influential’.

I am going to go to local events instead as it is probably better to make local friends.