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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

It’s 2026

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DialSquare · 02/01/2026 17:42

And we still don’t have answers to some of the long standing questions often asked on here. Such as….

In what way does a man become a woman?

What rights do trans people not have that everyone else has?

What are the views that the majority of posters on here have regarding the dangers of gender ideology, do you actually disagree with?

Why do you think women and girls are not entitled to single sex provision?

And the old favourite

What is a woman?

Feel free to add your own questions. I’m not expecting any answers though!

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 03/01/2026 01:05

How does a man who claims he is a woman “know” he is experiencing woman feelings and not simply the feelings of a man who doesn’t feel what he thinks men should feel?

Greyskybluesky · 03/01/2026 01:16

Why is " biological man/woman" a slur? It's fact.

Greyskybluesky · 03/01/2026 01:30

Why do you identify as both a "trans woman" and a "woman"? Surely if you believe yourself to be a woman you don't want to flag up that you're trans because that's clearly saying I know I'm actually male?

Helleofabore · 03/01/2026 04:15

I would like to know the answers, dial. However, I now assume that people have started to realise that they have been influenced by emotionally manipulative arguments rather than evidence based ones and so people who wish to continue to believe in gender identities will not be able to answer your questions clearly.

I think that Amy Sousa has made a video that also puts it back into perspective:

x.com/knownheretic/status/2002449600146530366?s=46

Regardless.”

”Your argument doesn’t justify bypassing women’s and girl’s consent”.

So, will any answers come along that will justify ignoring the needs of female people and prioritising gender identity over a person’s sex class when sex matters?

junipery · 03/01/2026 06:01

As a trans man, how is having a baby not the most triggering thing ever if you have gender dysphoria?

PermanentTemporary · 03/01/2026 06:54

‘What are the views that the majority of posters on here have regarding the dangers of gender ideology, do you actually disagree with?’

I don’t know if it is the majority, but I think the use of neutral pronouns much more of the time and the use of Mx are perfectly fine developments in language.

You don’t see it as much now, but the frequent statements that a ‘real man’ would take violent action if they thought a male person had gone into a public toilet with their wife or daughter, were profoundly anti feminist. About the last thing women need is men having a punch up in our toilets.

Using pictures to support the gender critical case is understandable, given the nature and impact of some key images and the manipulation of images to support the primacy of gender over sex. But it’s a poisoned chalice. Pretty, slight, delicate men are not women any more than large solid plain women are men.

On the same lines - no, we can’t always tell. We need to address this. Some men and more women do pass, or pass in some circumstances, or after enough surgery. Is that important? Does it change anything? Does it change some things in some circumstances? Clearly many people and some legal precedents like Goodwin think it does make a difference. As a feminist it makes no theoretical difference to me, but eg if a woman requests a female doctor and gets Dr Sam the Brighton GP (for example) there are going to be some women who reject that person because they don’t look female enough. I don’t think it’s ok to just pretend that’s never going to happen. Theoretically, what should happen? This same issue underpinned the first ECHR guidance which ended up saying that some transmen probably couldnt use women’s toilets. It’s hardly surprising that this guidance had to be withdrawn.

It makes no difference whether male people in women’s sport win or not, and focusing on those that win is counterproductive. It’s hard not to do it though because it’s so fucking offensive.

We can’t both say that we don’t care about what people wear, and that a man in a dress is inevitably expressing a sexual fetish. Tbh I think the meanings we attach to clothing are real and important and denying this helps nobody. This is not the same as the right wing pro-gender belief that women naturally want to wear skirts and be tradwives, but insisting that men wearing skirts is EITHER meaningless OR fetish wear is a horseshoe argument leading back to sexism.

The silly jokes about ‘where’s my right wing money then’ attempt to deny the truth that right wing political forces really have poured money into buying political voices that use gender idiocy to discredit left wing politics. It’s not very difficult to make politicians look like idiots when attempting to make gender trump sex in policy, and the left have gifted this to the right. That doesn’t make it ok that right wing corrupt dictators are in power, that homophobia is getting a whole new lease of life and that there have been physical attacks on boys and men who are judged not to be performing male gender well enough.

Transphobia exists and people have died from transphobic attacks. Homophobia and violent misogyny are MUCH more prevalent than transphobia - tbh they’re all closely linked - but it exists.

WarriorN · 03/01/2026 08:19

If children in care are 700% more likely to identify as trans, why is this not being seen as an indicator of severe mental health issues or some other sort of psychological reaction? Why has this not been all over the papers and a well known safeguarding red flag amongst all professionals who work with children?

parietal · 03/01/2026 08:29

@PermanentTemporarymakes a bunch of good points.

there are also too many people making claims of absolutes in situations that are complex.
i don’t think I can always 100% tell if someone is born male or female (the nice person who sold me my mobile phone in a shop - 20 min conversation, it I still wasn’t sure). But to say we sometimes can’t tell doesn’t mean we can NEVER tell - 99% of the time we can. And if it matters, we can ask.

similarly for the clothing. The principle of “wear what you want” is great but there are still social judgments going on all the time. If a woman walks into the local parish church in a bikini, she will get some odd looks. Same if a man does. And separating out when particular types of clothing are acceptable and when and why is not simple. Absolute rules don’t help here.

Igmum · 03/01/2026 08:38

Why is it that ‘be kind’ only runs one way and no one ever suggests that TRAs be kind to women?

IDontHateRainbows · 03/01/2026 08:42

The whole 'can always tell' thing. I mean how the hell could that ever be empirically tested? The times when you can't tell would be hidden from view.

Theonethatmakesmelaugh · 03/01/2026 08:45

I have come to the view there is no point trying to debate this on a rational level.

I treat it as a religion. Just as Christians believe in the virgin birth for example, some people believe TWAW. These are not positions based in science or rational discourse but in faith.

In this country we are mostly tolerant of other people's religious faiths or lack of them and do not demand others agree with them. I don't believe in the virgin birth but wouldn't try to convince a Christian that their beliefs are scientifically unfounded, but then again no-one is demanding that I go to church and pray and I am not discriminated for my lack of belief.

Gender ideology takes us back to a pre-enlightenment world where lack of belief is worthy of punishment. It is impossible to argue with something that is entirely based in faith rather than an objective provable fact. I can respect other people's faiths even when I don't share them, as long as I am allowed to have my own lack of faith.

Sadly, we are still treated as heretics for our lack of belief.

Helleofabore · 03/01/2026 09:21

IDontHateRainbows · 03/01/2026 08:42

The whole 'can always tell' thing. I mean how the hell could that ever be empirically tested? The times when you can't tell would be hidden from view.

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The whole 'can always tell' thing. I mean how the hell could that ever be empirically tested?

I don’t believe it can be tested.

I think though there are two ways to look at the claim. Firstly, there may be people who can always tell with interaction and observation. I don’t doubt there might be some people who have that skill. Likely they would have to be paying attention though. So, it should perhaps have that qualifier.

The other way I look at the claim is that when someone says ‘we can always tell’ I take it as a general ‘we’. Not an absolute ‘we’ meaning everyone. I believe that there will almost certainly be someone who will correctly identify the sex category of a male person. It is likely to be many more than just one person though.

There is an activist who claims to have had cross sex hormones as a teenager and claims to have passed for a decade or more. Yet he frequently makes a big thing of posting pics of JK Rowling over the years when people tell him he is mistaken that he has passed all this time. He is effectively mocking JK Rowling when he does it and is very happy to mock her.

However, this man doesn’t even pass in the photos of him that he posts. It is clear once you start to see his facial structure, particularly from his eyes up. He also must realise this now because he has taken to only posting pics of himself with some sort of hat on to keep the attention on the lower half of his face.

My point is, that there will be zero chance that not one person will be able to correctly identify the sex category of a male person who says they 100% pass. It is relevant only because that be person who might be able to make that accurate identification may come across that male person (boy or man) in a single sex provision.

On the flip side to this, a female person who has taken testosterone may cause distress because there may likely be one female person in a single sex provision that doesn’t correctly identify that testosterone modified female person’s sex. Or similarly for male people who have surgeries and hormones being in male single sex spaces. Hence the SC Judgement making mention of that for certain instances.

However, as PermanentTemporary mentions, it should not be relevant because no male people should be accessing female single sex provisions. And it is not relevant to safeguarding policy as that’sshould not be based on ‘passing’.

I disagree though that there will be one male person who has taken PBs/cross sex hormones and/or had surgeries who can pass 100% of the time after treatment to 100% of people they have no prior history of meeting previously. I don’t believe that will happen until a person can be reduced to sub atomic particles and reconstructed as if their body had a different genetic code completely.

DialSquare · 03/01/2026 11:38

Thanks all for your comments and additional questions. It’s a simple way to show that the followers of gender ideology do not have a coherent argument against our concerns.

So we continue asking and they continue evading.

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