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School governors told to ‘dismiss’ grooming gangs concerns

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NoNever · 05/11/2025 02:15

Article in the Telegraph.

Quote “ School governors have been encouraged to dismiss concerns about grooming gangs as “disinformation”, The Telegraph can disclose.
Thousands of governors undergoing safeguarding training this year were presented with a scenario involving rumours of “men belonging to a particular religion” committing “violent crimes against women”.
They were asked to identify the scenario as an “online safety risk” because children were spreading “disinformation”.”

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2025/11/04/school-governors-told-to-dismiss-grooming-gangs-concerns/

This is infuriating. For decades girls were told to shut up about grooming gangs and this is the training school governors are being provided in 2025.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 00:35

The work with grooming gang victims has been outsourced to a charity, and they seem to have decided that some non grooming gang victims of abuse can be included. That is broadening the scope and is likely going to water down the investigation. Jess Philips is customarily evasive, and as you say she has a conflict of interest. I think she should resign from it or be replaced.

Apologies for BBC source which I don’t consider particularly reliable

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c201x4d7z5no

Fiona Goddard (left) and Ellie Reynolds resigned from the inquiry panel on Monday.

Grooming gangs inquiry: Why is there a row?

A national inquiry into grooming gangs in England and Wales is in turmoil - how did we get here?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c201x4d7z5no

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 00:36

As far as I know there are already non grooming gang victims on the panel. So not just a question, otherwise why are they there?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 00:37

NoNever · 06/11/2025 00:34

This thread isn’t about the actual rapists at all, regardless of their colour.

This thread is about school governors being trained that the should take any rumours of groups of men from a specific religion committing acts of violence against girls as false/disinformation.

We know for a fact that authorities pretending that similar rumours were false in the past allowed the systemic rape of working class white girls by Pakistani Muslim men to continue FOR DECADES and it still continues today. So teaching schools to continue that trend is appalling.

Yes, I agree. I think this thread is being derailed by agenda pushing from several posters.

NoNever · 06/11/2025 00:42

atmywitsend1989 · 05/11/2025 16:51

To be fair.. it's because they do. Most threads like this are made to hate Pakistanis/Muslims. There's a clear agenda so people want to point out that these crimes can be committed by anyone

Being appalled at school governors being trained to immediately dismiss rumours of grooming gangs as false/disinformation doesn’t make me a racist.

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NoNever · 06/11/2025 00:48

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/11/2025 21:18

Who is arguing that they shouldn't be subject to the rule of law?

The training manual that says to label claims of their existence as false disinformation.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 00:52

NoNever · 06/11/2025 00:34

This thread isn’t about the actual rapists at all, regardless of their colour.

This thread is about school governors being trained that the should take any rumours of groups of men from a specific religion committing acts of violence against girls as false/disinformation.

We know for a fact that authorities pretending that similar rumours were false in the past allowed the systemic rape of working class white girls by Pakistani Muslim men to continue FOR DECADES and it still continues today. So teaching schools to continue that trend is appalling.

I've already said that I think the training was inappropriate. The potential for misinterpretation/misrepresentation clearly wasn't thought through, and I understand that it has now been taken down. However, it simply isn't factually correct to say that governors were being trained that they "should take any rumours of groups of men from a specific religion committing acts of violence against girls as false/disinformation". That might be the message that the Telegraph wanted its readers to take away, but it patently isn't the truth.

Heggettypeg · 06/11/2025 00:53

I'm just getting the impression of a similar kind of malaise nowadays in various different circumstances. A sort of "omnicauseitis", where if you suggest dealing with a specific problem, straight away it's " but what about
this, what about that?" The same way that certain kinds of "feminism" now seems to mean campaigning for every minority group, not just women, so the focus is lost.
It's like somebody who never cleans their house because if they started by cleaning, say, the kitchen, it would be "pretending the rest of the house isn't dirty".

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 00:53

NoNever · 06/11/2025 00:48

The training manual that says to label claims of their existence as false disinformation.

No it doesn't.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 00:55

Heggettypeg · 06/11/2025 00:53

I'm just getting the impression of a similar kind of malaise nowadays in various different circumstances. A sort of "omnicauseitis", where if you suggest dealing with a specific problem, straight away it's " but what about
this, what about that?" The same way that certain kinds of "feminism" now seems to mean campaigning for every minority group, not just women, so the focus is lost.
It's like somebody who never cleans their house because if they started by cleaning, say, the kitchen, it would be "pretending the rest of the house isn't dirty".

Agree.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 00:58

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/11/2025 16:51

The wider problem of male violence? Everyone knows that. What you are doing, whether you admit it or not, is trying to control how people talk about this issue. The issue here is that in the grand scheme of things that hasn’t worked out very well for society, and that’s why genuine racists can weaponise it.

Well, yes, to some extent, you're right. Perhaps I do want to control the way the issue is talked about, not because I want to divert attention away from the issue or avoid dealing with the facts, but because I'm sick of the racist rhetoric about this.

And yes, of course we need to talk about issues like this, and sweeping them under the carpet in order to avoid talking about it has obviously had horrific consequences. But we don't have to go to the other extreme in which all Muslim men (and other men who look like they might be Muslim) are demonised. And yes, this is what is happening, sadly.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:00

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 00:52

I've already said that I think the training was inappropriate. The potential for misinterpretation/misrepresentation clearly wasn't thought through, and I understand that it has now been taken down. However, it simply isn't factually correct to say that governors were being trained that they "should take any rumours of groups of men from a specific religion committing acts of violence against girls as false/disinformation". That might be the message that the Telegraph wanted its readers to take away, but it patently isn't the truth.

Could you please elaborate why you think the training was “inappropriate” if you don’t think it was pushing the narrative that concerns about grooming gangs are “disinformation”?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:03

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 00:58

Well, yes, to some extent, you're right. Perhaps I do want to control the way the issue is talked about, not because I want to divert attention away from the issue or avoid dealing with the facts, but because I'm sick of the racist rhetoric about this.

And yes, of course we need to talk about issues like this, and sweeping them under the carpet in order to avoid talking about it has obviously had horrific consequences. But we don't have to go to the other extreme in which all Muslim men (and other men who look like they might be Muslim) are demonised. And yes, this is what is happening, sadly.

A lot of the reason why it’s flourishing is the insistence that people can’t freely discuss it, to a greater or lesser extent. It would be uncharitable to say it was due to people like you, so I’ll refrain from blaming anyone.

I’m interested if you would act the same if the races were reversed?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:05

And you won’t control how the issue is talked about, because people aren’t accountable to you.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 01:19

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:03

A lot of the reason why it’s flourishing is the insistence that people can’t freely discuss it, to a greater or lesser extent. It would be uncharitable to say it was due to people like you, so I’ll refrain from blaming anyone.

I’m interested if you would act the same if the races were reversed?

Yes, I believe I would act the same if the races were reversed, because I see this first and foremost as a crime against women and girls rather than against white girls in particular. That's not to say that I'm denying the racial aspect at all, as the perpetrators very clearly used race to dehumanise their victims and the race of the perpetrators appears to have somehow made the authorities too frightened to address the issue. However, I believe that those evil men would have abused girls of any ethnicity who they felt that they could target.

Others might find it hard to understand my perspective, but I actually think that the failure of the authorities to take action in these cases is a symptom of institutionalised racism in which Pakistani perpetrators were treated differently from white perpetrators. If you are not racist, then you will not feel any fear or hesitation in holding black or brown people accountable for crimes that they may have committed, because you will perceive those people as criminal individuals (albeit, in this case, part of a gang) and not as representative of a whole ethnic group. We should absolutely be able to discuss these horrific crimes openly and honestly, and without treading on eggshells, but we should be able to do so without generalising about an entire subcontinent of people.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 01:25

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:05

And you won’t control how the issue is talked about, because people aren’t accountable to you.

Of course, I'm well aware of that. But that doesn't mean I can't express my thoughts on the matter.

Some people, like you, are able to engage in a civilised conversation about the issues. I appreciate that. Others just try to shut the conversation down by trying to twist what I've said into something completely different. That is when I start to wonder if they have a different agenda.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 01:39

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:00

Could you please elaborate why you think the training was “inappropriate” if you don’t think it was pushing the narrative that concerns about grooming gangs are “disinformation”?

I think it was clumsily designed in a way that wasn't intended but had the potential for misinterpretation (and also deliberate misrepresentation).

I was not familiar with the Governor Hub training site as the school where I'm a Governor doesn't use it, but I had a look at their website and read the statement that they had put out in response to the telegraph article.

The scenario that was provided in the example was not given in the context of training governors on how to respond to allegations of sexual abuse or grooming or exploitation etc, which was covered in a completely separate section or perhaps in a different training session altogether. The focus of that section certainly didn't have anything to do with how schools or governors should respond to such concerns.

What it was intended to do was to help illustrate the difference between misinformation, disinformation and conspiracy theories, and participants were supposed to identify which of those three categories applied to a series of different scenarios. With regard to the question that has been scrutinised, the scenario stated that the teacher "knew" the rumours to be false but was aware that the children were circulating them to help keep each other safe. Participants were supposed to select "misinformation" because the information was known to be false but was not being circulated for malicious reasons.

The issue that I have with the choice of scenario is that I can't think of a situation in which a teacher could confidently know that a rumour is without foundation without this being properly investigated, and so I consider the premise of the question to be flawed. However, I don't think it's at all accurate to suggest that governors were being taught to treat alleged abuse by particular groups as disinformation, as that very clearly wasn't the case.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:40

I’ve been called a racist before on here just for wanting to talk about this issue in isolation because it is the specific topic under discussion. I repeat that I don’t think this abuse is the only abuse that matters or that sexual assaults committed by white men are less important. I’ve both been raped by a white man and involved in a scary racist incident because the man I was dating was Asian. Unless you have good reason to think someone is a racist, I would maybe refrain from speculating about it, rather than jumping to that conclusion just because people are frustrated or disagree. It’s not helpful and it is a large part of why right wing parties are gaining ground.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 02:02

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 01:39

I think it was clumsily designed in a way that wasn't intended but had the potential for misinterpretation (and also deliberate misrepresentation).

I was not familiar with the Governor Hub training site as the school where I'm a Governor doesn't use it, but I had a look at their website and read the statement that they had put out in response to the telegraph article.

The scenario that was provided in the example was not given in the context of training governors on how to respond to allegations of sexual abuse or grooming or exploitation etc, which was covered in a completely separate section or perhaps in a different training session altogether. The focus of that section certainly didn't have anything to do with how schools or governors should respond to such concerns.

What it was intended to do was to help illustrate the difference between misinformation, disinformation and conspiracy theories, and participants were supposed to identify which of those three categories applied to a series of different scenarios. With regard to the question that has been scrutinised, the scenario stated that the teacher "knew" the rumours to be false but was aware that the children were circulating them to help keep each other safe. Participants were supposed to select "misinformation" because the information was known to be false but was not being circulated for malicious reasons.

The issue that I have with the choice of scenario is that I can't think of a situation in which a teacher could confidently know that a rumour is without foundation without this being properly investigated, and so I consider the premise of the question to be flawed. However, I don't think it's at all accurate to suggest that governors were being taught to treat alleged abuse by particular groups as disinformation, as that very clearly wasn't the case.

You appear to completely accept their explanation and think they suggested this scenario in good faith. That’s up to you. However, I take particular issue with this part of their statement:

We recognise that this question was not sufficiently clear. It should have made clear that senior leaders at the school knew the video was false because of their work with multi-agency safeguarding partners (including the police).

those “multi-agency safeguarding partners (including the police)” in many cases ignored and silenced victims, and those advocating for them, and in some cases participated in their abuse. So not exactly the arbiters of whether a rumour is “false” or not, and I acknowledge you felt that it was a false premise for the question to say they knew that it wasn’t true without an investigation.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 06/11/2025 02:14

CurlewKate · 05/11/2025 13:43

There seem to be two completely different discussions taking place on this thread.

Always the case when one of our resident sealions joins the thread.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 02:16

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 01:40

I’ve been called a racist before on here just for wanting to talk about this issue in isolation because it is the specific topic under discussion. I repeat that I don’t think this abuse is the only abuse that matters or that sexual assaults committed by white men are less important. I’ve both been raped by a white man and involved in a scary racist incident because the man I was dating was Asian. Unless you have good reason to think someone is a racist, I would maybe refrain from speculating about it, rather than jumping to that conclusion just because people are frustrated or disagree. It’s not helpful and it is a large part of why right wing parties are gaining ground.

I wouldn't call anyone a racist simply because they disagree. But if I think they're pushing a racist agenda, I will say so.

And I'm afraid I don't agree that people calling out racism is what's driving the support for Reform - I think it is being driven by a very real increase in actual racism, which I have never seen to be so bad. And yes, I'm probably more sensitive to it than most because I have had to witness the impact on my DH of being repeatedly being abused and threatened with terms like "p*ki paedo" simply because he happens to have brown skin. It doesn't make the slightest difference that he isn't Pakistani, he isn't Muslim and he most definitely isn't a paedophile, they just don't like his skin colour. These people don't give a shit about the safety of women and girls, they're just using it as a vehicle to express their hate.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 02:19

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 02:02

You appear to completely accept their explanation and think they suggested this scenario in good faith. That’s up to you. However, I take particular issue with this part of their statement:

We recognise that this question was not sufficiently clear. It should have made clear that senior leaders at the school knew the video was false because of their work with multi-agency safeguarding partners (including the police).

those “multi-agency safeguarding partners (including the police)” in many cases ignored and silenced victims, and those advocating for them, and in some cases participated in their abuse. So not exactly the arbiters of whether a rumour is “false” or not, and I acknowledge you felt that it was a false premise for the question to say they knew that it wasn’t true without an investigation.

I have no reason to believe that the scenario wasn't put forward in good faith, but I obviously can't be sure of that. I do agree with you about that bit of the statement.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 02:29

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 02:16

I wouldn't call anyone a racist simply because they disagree. But if I think they're pushing a racist agenda, I will say so.

And I'm afraid I don't agree that people calling out racism is what's driving the support for Reform - I think it is being driven by a very real increase in actual racism, which I have never seen to be so bad. And yes, I'm probably more sensitive to it than most because I have had to witness the impact on my DH of being repeatedly being abused and threatened with terms like "p*ki paedo" simply because he happens to have brown skin. It doesn't make the slightest difference that he isn't Pakistani, he isn't Muslim and he most definitely isn't a paedophile, they just don't like his skin colour. These people don't give a shit about the safety of women and girls, they're just using it as a vehicle to express their hate.

It’s not “people calling out racism”. I’m saying that you’re attributing racism where it doesn’t exist. And yes the alienation is driving the success of parties like Reform.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 02:30

I’m not denying that actual racism is on the increase.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/11/2025 02:37

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 02:29

It’s not “people calling out racism”. I’m saying that you’re attributing racism where it doesn’t exist. And yes the alienation is driving the success of parties like Reform.

What makes you think I'm attributing it where it doesn't exist?

My own view is that a lot of people deny it where it is very clearly in evidence.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/11/2025 02:42

Because as I said, you’re insinuating “motives” on this thread just because you were offended that a poster, closer to the grooming gangs issue than you are, which is worthy of some acknowledgment of this, said you want to protect rapists (I don’t agree with this conclusion) because you’re whatabouting (I agree with this accusation) She’s jumped to conclusions, just like you have.

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