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The Bluestocking, where the short days shorten and the oaks are brown

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MarieDeGournay · 11/10/2025 23:41

Welcome all, regulars and newcomers, to the Bluestocking Women's Pub, a place of refuge and inspiration and camaraderie and silliness, where all alcoholic drinks are non-intoxicating, cakes contain no gluten, sugar or calories, but still taste yummy, and the attentive staff are small but very professional rodents wearing snazzy little outfits.

Other roles - such as acting as foot stools, looking decorative in the garden, or just being impossibly cute when you need something impossibly cute to go awwww at - are filled by a team of miniature pigs, quokkas, wombats, etc etc.

If real life is difficult, you can bring your troubles to the Bluestocking and a comfy chair will be found for you at a roaring fire, a miniature pig will settle down happily to support your tired feet, and a gerbil will serve you promptly with a comforting drink - very large G&Ts or massive mugs of hot chocolate with extra cream and marshmallows are popular choices [don't forget: no calories in the BluestockingSmile].

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ErrolTheDragon · 18/10/2025 17:09

My nonconformists background with fairly ecumenical wider family gave me good exposure to hymns (add Isaac Watts to Wesley). The words and tunes were - perhaps more than any other genre of music? - designed to be singable by a congregation in unison or a choir in harmony or combination thereof.

MarieDeGournay · 18/10/2025 17:45

Britinme · 18/10/2025 14:43

@MarieDeGournay i feel somewhat similarly about TV programmes. Streaming and catch-up has meant that children now have an unbroken diet of cartoons and action. They never seem to have to watch anything like the news or fiction or nonfiction appropriate adult programmes. How does this stretch them in any way? Nothing wrong with Bluey or Paw Patrol, but as a sole diet it’s like only feeding your kids Fruit Loops for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

I think that too, I'm sure children would be just as entertained by age-appropriate documentary programmes about nature or how things are made or how children live in different countries or how to sign or ...
So they'd be learning things while being entertained = win-win, surely.
I suppose cartoons are cheap.

I wonder about the effect of the speed of cartoon images on children's attention span., and inability to follow a narrative - have any other lecturers or ex-lecturers noticed how easily young students are distracted? I used to feel like a cowboy in a rodeo wrestling to keep their minds on the subject under discussion for more than three minutes🙄

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FuzzyPuffling · 18/10/2025 17:58

When my children were small they absolutely adored my book of Beryl Cook paintings, and the photos in "Life in Earth".

EdithStourton · 18/10/2025 18:03

I'm hoping that Mrytle is an hour into her op.

As for hymns, I sang a great many at school and, like Marie, we had to learn the hard words at primary school. We also had to learn the King James version of Psalm 23 off by heart at about 10, and iirc the C of E confession too ('through accident, through weakness, through my own deliberate fault...)

FuzzyPuffling · 18/10/2025 18:15

We learnt the "Nunc Dimittis", aged 10, at my very ordinary state primary school.

And poems...Wordsworth, Masefield, Rosetti. I am so sad to think all these are lost to following generations.

FuzzyPuffling · 18/10/2025 18:15

I'd like to see our gerbils doing a poetry recitation.

Magpiecomplex · 18/10/2025 18:23

@MarieDeGournay I haven't been lecturing that long, in absolute terms, and due to the nature of what I teach, my students are overwhelmingly kinaesthetic learners. Short attention spans are definitely a problem, along with an inability to focus if working independently. I get told off for "working too hard" in lesson observations, but I get good results when teaching even the most boring subjects, so it works.

ChristmasStars · 18/10/2025 18:33

Mind if I join you? @FuzzyPuffling told me about this place. I'm a forager and a hymn singer if that helps 😊

MyrtleLion · 18/10/2025 18:35

Operation delayed to 6.30pm then delayed to 9pm then back to 6.30pm.

As you are all experts at telling the time, you can probably imagine how I'm feeling now.

FuzzyPuffling · 18/10/2025 18:36

ChristmasStars · 18/10/2025 18:33

Mind if I join you? @FuzzyPuffling told me about this place. I'm a forager and a hymn singer if that helps 😊

Hello @ChristmasStars. Lovely to see you in here. Pull up a comfy chair and there'll be a handy gerbil.along very soon with a drink of your choice.

Magpiecomplex · 18/10/2025 18:42

Hello @ChristmasStars! Can I call you Stars? I feel faintly uncomfortable talking about Christmas in October!

FuzzyPuffling · 18/10/2025 18:50

I've started having the " what's happening at Christmas?" discussions. I think it will be just DH and me on Christmas Day this year. Time to buy a posh ready meal!!!

MarieDeGournay · 18/10/2025 18:51

ChristmasStars · 18/10/2025 18:33

Mind if I join you? @FuzzyPuffling told me about this place. I'm a forager and a hymn singer if that helps 😊

Hello Stars - Is it OK of we hold off calling you ChristmasStars until December?Smile You're very welcome. The gerbils will bring you anything you need, and don't forget that the drinks are delicious but not alcoholic, the cakes are yummy but contain nothing problematic like calories or gluten or sugar...

What do you forage? And what hymns do you like singing?

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ErrolTheDragon · 18/10/2025 18:52

Welcome, Starry!

Small children like long words - Parasaurolophus, supercalifragilisticexpialidocious etc even if they can’t spell them.

MarieDeGournay · 18/10/2025 18:54

MyrtleLion · 18/10/2025 18:35

Operation delayed to 6.30pm then delayed to 9pm then back to 6.30pm.

As you are all experts at telling the time, you can probably imagine how I'm feeling now.

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Myrtle! Nooooooooooo!😩
Hoping it was just a bit of a delay not yet another re-scheduling..
💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

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ErrolTheDragon · 18/10/2025 18:55

I’m very much hoping not to hear from myrtle again till tomorrow or much later tonight.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 18/10/2025 19:06

ChristmasStars · 18/10/2025 18:33

Mind if I join you? @FuzzyPuffling told me about this place. I'm a forager and a hymn singer if that helps 😊

Ooh, & regal with it! Welcome.

The Bluestocking, where the short days shorten and the oaks are brown
FuzzyPuffling · 18/10/2025 19:07

You look well posh Stars

Swashbuckled · 18/10/2025 19:14

MyrtleLion · 18/10/2025 18:35

Operation delayed to 6.30pm then delayed to 9pm then back to 6.30pm.

As you are all experts at telling the time, you can probably imagine how I'm feeling now.

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Like this?

The Bluestocking, where the short days shorten and the oaks are brown
ifIwerenotanandroid · 18/10/2025 19:15

MyrtleLion · 18/10/2025 18:35

Operation delayed to 6.30pm then delayed to 9pm then back to 6.30pm.

As you are all experts at telling the time, you can probably imagine how I'm feeling now.

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Some of the serving gerbils wanted to send you a message, so here they are.

The Bluestocking, where the short days shorten and the oaks are brown
Swashbuckled · 18/10/2025 19:19

Hello Stars.
I’m keen to hear about your foraging skills too. In an ideal world, I’d like a foraging calendar showing something lovely to forage every month. (Am considering learning more about mushrooms, but there are risks. So, every month would have something apart from mushrooms.)
You may not be in a foraging mood, of course. So welcome anyway.

MarieDeGournay · 18/10/2025 19:29

Like this, in calendar form, Swash?
Essential Foraging Guide - Wild Food Month by Month - Woodland Trust
You should suggest it to them, I'd sure it would sell!

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AsWithGlad · 18/10/2025 19:32

MyrtleLion · 18/10/2025 18:35

Operation delayed to 6.30pm then delayed to 9pm then back to 6.30pm.

As you are all experts at telling the time, you can probably imagine how I'm feeling now.

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Myrtle: you posted at 6:35pm to say it was back to 6:30pm?

I hope it’s happening now . 🤞

Magpiecomplex · 18/10/2025 19:33

Swashbuckled · 18/10/2025 19:14

Like this?

😱

ChristmasStars · 18/10/2025 19:34

ifIwerenotanandroid · 18/10/2025 19:06

Ooh, & regal with it! Welcome.

I wanted to look smart for you all 😊

Thank you for the welcome. Stars or Starry will do just fine until Dec 1st.

We have also begun talking about Christmas - probably just us two and the teens for the first time ever gulp.

Sorry to hear about your delayed op @MyrtleLion and the loss of your friend @MarieDeGournay - I lost one of my besties a couple of years ago. There was a cracking quote in the last Thursday Murder Club book. "When old friends die you're furious because you've never quite finished what you were saying to them"

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