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Faith school where women are banned from wearing trousers becomes state funded

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ArabellaSaurus · 27/09/2025 22:37

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/09/faith-school-which-bans-women-wearing-trousers-becomes-state-funded

'The National Secular Society has expressed alarm that a London faith school which bans women from wearing trousers and penalises families who attend non-kosher restaurants will now be funded by the state.
Nancy Reuben Primary School re-opened as a voluntary aided (VA) state school this month, after operating as an independent school for 26 years. Its decision to join the state sector follows the Government's move to charge VAT on independent school fees.'

'Women may not wear trousers, mini skirts, shorts, low necklines or sleeveless tops
The school's dress code for parents and visitors says men "must have their head covered at all times" and women "must wear skirts of knee length (a maximum of 2" above is acceptable)". It says trousers "may not be worn" by women.
Additionally, women must cover their underarms and may not wear cap sleeves. Women may not wear clothes with necklines lower than "4 fingers from the collar bone" either "in front or back of the garment".
Trousers are permitted for aupairs and nannies but they may not wear mini skirts, shorts, plunging necklines or sleeveless tops.'

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Jujujudo · 29/09/2025 15:40

CurlewKate · 29/09/2025 15:35

If people want specific accommodations that can’t be fitted into a normal school day/year then you set up a private school.

Right. But then we get to the argument that overwhelmingly, very religious Jews/Muslims tend to not be wealthy. I don’t know where I stand on this!

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 15:47

NoYAgenda · 29/09/2025 07:48

Why should we respect Muslim rules in Britain?

They should respect our rules.

We let ALL faith schools, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, set their own rules.

The question is whether we should

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 15:48

LoftyRobin · 29/09/2025 11:48

Well most Jewish people indeed identify as white as I have shown by data and we know that people who appear white get preferential treatment (do I need to post stats on racism here too?!) until they are known not to be white and/or Christian.

Regardless, I am not going to argue with anyone who has fully European heritage and sees themselves as white.

A lot of the time they may be identifiable as Jewish though, esp if they are Orthodox and wear traditional dress.

TheignT · 29/09/2025 15:53

LoftyRobin · 29/09/2025 08:56

No no, we work with an ultra orthodox community. They dont even push buggies on Shabbos. But it is clear that where health is an issue, you can break the rules of Shabbos. However, you dont usually need to do that by driving yourself due to firm links with local taxi companies. We have some numbers behind the desk in the wards in case people don't have them.

Getting home with your new baby would be counted as a health issue if there was seriously no other way you could take them home without driving. Most would liase with their rabbi first but as I said, it isnt necessary due to links with taxi firms and it is accepted this is how you leave the hospital on Shabbos. Staying longer than you need to is actually also wrong because you can be at more risk of infection etc by staying longer than you need to. So to balance the sanctity of life vs not performing labour on Shabbos, a taxi is seen as the most reasonable compromise.

We work very, very closely with hasidic communities to meet their needs.

You can't speak for all Jews, it would be a bit like saying you don't believe what Louis Theroux says about the Westboro Baptists because you know some Anglicans who aren't like that. I think my Jewish friend knows what the rules are in her Synagogue and she wouldn't get in a car on Shabbos even if it was driven by a non Jew.

Shortshriftandlethal · 29/09/2025 19:41

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 15:47

We let ALL faith schools, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, set their own rules.

The question is whether we should

I think in a multi-cultural society in which belief or faith is a protected characteristic you have to permit faith schools...so long as they have regulatory over-sight so as to ensure they are complying with necessary safeguards, instructions and national curriculums.

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 19:42

25milesfromhome · 29/09/2025 11:48

Do they know how you really feel about "them" though? Much better to save that for an anonymous internet forum.

And repeatedly spouting reductive opinions like Most Jewish people do identify as white, even when they could choose something other than white. That is proven by statistics to back up your own tropey prejudices about "white Jews" receiving special treatment belies a more complex reality in a country where the majority Jewish population is Ashkenazi. From the 2021 Census:

5.Reported ethnic groups and religions
Jewish ethnic group write-ins
People who identified as Jewish through ethnic group only were most likely to provide a write-in response under the high-level "White" group (54.9%). This was followed by the "Any other ethnic group" (33.6%). Just over one-tenth (10.5%) provided a write-in under "Mixed or Multiple ethnic groups". Lastly, 0.9% provided a write-in under "Black, Black British, Black Welsh, Caribbean or African: African".
Considering people who identified as Jewish through both religion and ethnic group, 49.6% provided a write-in under "Any other ethnic group" and 48.5% under the high-level "White" group.

Reported ethnic group for people who identified as Jewish through religion only
People who identified as Jewish through religion only were most likely to identify their ethnic group using the "White: English, Welsh, Scottish, Northern Irish or British" tick-box (82.9%). Just over one-tenth (10.9%) provided a write-in response under "Any other White background".

If there was a specific "Jewish" tick box for ethnicity included on forms- which there mostly isn't- I wonder if the statistics would look quite different.

Edited

Yes. There is also a small amount of Jews who are black as well, not to mention mixed-race Jews.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.heyalma.com/black-jews-are-not-a-monolith/&ved=2ahUKEwj-opb3z_6PAxVUW0EAHf09McIQFnoECB8QAQ&usg=AOvVaw2MOMUI2Ma1rEXx6PMuj5fH

https://www.google.com/url?opi=89978449&rct=j&sa=t&source=web&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.heyalma.com%2Fblack-jews-are-not-a-monolith%2F&usg=AOvVaw2MOMUI2Ma1rEXx6PMuj5fH&ved=2ahUKEwj-opb3z_6PAxVUW0EAHf09McIQFnoECB8QAQ

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 19:49

LoftyRobin · 29/09/2025 11:48

Well most Jewish people indeed identify as white as I have shown by data and we know that people who appear white get preferential treatment (do I need to post stats on racism here too?!) until they are known not to be white and/or Christian.

Regardless, I am not going to argue with anyone who has fully European heritage and sees themselves as white.

All ethnic Jews DO have Middle Eastern heritage, they are distinct from other Europeans. Similarly, Romany gypsies have identifiable descent from ancient India. It is disingenuous to disregard this and also to claim that this ethnic difference hasn't led to discrimination.

stomachamelon · 29/09/2025 20:20

That comment told me all I need to know about motivation. The whole ‘ all Jews are European’ anyway.

They walk among us or even worse, deliver our children.

BonfireLady · 29/09/2025 22:26

This thread has certainly taken some interesting twists and turns.

Regarding hospitals, if someone needs to be discharged on medical grounds on a Friday evening or on a Saturday, I can't imagine religious preference would be taken into consideration so that they stayed in until the Sunday - hospitals are not religious institutions and will make decisions based on medical reasoning. Yes, patients can refuse care for medical reasons (e.g. a Jehovah's Witness might refuse a blood transfusion even if it means death is likely) but the law doesn't allow people to challenge a hospital's decision on discharge and stay in longer than they need to medically, unless it is clear that they would be unsafe if discharged. It's not antisemitic to state or even support this.

It feels like we've wandered down quite a derail from the OP, but equally the point remains the same: no public institution should enforce religious restrictions that impact someone's decisions. If the school was challenged on its policy, I would expect it to lose in a court for breach of the Equality Act and the protected characteristic to not hold a belief. (Equally, I wouldn't expect it to be challenged if everyone who attends it does so because they share the same religious values as the school).

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:25

TheignT · 29/09/2025 15:53

You can't speak for all Jews, it would be a bit like saying you don't believe what Louis Theroux says about the Westboro Baptists because you know some Anglicans who aren't like that. I think my Jewish friend knows what the rules are in her Synagogue and she wouldn't get in a car on Shabbos even if it was driven by a non Jew.

Then she would perhaps break other rules around preserving health by refusing.

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:26

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 15:48

A lot of the time they may be identifiable as Jewish though, esp if they are Orthodox and wear traditional dress.

Yes but if that person identifies as white and has European ancestors, who are you or me to argue that they aren't white?

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:27

MusettasWaltz · 29/09/2025 19:47

Ugh, that link doesn't work anymore. I'll link this one instead.

https://www.heyalma.com/you-should-know-these-black-jews-who-made-history/

Some examples are converts, others mixed-race. It should be remembered that any non-Jew can convert to Judaism, it is a religion based around an ethnic group & doesn't proselytise but it DOES accept committed converts.

Plus there is the ancient Beta Israel community of Ethiopians who have always practised Judaism.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beta_Israel&ved=2ahUKEwj4k5X40P6PAxWnUkEAHf2HEXoQFnoECCIQAQ&usg=AOvVaw2k2XBktOqBxMls-sOCnCjO

We all know there are Jewish people of everyone creed and colour. We also know that the majority of Jewish people identify as white.

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:29

BonfireLady · 29/09/2025 22:26

This thread has certainly taken some interesting twists and turns.

Regarding hospitals, if someone needs to be discharged on medical grounds on a Friday evening or on a Saturday, I can't imagine religious preference would be taken into consideration so that they stayed in until the Sunday - hospitals are not religious institutions and will make decisions based on medical reasoning. Yes, patients can refuse care for medical reasons (e.g. a Jehovah's Witness might refuse a blood transfusion even if it means death is likely) but the law doesn't allow people to challenge a hospital's decision on discharge and stay in longer than they need to medically, unless it is clear that they would be unsafe if discharged. It's not antisemitic to state or even support this.

It feels like we've wandered down quite a derail from the OP, but equally the point remains the same: no public institution should enforce religious restrictions that impact someone's decisions. If the school was challenged on its policy, I would expect it to lose in a court for breach of the Equality Act and the protected characteristic to not hold a belief. (Equally, I wouldn't expect it to be challenged if everyone who attends it does so because they share the same religious values as the school).

https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/6529598/jewish/What-You-Need-to-Know-About-Shabbat-in-the-Hospital.htm

Discharged on Shabbat
Thank G‑d, things are on the mend and the patient has been discharged from the hospital. One problem, it's still Shabbat!
If possible, arrange for the patient to remain in the hospital until the end of Shabbat (hospitals are often willing to accommodate). If staying in the hospital is very difficult or there is a great need to return home on Shabbat, the patient may be transported home by a non-Jew.

TheignT · 30/09/2025 07:34

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:25

Then she would perhaps break other rules around preserving health by refusing.

She believes you can in an emergency, mother and baby fit for discharge from hospital wouldn't qualify. As an example I was due to be discharged from maternity ward on a Saturday, Sister came over and said I couldn't be discharged papers hadn't been signed although she admitted doctor had said I was fit for discharge. . I said I was going anyway. Was she risking mine or babies lives? I don't think so. As I said Jewish people and congregations can interpret laws differently. You can't actually tell them what they believe.

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:46

Shortshriftandlethal · 29/09/2025 15:05

I'd say most Jewish people identify as Jewish...but there usually isn't an appropriate box to tick. It is others who are choosing, for whatever reason, to classify Jewish people as white - usually for political reasons, or from an incomplete set of assumptions about 'identity' and an essential misunderstanding of Jewish culture and the Jewish diaspora,

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People who identified as Jewish through religion only were most likely to identify their ethnic group using the "White: English, Welsh, Scottish, Northern Irish or British" tick-box (82.9%).

You can write in any response you want. You have multiple boxes to choose from. Most Jewish people choose to identify as white. This isnt new or any revelation. You can write under "other ethnicity group" so you don't even have to write under white other.

Most Jewish people self identify as white. Data consistently shows that to be the case. I am not sure why anyone is arguing with this.

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:48

TheignT · 30/09/2025 07:34

She believes you can in an emergency, mother and baby fit for discharge from hospital wouldn't qualify. As an example I was due to be discharged from maternity ward on a Saturday, Sister came over and said I couldn't be discharged papers hadn't been signed although she admitted doctor had said I was fit for discharge. . I said I was going anyway. Was she risking mine or babies lives? I don't think so. As I said Jewish people and congregations can interpret laws differently. You can't actually tell them what they believe.

No but the Talmud can. Refusing to be in a car for Shabbos in an emergency would be risking life.

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/09/2025 07:52

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:46

People who identified as Jewish through religion only were most likely to identify their ethnic group using the "White: English, Welsh, Scottish, Northern Irish or British" tick-box (82.9%).

You can write in any response you want. You have multiple boxes to choose from. Most Jewish people choose to identify as white. This isnt new or any revelation. You can write under "other ethnicity group" so you don't even have to write under white other.

Most Jewish people self identify as white. Data consistently shows that to be the case. I am not sure why anyone is arguing with this.

You have missed the point entirely, that people are having to frame their identity via the pre-constructed/conceived set of options available to them, and not as they actually do identify. For someone who thinks other people's categories and boxes don't matter when it comes to the issue of gender identitity - you must surely understand this point?

Anyway, why are you trying to hammer this point about 'whiteness' anyway; what is your purpose?

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/09/2025 07:55

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:27

We all know there are Jewish people of everyone creed and colour. We also know that the majority of Jewish people identify as white.

What would you say 'whiteness' as' an identity' means? Do you think it has meaning for people; for all people; for some people;...or what?

MusettasWaltz · 30/09/2025 07:55

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:26

Yes but if that person identifies as white and has European ancestors, who are you or me to argue that they aren't white?

Jewish people (unless converts) are definably a distinct ethnic group. Someone may identify as white for restrictive forms but I doubt they would deny their ethnic difference.

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/09/2025 07:57

The whole busines of 'identity' has twisted and distorted everything. I'm imagining the original purpose of these tick box categories was to monitor practices such as DEI?

What does' identifying with' one's skin tone actually mean - once it is shorn of its itersectionalist implications of privilege and oppression?

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:59

stomachamelon · 29/09/2025 11:54

@LoftyRobinmost things you have said though are your opinion. A group of people who you seem to chose to work with or they ‘seek you out’ seem to bother you that much that you have come onto a thread about schooling to state they get preferential treatment and you consider their practices ‘full on’ when it’s a choice to send your children there (knowing what they will ask of you) I think it’s respectful if you are choosing to visit there for whatever reason.

it’s also- personally- the way you have chosen to say and frame things. If I knew someone has strong set religious beliefs would I complain when they were allowed to leave to adhere to those beliefs. Have you raised the fact you disagree? Nope. They aren’t flights of fancy they are things they have done their whole lives. And yet you seem to have written repeatedly why these things bother you- like the ‘white’ thing. It does smack of prejudice.

I am not the only one who has noticed it either. So what does that tell you? Is it the fact you think Muslims get a harder ride on this?

I do think people are much more tolerant of how we provide holistic and individualised care to the Haredi community than literally any other group of people. And we really do a lot.

If we were making non-Muslim women wait for discharge so we could get the Muslim women out by Jummah, there would be far more outrage. Especially by those kept waiting.

Training and working in a hospital with a Haredi community, you get used to it and it becomes a norm. It is when new staff join and see what is going on that they point out that we are actually compromising the quality of care of other service users. Instead of helping a mum with breastfeeding, I am busy trying to discharge someone who wants to be home before sunset so I am rushing the pharmacy for their medication and on the phone chasing paediatricians to discharge the baby when really we should just wait for when the pharmacy and paediatrician can get here.

And this was the case before we had all the funding issues. Before we even had the coalition this was going on..it's just now we have even less scope to try and help each other as the staff just aren't there.

TheignT · 30/09/2025 08:01

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 07:48

No but the Talmud can. Refusing to be in a car for Shabbos in an emergency would be risking life.

I already said she would in an emergency but a healthy mother and baby in a hospital is not an emergency. Or is your hospital so bad that it's a risk to life? If so should babies be delivered there?

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 08:02

MusettasWaltz · 30/09/2025 07:55

Jewish people (unless converts) are definably a distinct ethnic group. Someone may identify as white for restrictive forms but I doubt they would deny their ethnic difference.

Many of the forms allow you to write whatever you want for ethnicity. There isn't a restriction. They see white and think "that's me". As a mixed race individual, I've been ticking other since I could fill out a form at 7 because back then where they only had Black, white, other or Asian, I knew I was an Other because I am not (fully) Black, White or Asian.

TheignT · 30/09/2025 08:04

LoftyRobin · 30/09/2025 08:02

Many of the forms allow you to write whatever you want for ethnicity. There isn't a restriction. They see white and think "that's me". As a mixed race individual, I've been ticking other since I could fill out a form at 7 because back then where they only had Black, white, other or Asian, I knew I was an Other because I am not (fully) Black, White or Asian.

It can be confusing, I'm dual nationality British and Irish. More and more they are shown as two options, for me it was easier to just tick white.

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