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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Gender critical viewpoint as explained by a bloke

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FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 06:08

Morning all,

Was browsing reddit last night whilst sitting around on the evening shift. Ended up going down a bit of a rabbithole and reading some discussions on AskTransgender as was curious to see what the response to the recent supreme court ruling was.

Ended up reading a thread asking why so many cis women are 'not accepting of trans women' and one of the first responses I read was the below, which appeared to be written by a man. I'm still getting my head around the various arguments as tbh I've not really given much thought to the whole discussion the past few years - I don't think I've ever actually seen a trans person in real life aside from a few non binary looking schoolgirls who could also have been lesbians, and I work in the construction sector where all this woke stuff is pretty non existent.

Curious to see if people agree with the below. Sounds pretty logical to me and quite surprised it hasn't caused an epic shitstorm on there tbf lol.

Some people are just bigoted no doubt, but I think it's reductive to suggest it's all down to transphobia. I think more often it's a fundamental disagreement on a few key aspects.

Typically, the discussion focuses on trans identity and the refusal of gender critical women to accept said identity. However, I think in some cases the resistance might actually stem from the GC women feeling that their own identity is being challenged.

For example, if you've been accepted as 'a woman' all your life and somebody you perceive as male suddenly tells you that they're a women now and you're a cis woman some people aren't going to like that. Perhaps even less if that person is younger than them or of a demographic that would've been considered male in traditional societies.

That would perhaps explain why a lot of GC women tend to be middle aged - they've had years of being a woman and then suddenly a 20 year old 'male' (in their eyes) tells them he's a woman and biological women are now just a sub category of womanhood. Whether or not the GC woman is justified in feeling this way, some will no doubt argue that it's like telling a pre-op trans woman that she's now going to be called a 'pre-trans' rather than just a 'trans woman'.

Another common theme seems to be women's safety. I'm not going to try and define biological sex as there is much disagreement on what constitutes it. However, we know for a fact that 98% of recorded sex crimes are committed by individuals with a penis. This seems to be a big part of GC women's resistance to being alone in a state of undress with individuals that have penises, or facilitating a situation where said individuals could be around their daughters unsupervised whilst both are unclothed. Same for women who are rape survivors and experience trauma responses when alone with unfamiliar males, especially when naked and feeling vulnerable, or women that can't be naked with 'male bodied' people for religious reasons.

This isn't strictly about trans women from what I've read. The argument seems to be that we don't want to normalise the situation where a male paedophile can just claim to be a woman and follow the girls swimming team into the changing rooms. Many would say this is the entire reason we have sex segregated facilties in the first place and the reason behind the recent Supreme Court judgement.

Unfortunately, there have been a few high profile cases where some pretty vile sex offenders (e.g. Barbie Kardashian) have transitioned and been sent to women's prisons, which has fuelled the flames. Many people would argue that a male sex offender shouldn't be able to get sent to an institution full of vulnerable women just by claiming to be a woman shortly before the sentencing date, which appears to be what happened.

These aren't necessarily my own views. I'm just explaining what I understand to be the common GC arguments as somebody who has tried to understand both sides of the debate.

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FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:11

I think some of the posts on that thread would enrage some people on here!

"How can they complain about changing with us but expect us to get changed with men?".

"Who's more at risk? Ten cis women changing with one transwoman. Or one transwoman changing with ten men?"

"The transwoman is still the person at greatest risk even in the ladies".

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Lafufufu · 16/08/2025 07:12

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:06

I understood the bit about challenging their identity to mean that a lot of women don't take well to being told they're now a cis woman. A subset of women. Basically being reclassified. I may not be right though but I didn't take it as meaning they don't like being forced to reflect on their identity.

Ah I think you are right!!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Still interesting as I now have some insight (i think) into why they believe this claptrap.

yetanotherusernameAgain · 16/08/2025 07:13

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 06:38

It read to me that the poster was perhaps being a bit coy by playing the "well some people would say....". Getting the points across without anybody being able to accuse them of being a transphobe.

Exactly. I don't think the writer was necessarily a man, or even trans. But they're good at trying to write a non-inflammatory post. Will be interesting to see the responses.

One thing I think they missed was the issue of gender identity and the presumption by TRAs that everyone has one - as if everyone has two identities: a sex identity and a gender identity. Whereas many women don't have a gender identity - they feel like a person who happens to be in a female body, and gender is other people's reactions to you being in a female body.

For me that's why being labelled Cis is inaccurate - the presumption that I have two identities, which I don't. I can accept that some people feel they have two and are happy to use the term Cis for themselves - that's fine for them. But understand that some people do not, and feel that this presumption has been imposed upon them.

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:15

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 16/08/2025 07:08

If it's a menz explaining it, maybe they'll listen, you know how they like to do what the menz tells them to.

I think in some cases the resistance might actually stem from the GC women feeling that their own identity is being challenged.

As noted on a previous post, I don't agree with this, I think the problem is GC women don't have any issues with their 'identity'. I don't see that I have one, I don't see why I need one and I don't see why everyone in the world has suddenly become obsessed with having one. Why waste so much effort on something that is completely made up and totally meaningless.

I don't really like being called a cis woman though tbh.

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FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:16

yetanotherusernameAgain · 16/08/2025 07:13

Exactly. I don't think the writer was necessarily a man, or even trans. But they're good at trying to write a non-inflammatory post. Will be interesting to see the responses.

One thing I think they missed was the issue of gender identity and the presumption by TRAs that everyone has one - as if everyone has two identities: a sex identity and a gender identity. Whereas many women don't have a gender identity - they feel like a person who happens to be in a female body, and gender is other people's reactions to you being in a female body.

For me that's why being labelled Cis is inaccurate - the presumption that I have two identities, which I don't. I can accept that some people feel they have two and are happy to use the term Cis for themselves - that's fine for them. But understand that some people do not, and feel that this presumption has been imposed upon them.

It didn't even cross my mind that it might not actually be a bloke. Probs a good way to not be accused of being a terf though.

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FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:18

And ftr it's not a reverse or whatever it's called. I'm not the poster from reddit.

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Lafufufu · 16/08/2025 07:19

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:15

I don't really like being called a cis woman though tbh.

This is another thing I dont get...

It's hateful / wrong / bullying/ disrespectful/ whatever if I accidentally call a biological woman "She" when they have decided they are a "they"....
Okay fine ...

But I am supposed to "shut up" and am "wrong" (this has happened to me!) when I object to the term ciswoman which i dont recognise or subscribe to..

Why am I not afforded the same courtesies they expect?

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:23

Lafufufu · 16/08/2025 07:12

Ah I think you are right!!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Still interesting as I now have some insight (i think) into why they believe this claptrap.

I'm actually a bit shocked at some of the arguments I've read on there. I've read a fair few discussions on here but never really explored the trans side. I thought it was all about feelings but there's a lot of dodgy pseudo science about biological sex not being real or being a spectrum. People think you can change biological sex as they believe the majority of things aside from your dna can be changed. Also that a transwoman stops being a man even if they're not the same as a cis woman.

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DeanElderberry · 16/08/2025 07:27

AIsplaining just like mansplaining shock.
I don't think that was written by a human person.

Mr Menno does a better job of being a GC bloke.

GarlicLitre · 16/08/2025 07:28

I actually do have a strong, visceral feeling that my own identity is being challenged by genderism. It started the day Stonewall put up those "Trans Women Are Women" projections on London buildings. What I am is a woman. It's the name for a female human, no more or less than mare is the name for a female horse. If you insist a male human can be a woman, you're neutering the name of my sex and leaving me undefined as a female member of the species.

I'm very indifferent to the Young People's fascination with their 'identities' and woman is not an identity to me in that sense. But my sex is obviously a big factor in who/what I am, how my body works and my interactions with society so, yes, I do feel genderists have stolen something very important from us.

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:28

Lafufufu · 16/08/2025 07:19

This is another thing I dont get...

It's hateful / wrong / bullying/ disrespectful/ whatever if I accidentally call a biological woman "She" when they have decided they are a "they"....
Okay fine ...

But I am supposed to "shut up" and am "wrong" (this has happened to me!) when I object to the term ciswoman which i dont recognise or subscribe to..

Why am I not afforded the same courtesies they expect?

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I don't really understand the 'transwomen are women' thing. Because what used to be a woman is now supposedly a cis woman. So it's just a play on words. It seems like saying a cat is an animal that goes woof, so Fido is now a cat. But he's still exactly the same animal he was before.

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 16/08/2025 07:29

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 06:08

Morning all,

Was browsing reddit last night whilst sitting around on the evening shift. Ended up going down a bit of a rabbithole and reading some discussions on AskTransgender as was curious to see what the response to the recent supreme court ruling was.

Ended up reading a thread asking why so many cis women are 'not accepting of trans women' and one of the first responses I read was the below, which appeared to be written by a man. I'm still getting my head around the various arguments as tbh I've not really given much thought to the whole discussion the past few years - I don't think I've ever actually seen a trans person in real life aside from a few non binary looking schoolgirls who could also have been lesbians, and I work in the construction sector where all this woke stuff is pretty non existent.

Curious to see if people agree with the below. Sounds pretty logical to me and quite surprised it hasn't caused an epic shitstorm on there tbf lol.

Some people are just bigoted no doubt, but I think it's reductive to suggest it's all down to transphobia. I think more often it's a fundamental disagreement on a few key aspects.

Typically, the discussion focuses on trans identity and the refusal of gender critical women to accept said identity. However, I think in some cases the resistance might actually stem from the GC women feeling that their own identity is being challenged.

For example, if you've been accepted as 'a woman' all your life and somebody you perceive as male suddenly tells you that they're a women now and you're a cis woman some people aren't going to like that. Perhaps even less if that person is younger than them or of a demographic that would've been considered male in traditional societies.

That would perhaps explain why a lot of GC women tend to be middle aged - they've had years of being a woman and then suddenly a 20 year old 'male' (in their eyes) tells them he's a woman and biological women are now just a sub category of womanhood. Whether or not the GC woman is justified in feeling this way, some will no doubt argue that it's like telling a pre-op trans woman that she's now going to be called a 'pre-trans' rather than just a 'trans woman'.

Another common theme seems to be women's safety. I'm not going to try and define biological sex as there is much disagreement on what constitutes it. However, we know for a fact that 98% of recorded sex crimes are committed by individuals with a penis. This seems to be a big part of GC women's resistance to being alone in a state of undress with individuals that have penises, or facilitating a situation where said individuals could be around their daughters unsupervised whilst both are unclothed. Same for women who are rape survivors and experience trauma responses when alone with unfamiliar males, especially when naked and feeling vulnerable, or women that can't be naked with 'male bodied' people for religious reasons.

This isn't strictly about trans women from what I've read. The argument seems to be that we don't want to normalise the situation where a male paedophile can just claim to be a woman and follow the girls swimming team into the changing rooms. Many would say this is the entire reason we have sex segregated facilties in the first place and the reason behind the recent Supreme Court judgement.

Unfortunately, there have been a few high profile cases where some pretty vile sex offenders (e.g. Barbie Kardashian) have transitioned and been sent to women's prisons, which has fuelled the flames. Many people would argue that a male sex offender shouldn't be able to get sent to an institution full of vulnerable women just by claiming to be a woman shortly before the sentencing date, which appears to be what happened.

These aren't necessarily my own views. I'm just explaining what I understand to be the common GC arguments as somebody who has tried to understand both sides of the debate.

What are ‘non binary looking schoolgirls’?

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:34

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 16/08/2025 07:29

What are ‘non binary looking schoolgirls’?

A look I would maybe describe as androgynous. Usually a gender neutral haircut.

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DinoLil · 16/08/2025 07:36

I've never seen a trans woman. Men in frocks and kitten heels, yes.

gruebleen · 16/08/2025 07:37

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:28

I don't really understand the 'transwomen are women' thing. Because what used to be a woman is now supposedly a cis woman. So it's just a play on words. It seems like saying a cat is an animal that goes woof, so Fido is now a cat. But he's still exactly the same animal he was before.

It would just be a linguistic game if the words weren't used anywhere else. But there are women's changing rooms and women's scholarships and women-only shortlists and so on. So embracing TWAW has very real effects.

DeanElderberry · 16/08/2025 07:38

I know my legal protections have been stolen by genderism. And that no future statistics can be collected on, for example, women's representation, women's pay and working condititions, women's health, women's safety, women's experience of the education system etc etc etc because women don't exist any more.

That is nothing to do with identity, that is the stark fact of the effect of self ID.

Because women are a sex class, and we don't have sex any more, we only have gender, and a person can be any gender they fancy.

Conversensational · 16/08/2025 07:38

I don't "refuse" trans or non binary identity. I understand that some people find it comforting to think of themselves in a certain way. I do find it sad that young girls don't have enough positive role models that they aren't proud of being female and I find it tiresome that they aren't getting on with things and spend so much time naval gazing. I don't agree that their identity trumps the safety of women and girls. But I don't "refuse" their identity outright.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 16/08/2025 07:39

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:34

A look I would maybe describe as androgynous. Usually a gender neutral haircut.

I’m genuinely not trying to be goady but isn’t that just a girl with a haircut, why would it make them ‘non binary looking’, because there isn’t a definition of non binary as it means nothing?

FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:46

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 16/08/2025 07:39

I’m genuinely not trying to be goady but isn’t that just a girl with a haircut, why would it make them ‘non binary looking’, because there isn’t a definition of non binary as it means nothing?

I'll try and find a picture. Of course some people just have a certain haircut that looks a certain way, but there are defo haircuts that project a certain intended image. Like when men get the 'wellend' Paul Weller type haircut. 99% of them like the northern music scene.

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FrontEndLoader · 16/08/2025 07:48

Wrongly or rightly these kind of looks would make me think the person is possibly making a statement.

Gender critical viewpoint as explained by a bloke
Gender critical viewpoint as explained by a bloke
Gender critical viewpoint as explained by a bloke
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Notsandwiches · 16/08/2025 07:49

I think the age thing is that older women haven't been brain washed, can see the wood for the trees and are less likely to "be kind" just to keep the peace. I also think that if you were a legit trans woman you would not want to have a penis, that thing would give you dysphoria every time you saw it- hence the rebranding if women can have a penis.

For me, you need to go back and ask the question (and he has) - why was it perceived necessary to create separate spaces for women? The answer is why trans women and self id and "women can have a penis" is a problem. If one set of people with a penis are ok to have access, there is no reason to deny the other men access.
He gets a lot if it.

myplace · 16/08/2025 07:51

To me it reads like a carefully worded attempt to lead people with extreme views a little closer to common sense. It’s trying to describe ‘reality’ in terms that are less offensive to genderists than ‘don’t be ridiculous you muppet’.

And it attempts to ignite empathy towards middle-aged women in a somewhat patronising way, ‘Poor dears, they’re just a bit upset because someone has sat in the seat they’ve sat in for decades, and claimed it’s theirs now- you can kind of see why they’d get salty about it!’.

It’s a good effort at making GC sound less unpalatable to genderists, but only the ones with inner empathy and a desire to understand will get it. The others already know and choose not to accept.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 16/08/2025 07:54

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 16/08/2025 07:08

If it's a menz explaining it, maybe they'll listen, you know how they like to do what the menz tells them to.

I think in some cases the resistance might actually stem from the GC women feeling that their own identity is being challenged.

As noted on a previous post, I don't agree with this, I think the problem is GC women don't have any issues with their 'identity'. I don't see that I have one, I don't see why I need one and I don't see why everyone in the world has suddenly become obsessed with having one. Why waste so much effort on something that is completely made up and totally meaningless.

Totally agree with your thoughts about "identity". It's stupid navel gazing nonsense, and why anyone thinks it's more important than the material verifiable reality of biological sex js beyond me.

yetanotherusernameAgain · 16/08/2025 07:55

DinoLil · 16/08/2025 07:36

I've never seen a trans woman. Men in frocks and kitten heels, yes.

And your point is?

I've seen "women" who I thought were transwomen. And I think I've developed an eye for recognising some transmen. This is just on public transport, so I never find out for certain.

And I once saw someone who I literally couldn't tell if they were male or female. Young, short hair, wearing a smart masculine-looking trouser suit and shoes. But facially they were right on the border of slightly feminine-looking man or androgenous-looking woman. I really couldn't tell. It was fascinating.

Edited to add: they weren't tall, which added to the feeling that they might have been a woman dressed in a masculine way.

DeanElderberry · 16/08/2025 07:57

The shaved sides of the head are a bit statementy, but as far as I can see the woman with the cat T-shirt has what would have been a perfectly normal woman's haircut any time in the last century. Lots of us looked like that at school, and now that we're old, lots of us still look like a greyer version.

Long hair must feel grim in this weather.