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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

I saw this by chance

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agestagerage · 14/06/2025 11:28

https://weareluna.app/questions/periods-and-hormones/hi-my-school-has-an-open-room-toilet-that-you-jus/

I was looking at an app for teens for my DS and stumbled on this anonymous question.

I’m not sure the answer is fair, any thoughts?

Hi, my school has an open room toilet that you just walk in to and it has no door and we have to share it with the boys. There is a few cubicles for girls and a few for boys but this makes me feel really uncomfortable because if I want to change my pad...

Heyy – there’s absolutely no shame in having your period and changing your products in the bathroom 🙅‍♀️ so don’t worry about the rustling sound that comes with opening a tampon or a pad ✨ However, i...

https://weareluna.app/questions/periods-and-hormones/hi-my-school-has-an-open-room-toilet-that-you-jus/

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Keeptoiletssafe · 14/06/2025 14:34

In the latest School design brief from the DfE (2023) there’s now a private toilet ‘to be identified’ as gender-neutral on each floor.

I can’t find any assessments for that either but I can find an American source for recommending that system. This quote sums it up (from a pupil who wants to use this set up at her American school): ‘I consider everything in the third floor bathroom a biohazard. Almost every time I make the mistake of going in, I leave trying to purge my mind of the horrors I just witnessed. Whether it is people having sex, poop smeared on the walls, or the toilet being clogged with an entire roll of toilet paper, horrible things have happened in that bathroom.’

Brainworm · 15/06/2025 06:04

I have yet to work with a school where the introduction of unisex loos has been welcome by the pupils. All have had complaints from parents and pupils and all have responded by making changes in response to this feedback.

What skews my sample is that the type of school that buys in my services are they type of school that is open to, and interested in, understanding pupils and meeting their needs. I encounter activist mentalities that are not evidence-based, but the leadership teams have not been ideologically entrenched. None have insisted on keeping the all gender-neutral set up.

Recently, and beyond the loo issue, there has been a notable shift in student appetite to advocate for trans pupils. Between 2018 and 2023, there was a steady rise in key stage 4 and 5 pupils considering themselves far more enlightened than ‘out of touch’ staff and using trans rights to exemplify this. Since the start of 2024, social media has been pumping out content ridiculing identitarianism and pupils now tend to eye roll if a pupil ‘bangs on about’ any kind of identity. We are back to staff being the flag bearers for tran rights.

Throughout the rise and fall, provision of all unisex loos were never popular amongst pupils, even in the schools where pupils used trans-rights as a mechanism for feeling enlightened and better informed than staff.

Canthelpmyselffromjoiningin · 15/06/2025 06:41

This is so sad. Im in my early 40s and can still remember the cringing embarrassment of being on a period at school. Even in all girls toilets, if anyone realised someone was changing a pad, it was pointed out and everyone laughed. How much worse in a mixed sex facility without all the other safety issues raised by PP

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