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Quakers in Britain think this is radical

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princessleah1 · 20/05/2025 19:46

https://www.quaker.org.uk/documents/statement-of-policy-on-provision-of-trans-inclusive-facilities-bym

This is the Quaker response to the Supreme Court judgement. It's the usual flim flam about respecting people's rights...unless those people happen to be women

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Shortshriftandlethal · 21/05/2025 12:10

TinaBarrow · 20/05/2025 19:57

What an absolute disgrace. As an ex-Quaker I look at this and mourn that the historic witness to the humanity of women has been erased by ignorant (salaried) pseudo-activists within the Quaker movement. This is a group with a long history of witness to Truth supporting the lie that men can be women. Really. More than anything This speaks to me of how very middle class the Quaker community is and how afraid they are of alienating the starkly privileged younger generation that is their only hope of a future survival.

The Quakers are like the Lib Dems at prayer.

DianeBrewster · 21/05/2025 12:45

Shortshriftandlethal · 21/05/2025 12:10

The Quakers are like the Lib Dems at prayer.

"The Quakers are like the Lib Dems at prayer."

sadly @Shortshriftandlethal these days more like the Green party meditating.

Many uncritically embrace the omnicause and the idea that there is only one "correct" opinion on those issues (environment, Gaza, Trans) - and a significant number of them don't believe in a god to pray to......

It would be interesting to investigate the overlaps of those two groups. I suspect it's substantial.

Naunet · 21/05/2025 15:03

So it's radical for women to be recognised as a sex class seperate from men inlaw is it? Despite every single human on this planet being created and birthed by a woman, it's extremist to recognise them? The quakers can go suck a girl-dick, hateful little misogynists.

ArcheryAnnie · 21/05/2025 21:45

Just to reiterate: Not All Quakers - there's a lot of sex-realist Quakers whose voices have been suppressed, and even more Quakers who support the concept that Quakers are not a monolith and need not all believe the same thing. It's the group who believe themselves to be some sort of "leadership" (Quakers shouldn't have leaders) that have in the main created this problem, among other problems they've also created.

PriOn1 · 22/05/2025 07:00

DianeBrewster · 21/05/2025 10:35

Indeed.

a group of us contacted PP back in 2018 and asked for dialogue on this issue. We have been gaslit and marginalised ever since. Every attempt to engage has been blocked.

There is an officially recognised Quaker group for atheist Quakers (?) but we were not allowed one for sex realist Quakers 🤨

along with a number of other GC Quakers I was banned from Quaker Facebook pages, accused of “acting in bad faith” by raising the issue.

the centre is thoroughly captured I’m afraid and most Quakers in meetings don’t have a clue about what’s going on because all dissenting voices are being silenced.

after 36 yrs of membership I recently resigned mine.

in my view Paul Parker has been the worst thing to happen to Quakers - even the actual Pope is more collegiate and open to dialogue. Everything which attracted me to Quakers, especially the bottom up, slow, considered, way of making decisions, has been replaced by an autocratic and manipulative man. Manipulative because, to me, he pretends that the traditional process are still working - but actually they are just being used to rubber stamp what he wants. Eg the infamous minute 31 “affirming” trans identities - and how it’s being used to close down discussion.

A group for “atheist Quakers” says it all really. They are no longer a group that share Christian values, or indeed anything. When you remove the entire basis of your faith and what brings you together, then you can easily become unmoored from everything else.

I had a conversation recently with someone who’s been a Quaker a long time and who I suspect would support men who claim they are women over women. I was shocked to hear what he had to say over his faith. Though it angered him when I pointed it out, he is no longer Christian, but has wandered into some pseudo religion which believes in itself and not much else.

I felt the same in a church I currently attend. Desperate to get new, young people into the church, the minister seems to be thinking that what is needed is root and branch change. The irony is that Roman Catholicism has actually surged recently. I suspect what people need is a rock to cling to in changing times and not yet another trend trying to capture the zeitgeist.

ReligIon is not for all, but if you follow a religion that’s 2000 years old, then studying the 2000 year old text the whole thing is based on and trying to follow what it says, rather than rejecting huge portions of it as they don’t fit with our modern views is surely counterproductive?

Anyway, this is truly a sad day as I believed when I was young that Quakerism was something special. Now it seems to have been infiltrated and the open minds at the top have become so open that there is now no real faith left.

ArabellaScott · 22/05/2025 07:06

princessleah1 · 20/05/2025 20:21

You pretty much nailed it!
Central office in London are desperate to be seen as radical, its embarrassing.

There is so much wrong with the statement. The claim that minute 31 (to welcome trans and non binary people) was genuinely discerned is totally wrong. It came after two years of preparation material for YM that promoted trans identities, no women - rights voices were included.

I think the most galling thing about this statement is the "We have no evidence of any harm having come to women using our facilities from trans women or anybody else." i.e wait until someone hurts you then we'll take notice of you. women as collateral damage.
I was in a quaker meeting a while ago where a transwomen behaved aggressively. An elderly woman expressed her fear and was told she should think of how hard life is for trans people every day, her fear was dismissed. Sums up the bs that's going on

what a mess and I fear Quakers (central office/ Friends House) will just keep digging

Oh my God! I hope the woman is okay.

This really does stun me. I'd had a lot of respect for Quakers prior to the genderpish. It really does undermine organisations, somehow. Extraordinary.

ArabellaScott · 22/05/2025 07:10

If you're atheist, why on earth call yourself an atheist Quaker? People are odd.

Slothtoes · 22/05/2025 07:24

This worries me with Quaker education on the face of it appearing like a good option for neurodivergent children and young people

PermanentTemporary · 22/05/2025 07:39

Quakers are such a small world that I'm going to be purposely vague, but knowing a trans Quaker and having known some Quakers all my life, I also fear for their future over this.

There is to me a negative side to the way Quakers operate which boils down to this outsider to a tendency to behave as if strong feelings can be reasoned away. But only certain strong feelings. It sounds as if they have decided that people's strong feelings over their behaviours trump other people's strong feelings about how that affects them. I have seen that in other contexts. I remember a female Young Quaker at a questioners weekend I went to explaining that she would talk to her multiple partners about the importance to her of loving multiple people and of total honesty about ut as a Quaker value, but sadly they still had strong feelings of jealousy and rejection. I thought about her definition of love, and what it means to love someone but still do things that they have said hurt them, and to prioritise honesty but not listen to what people say back to you when you tell them things.

MarieDeGournay · 22/05/2025 09:40

ArabellaScott · 22/05/2025 07:10

If you're atheist, why on earth call yourself an atheist Quaker? People are odd.

I'm an atheist, 100%, but I'm an Irish Catholic atheistSmile
By that I mean that I retain the cultural background, the knowledge, the history and some of the values that were central to my life as a child and adolescent.

I suppose somebody who was brought up in the Quaker, or Jewish, or other religions, can stop believing in the basis of that religion, but may wish to acknowledge its formative role in their life story.

Irish Catholic atheists [of a certain vintage] can make long car journeys seem shorter by singing as much of the Gregorian chant Missa de Angelis as they can remember.
Now ask a Quaker atheist how much of the Missa de Angelis they can remember...Smile

PermanentTemporary · 22/05/2025 09:45

The atheist Quakers I have known would call themselves universalist Quakers and would say something like their concept of being God was more like a concept of common experience of transcendence in all humans. They continued to go to meeting.

MagpiePi · 22/05/2025 10:07

Why are all these institutions and associations spending time and money putting out these statements that say 'we're not going follow the law because the guidance is only interim' when the EHRC have said that the final guidance will not substantially change?

RobinEllacotStrike · 22/05/2025 10:31

Women should not have to individually and repeatedly disclose traumas/crimes/assaults perpetuated agaisnt them to have access to single sex spaces.

We know the VAST majority of violence/sexual assaults are against women and perpetrated by men. That should be enough.

I'm still completely horrifed that Darlington nurse Karen felt she had to disclose the horrors inflicted upon her. Of course women are accused of weaponising trauma if they do this - so lose lose for women.

Quakers have lost their minds and have sold women & girls out along the way.

Wornouttoday · 22/05/2025 10:41

MagpiePi · 22/05/2025 10:07

Why are all these institutions and associations spending time and money putting out these statements that say 'we're not going follow the law because the guidance is only interim' when the EHRC have said that the final guidance will not substantially change?

Why indeed…institutional capture?

TempestTost · 22/05/2025 10:44

MarieDeGournay · 22/05/2025 09:40

I'm an atheist, 100%, but I'm an Irish Catholic atheistSmile
By that I mean that I retain the cultural background, the knowledge, the history and some of the values that were central to my life as a child and adolescent.

I suppose somebody who was brought up in the Quaker, or Jewish, or other religions, can stop believing in the basis of that religion, but may wish to acknowledge its formative role in their life story.

Irish Catholic atheists [of a certain vintage] can make long car journeys seem shorter by singing as much of the Gregorian chant Missa de Angelis as they can remember.
Now ask a Quaker atheist how much of the Missa de Angelis they can remember...Smile

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With Quakerism it's not really the same thing.

Many Quakers feel that the essence of Quakerism is a kind of commitment to Truth and certain principles that can be held within the group but do not necessarily need to include anything to do with the Bible or the basic beliefs of traditional Christianity as found in the creeds.

It reminds me a lot of secular humanism actually, there is a set of beliefs which emerged from a particular set of first principles, but they've kept the beliefs while rejecting the first principles they emerged from.

So not really shocking that it might lose it's bearings.

MagpiePi · 22/05/2025 11:23

Wornouttoday · 22/05/2025 10:41

Why indeed…institutional capture?

I am thinking it is a way of being able to change their minds but claiming they are doing it under protest.

Continualloop · 22/05/2025 12:41

Many Quakers feel that the essence of Quakerism is a kind of commitment to Truth

If Quaker HQ thinks that men can become women and that single sex facilities are not a basic safeguarding measure, then they and Truth parted company some time ago.

TinaBarrow · 22/05/2025 18:03

Exactly so.
And in my experience a lot of Quakers are ex-Anglicans who finally admitted they didn't believe in god, but felt guilty and lost if they didn't go somewhere on a Sunday morning.
On the other hand, some beautiful Christian Quakers I knew used to skip Meeting when the weather was nice and go out in nature. They called it "Blue Doming".

princessleah1 · 22/05/2025 20:08

We include people who have no faith and alot of our literature seems to actively avoid using the word god or Jesus. But if the people on High (Friends House in London) invoke the idea of "god" in order to impose ideas on people.
A recent example was someone claiming that minute 31 (we welcome and affirm trans people) is like the "word of god". Utterly ridiculous.

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DahliaBlooming · 22/05/2025 20:18

I'm another former Quaker who left because I couldn't bare the blatant hypocrisy around this issue.

DahliaBlooming · 22/05/2025 20:19

princessleah1 · 22/05/2025 20:08

We include people who have no faith and alot of our literature seems to actively avoid using the word god or Jesus. But if the people on High (Friends House in London) invoke the idea of "god" in order to impose ideas on people.
A recent example was someone claiming that minute 31 (we welcome and affirm trans people) is like the "word of god". Utterly ridiculous.

"All Quakers are equal, but some are more equal than others"

PriOn1 · 22/05/2025 20:21

ArabellaScott · 22/05/2025 07:10

If you're atheist, why on earth call yourself an atheist Quaker? People are odd.

Moreover, when you applied for membership, you are supposed to believe in God, as an absolute minimum. If they are letting atheists in, they’re simply a club for people who want to be in that club.

PriOn1 · 22/05/2025 20:28

Apologies if I’m not up to date. You certainly used to have to believe in God… Maybe not any more.

Abhannmor · 22/05/2025 21:14

The Good Protestants as they were known in Ireland during the Great Hunger. The other ones being only so-so I guess.
Isn't the astronomer Jocelyn Bell Burnell a Quaker? Strikes me as a formidable woman.

SionnachRuadh · 22/05/2025 21:21

MarieDeGournay · 22/05/2025 09:40

I'm an atheist, 100%, but I'm an Irish Catholic atheistSmile
By that I mean that I retain the cultural background, the knowledge, the history and some of the values that were central to my life as a child and adolescent.

I suppose somebody who was brought up in the Quaker, or Jewish, or other religions, can stop believing in the basis of that religion, but may wish to acknowledge its formative role in their life story.

Irish Catholic atheists [of a certain vintage] can make long car journeys seem shorter by singing as much of the Gregorian chant Missa de Angelis as they can remember.
Now ask a Quaker atheist how much of the Missa de Angelis they can remember...Smile

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Richard Dawkins is a fair bit older than me, but when he talks about his love of the language of the King James Bible and the Book of Common Prayer, I know exactly what he means...

I think there's a kind of generational fade in most religions. Pope Benedict's brother Mgr Georg Ratzinger wrote a little book about the two of them growing up in prewar Bavaria, and he describes a really immersive Catholic world of local shrines and feasts and observances that has ceased to exist. Probably it hung on in Ireland longer than most places.

I think of Jewish friends describing synagogues where most of the congregation don't believe in God, they all sort of tacitly agree they're going through the motions, but they feel that for family reasons it's important to belong to a congregation. I don't think their children will belong. The only Jewish communities thriving are the ultra-orthodox who reject modernity.

My basic theory is that few young people will be interested in religion, but those who do will come in two types. There are the young people who like the weird and supernatural and countercultural side of religion, and they'll gravitate towards religious communities that make demands on them. They'll become Muslims or Latin Mass Catholics or Eastern Orthodox or whatever.

And then there are the young people who aren't interested in religious belief, but do believe in the religion of the Omnicause, and they'll gravitate to small progressive religious groups, where the oldies will defer to the young people, hand it over to them, and they'll strip out the religion, replace it with politics and wear the group's tradition like a skin suit.

I'd guess that's what's happening with the Quakers. Something similar is happening with Wiccans, who likewise have a "be kind" self-image and are often Green Party members. That's when you see genderwoo being embraced by a fertility religion whose whole belief system rests on the polarity of the sexes. How they square that I'm not sure, but they do.

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