Nice gaslighting Pamela

[Ohsisterwhereartthou]

In today’s ‘it’s all women’s fault’, I give you the latest relationship advice from PSC
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/may/16/my-wife-caught-me-wearing-her-underwear-and-the-shame-is-eating-me-up

I don’t know much about Pamela Stephenson other than her being Billy Connollys wife and aware that she is Cambridge (I think?) educated and very highly qualified as some kind of psychologist.

So I clicked on this with interest and was expecting more.

It was literally a few sentences. I had to scroll back to see if I’d missed something.

What a lazy, non-response. What was the point of it?

Maybe because the knickers help him imagine he is being ravaged by a man (as though he is a woman) cissy porn style. He may want to be with a man.

Who shares knickers?

Someone covertly sneaking off with a pair of your knickers to wear them for sexual gratification is a violation.

This was not consensual and Pamela willfully ignored that to focus on how the man’s fetish should be explored and the woman should be enabling it.

Do sexual therapists have no duty of care for people impacted by their clients?

Women's consent does not matter. Men's sexual gratification does.

I remember her as actress and comedian. Googling, I see she was raped as a teenager and blamed by her parents, which must have been horrific. As she neared 40 her comedy style started to get more suggestive. She went to America and enrolled in a private university, following that with an institute that awards post graduate qualifications. Neither seem to have any noteworthy alumni from an academic standpoint.

She's in her mid 70s, and seems stuck in the worldview that tends to get summed up as 'the 1970s were different'.

Someone covertly sneaking off with a pair of your knickers to wear them for sexual gratification is a violation.

well yes. regardless of what other advice that man needed, top of the list was 'get your own pants to wank in. leave your wife's stuff alone'.

it's not healthy behaviour to violate boundaries like that and no-one should be pretending that it is.

I think she gets ChatGPT to write her responses - they are always the same old rubbish. The Guardian is always asking for money - they could save a few quid by getting rid of her.

There seem to be a lot of men out there who need to be reminded that women are human beings and should be respected as such, not treated as though their main function is as masturbation props.

Interesting and depressing that the Guardian doesn't want to say that.

Her column is terrible. As others have said, all her responses are really short and superficial, and often seem to miss the point. Does she actually get paid for this stuff???

Also, a man who steals knickers to wank in generally doesn't start when he's a married adult. Almost certainly he started as an adolescent with his mother's or sister's knickers.

It's long term paraphilic behaviour which often leads to Malaga Airport.

Yeah but today, any preference for behaviours or pastimes associated with the opposite sex in the 60's means you actually ARE the opposite sex.
Gender identity ideology is just vintage sex-based stereotypes in a trenchcoat.