There are a lot of lesbians who do say they think it's fine to include males in their spaces, yes.
But that's not the issue here. It's a (deliberate) distraction, of the "THESE lesbians (aka the cool girls, along with others) don't mind men in their spaces, so why do you? Are you a prude or a bigot"
The issue, as it has always been, is "are lesbians who DON'T wish to include men in their spaces allowed to to say no?"
In other words, do lesbians who say they don't mind men in their intimate spaces, and other women who say THEY don't mind men in their intimate spaces have the right to compel and coerce the women who have clearly said they DON'T want males in their spaces, to include males and to remove the women's boundaries, despite their clear lack of consent?