I feel as though a lot of today's shitstorm stems from the pioneering gender doctors telling male patients it was a-ok, necessary in fact, to non-consensually invade women's spaces before coming back two years later to have their dick off.
What if those doctors had been less misogynist in outlook? What if there had been some foresight at the time of society becoming less homophobic? That gay marriage would be legalised etc?
Perhaps those men with crippling dysphoria borne of homophobic, sexist upbringings and abuse could have instead been prescribed 2 years of therapy. Hopefully some would find peace, especially seeing the gains of Stonewall in its heyday: "some people are gay, get over it". Those who were heterosexual chancers might find the therapy and notion of surgery took the wind from their masturbatory sails somewhat.
Any who were still adamant they wanted their dick gone could have surgery only after completing therapy and perhaps then be issued with some sort of card or lanyard for using women's facilities. Or maybe a better solution would have been found?
Stonewall and co would have campaigned for gay rights and genuine acceptance for trans people. But none of this deceptive coercive bullshit about passing, or mandatory pronouns, or gendered souls, or female brains, or that people who disagree want you dead (what a thing to tell a vulnerable person!), or suicide myths etc etc. No implying that deception is at the heart of a trans identity. Transwomen are transwomen. Nothing wrong with that.
I fully understand the reasons women don't want to share with post op transwomen either. But I'm remembering many / most of us came from a starting position of empathy for those who'd had the full op and I do retain a sliver of sympathy for those consigned to the cubicles in the men's cos fuck knows dick owners seem incapable of treating toilets correctly. I guess in my thought experiment trans activism didn't turn up to metaphorically and literally piss all over women's rights.
If things had run along these lines I think there'd be a lot more genuine acceptance of trans people now. Feminism and the political left could have made far greater gains if this issue hadn't torn the movements apart. Ultimately there would be greater diversity and less need for people to be trans because less homophobia, less sexism, and less misogyny.