Everyone's Invited has published list of Primary Schools named in submissions in the past year

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Rape Culture Starts in Primary Schools

This is the Everyone’s Invited primary school list 2025.

It contains 1664 schools that have been submitted anonymously onto our website by survivors of sexual abuse during their time at primary school

https://www.everyonesinvited.uk/primary

There are pages and pages of schools listed. It was depressing scrolling through.

Sadly this won’t be even the tip of the iceberg.
My children’s primary school isn’t listed and it happened to them by their 11 year old cousin. DD was only 7.
Weirdly it makes me feel less to blame. They too thought the ‘game’ was normal. Luckily they were interrupted and confided very shortly afterwards so it was a one off and dealt with appropriately. I wish I’d known the things to tell them before particularly about saying no and continuing to say no even if someone asks again and again.
Never underestimate the manipulative power of an even slightly older child.

I listened to that Any Answers phone in on Radio 4 last saturday and part of it was about the Netflix Adolescence.

Lots of waffly calls but calls from 2 women stood out.

One young women only recently left school said that adults just weren't aware of how pornography just permeated throught out schools, including primaries. And that young boys were "learning" about violence towards women from that.

And an older woman who had some job relating to supporting students, spoke about how out of touch many people were including politicians thinking that a Netflix show would be the basis on which to tackle what is happening. As an example she said thinking someone like Idris Elba would be able to influence really young people was just silly. They think he was old, and like by their mums. (Sorry Idris) But also that what some of these very young people are following "gang" culture. Not necessarily actual gangs, but the idea of being part of a group and that (for the boys) it is about loyalty to each other and being able to show dominance. And as has come up on other theads, introduction to "gangs" can mean joining in "rituals" such as gang rape.

I only posting this because on one level it is so insulting that women as groups and as individuals have tried to raise awareness about the increase in violence against women. And been ignored.

But those in power then turn to film makers or tv stars to somehow know what to do.

I dont doubt that in the past quite young boys were learning and enacting violent attitudes towards women and girls. But what we have now is almost an alternative world where for many young people their reality is what they see and hear in the virtual world.

Children have access to porn in the classroom, education union head says

“The average 12-year-old has access to the most hardcore pornography on their mobile phone and that is incredibly damaging to the wellbeing of young boys and their perceptions of women, girls, sex and relationships,” he said.

He added that the country “should look towards Australia” where the senate has passed a social media ban for children under 16.

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/children-have-access-to-porn-in-the-classroom-education-union-head-says-in-call-for-phone-ban/ar-AA1CCYTX

Fury over rape and incest game that tells players to be 'women's worst nightmare'
https://www.lbc.co.uk/tech/steam-violent-misogyny-video-game-no-mercy/

This is really sad. I’m not sure I understand the purpose though - there’s a school on there I used to work at. If I were still there now, what could I do with that information? I worked there for a long time and it’s heartbreaking to think this could have happened while I was there and I had no idea. Or it could have happened decades ago (which isn’t in any way okay but hopefully things have turned around since then). It’s quite hard to understand what to do with the information.

I understand your concerns and I thought about it. I think the list should not be used as a list of schools to avoid (there are no dates and I think thee details are not verified). The point is to raise awareness: the problem is much bigger than what people generally imagine, it happens in schools all across the country, it happens already in primary schools.

As a parent, it makes me more vigilant already in primary school. Personally, it makes me think also about collective actions, like banning phones at least in schools, or having laws like in Australia, where they are trying to delay social media use. (I know this doesn't solve the problem, but iny opinion it mitigates some aspects).

I would hope that it raises awareness in the teaches as well, and would prompt them to be more vigilant about situations around toilets, changing rooms, and other safeguarding aspects.

This is interesting and might be useful for anyone concerned that a girl isn't being properly protect from sexual violence at school.

Safeguarding in schools for rape survivors

A Rape Crisis centre raised concerns with Centre for Women’s Justice (CWJ) about several girls who were not being appropriately safeguarded at school. They reported instances where the perpetrator of a sexual assault was a boy in the same class or the perpetrator was able to make contact with the girl around school. In some cases, girls who had reported rapes to the police were studying in isolation at school whilst the accused boys remained in the classroom.

CWJ arranged a meeting between Rape Crisis staff and a barrister specialising in education law. A template letter was prepared jointly with the barrister, setting out schools’ duties and drawing attention to relevant parts of the Department for Education’s guidelines, including guidance that boys who are suspects should be removed from the class, rather than the girls who have reported sexual assault.

The Rape Crisis centre used the template letter in a number of cases. They found that schools were unaware of the relevant Department for Education guidelines. The letters resulted in safeguarding meetings with school staff and families, at which solutions could be explored and girls and their families could input their views. In some cases, the schools agreed new safeguarding arrangements, including moving the boy out of lessons and a safety plan for in-between lessons, so girls could feel secure and focus on their studies.

A further six Rape Crisis centres in England & Wales have since begun using this template letter.

https://www.centreforwomensjustice.org.uk/case-studies/2022/11/29/safeguarding-in-schools-for-rape-survivors

That looks really helpful. I think those of us working in schools need to keep speaking out when we can. I had a child come to me who was refusing to enter her class as a boy had sexually assaulted her, school really didn’t know what to do. I and a colleague confronted the head and it was sorted so she felt safe. There’s really very little information or training for safeguarding leads on child on child abuse and it was difficult to get information from the police on an ongoing case, police family liaison officer was less than helpful as well.

I and a colleague confronted the head and it was sorted so she felt safe.

That's brilliant and so good that you were there for her.

But as you say it should be clear from the start.

That's why I thought it might be useful for any one working in schools, or anyone with a child in school, can find out about getting a copy of the letter sent to their school.