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Secondary School complaint about mixed sex changing rooms. Update, school response and request for help writing the escalated complaint to governors

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TangenitalContrivance · 05/04/2025 16:56

Hello everyone. Some may remember I asked for help with a complaint to my daughter’s secondary school in Brighton which allows Males into female changing spaces. Including swimming, without informing either children or parents.

this is clearly a safeguarding issue, borderline illegal and must not be allowed to stand.

I’m going to have to take the whole thing through a governors complaint and even higher, which I am willing to do.

please, if you can, could you read my complaint and the schools subsequent response and give me pointers for what to say in my follow up.

feel free to use the original complaint at your own school. You will be surprised how many are doing this!

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NumberTheory · 22/04/2025 15:10

MrsOvertonsWindow · 22/04/2025 14:53

This is what's never been challenged in the courts. How does statutory safeguarding legislation impact on the allegation that a child (of any age?) has the pc of "gender reassignment".

There's a shedload of issues that should have been explored and clarified in relation to sex change and children. Sadly we've allowed the sex change lobby groups to colonise this aspect of childhood and remove this so vulnerable group of children from basic safeguarding. I really believe that had this been put in front of the courts, it would have been knocked on the head many years ago. Instead we're watching generations of children / young people abandon their future fertility, health and mental wellbeing at the behest of these toxic organisations.

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I don’t think whether the characteristic of gender reassignment can be thought to cover children is what needs to be challenged. Children who are confused about their gender shouldn’t be subjected to harassment and discrimination because of it.

What needs challenging is the idea that the protections mean doing what the person with the characteristic wants, rather than (as with every other characteristic) just making sure they aren’t harassed or discriminated against.

NumberTheory · 22/04/2025 15:14

PrettyDamnCosmic · 22/04/2025 15:09

Discriminating against a man because he wears a dress is unlawful discrimination against him as a man if a woman in the same situation is permitted to wear a dress.

The courts have not previously found that to be the case. Sex specific clothing and other grooming requirements have been upheld.

The courts have even found it lawful to charge different amounts for a haircut based on the sex of the customer.

TangenitalContrivance · 22/04/2025 18:25

OK Gang - third time's the charm - though I still take onboard any advice!

or the attention of:
xxxxx Head of School & Designated Safeguarding Lead
xxxxxSchool
Brighton
CC: xxxxx, Deputy Head
Chair of Governors
Subject: Escalation to Stage 2: Formal Complaint Regarding Safeguarding and Mixed-Sex Changing Facilities
Dear Mr xxxx,
I write to formally escalate my safeguarding complaint to Stage 2 under your school complaints procedure. Your Stage 1 response dated 04.04.25 has failed to address the central safeguarding, legal, and equality concerns I raised. These matters require urgent review at the highest level, as they relate to the welfare, dignity, and legal protection of all children in your care.
Below, I set out the major shortcomings in your Stage 1 response and provide additional legal, practical, and ethical objections. Please ensure each is addressed in full by the Stage 2 review panel.

1. Failure to Guarantee Single-Sex Changing Spaces
You continue to rely on a "case-by-case" approach without ever stating that female and male children will not be required to undress in front of one another. This leaves all pupils—especially females—without a clear, enforceable right to privacy.
In your own words, you state: "We wish to avoid putting students who identify as transgender in humiliating or uncomfortable positions." Yet you make no equivalent commitment to female students. Should it not be equally unacceptable to place a female pupil in the humiliating position of having to undress in front of a male peer?

2. Selective and Misleading Use of Statutory Guidance
You cite paragraph 205 of Keeping Children Safe in Education (KCSIE) concerning LGB children, which is irrelevant to this complaint. My concern is not about sexual orientation. It is about biological sex.
Your failure to engage with the safeguarding risks of placing male pupils—regardless of identity—into female spaces misrepresents my concerns and avoids addressing legitimate safeguarding expectations under:

  • The Equality Act 2010
  • KCSIE 2024
  • The School Premises (England) Regulations 2012
  • The Human Rights Act 1998
3. Supreme Court Judgment: Definition of Sex Your policy directly conflicts with the UK Supreme Court's recent ruling (Case UKSC 2024/0042) which confirmed that "man," "woman," "male," and "female" in the Equality Act refer exclusively to biological sex. The Court stated: "The term 'woman' in the Equality Act 2010 refers to a female of any age." "Where the law requires single-sex provision, it means based on biological sex, not gender identity." Crucially, the Supreme Court explicitly dismissed the idea that, once a single-sex facility is provided, the provider must assess on a case-by-case basis whether a trans-identifying pupil should be allowed access. This dismantles the legal basis claimed in both the 2021 and 2025 iterations of Brighton & Hove Council’s Trans Inclusion Schools Toolkit, which promoted exactly such a case-by-case approach. That approach was declared unlawful in 2024 by legal advice from Karon Monaghan KC, and now explicitly overruled by the Supreme Court. Continuing to use or reference the Brighton & Hove Toolkit under these conditions places the school in direct conflict with binding legal precedent.

4. Compelled Speech by Policy or Peer Pressure
You appear to misunderstand the legal concept of compelled speech. When girls are expected to silently accept a male in their changing room—even if presented as an optional arrangement—this creates coercive social pressure. The potential for peer or staff disapproval is itself a form of compulsion.

5. Indecent Exposure and Voyeurism Risk
Permitting male students into female changing areas not only exposes girls to the risk of trauma, embarrassment, and rights violations, but also exposes boys to potential allegations of serious criminal offences, including indecent exposureand voyeurism, particularly in sports like swimming. This is a safeguarding failure for both sexes.

6. In Loco Parentis Standard Not Applied
As school staff are acting in loco parentis, they are legally and morally expected to exercise the same duty of care as a reasonable and protective parent. No responsible adult would knowingly allow a male pupil into a female changing area or vice versa. The school’s failure to uphold this standard of care undermines parental trust and puts children at avoidable risk. That the school would not dream of sending a lone girl into a male changing room highlights the unequal and unsafe treatment being extended to female pupils in this scenario.. No responsible parent would knowingly allow a male pupil into a female changing area or vice versa. That the school would not dream of sending a lone girl into a male changing room highlights the unequal treatment of female pupils in this scenario.

7. Failure to Address Consent Safeguarding Boundaries
Your response ignores my explicit point: no parent, child, or authority can give permission for a child to see or be seen naked by the opposite sex. Safeguarding principles are not subject to personal preference. The law does not permit children to waive privacy protections.

8. Failure to Provide an Equality Impact Assessment (EIA)
You did not provide the Equality Impact Assessment (EIA) that should justify your "case-by-case" approach. I now formally request a copy of this document, redacted as needed.

9. Sexual Violence Risk Is Real and Documented
Data from the BBC (2016), Ofsted (2021) show:

  • The vast majority of sexual assault victims in school settings are female, while 98% of perpetrators are male.
  • That girls frequently do not report incidents out of fear, shame, or peer dynamics.
  • That safeguarding must work on the presumption that abuse is occurring.
These realities require you to apply a presumption of safeguarding risk, not ideological neutrality.

10. Practical Safeguarding Oversight
You state that "any pupil who wishes increased privacy will be accommodated." But:

  • How are pupils expected to ask for this without disclosing personal trauma, sexual assault, religious conviction or disability?
  • How are staff trained to identify silent safeguarding needs where disclosure is unlikely (see Ofsted’s 2021 review)?
  • Where is your written framework to assess risks before placing any pupil in an opposite-sex changing space?

11. Indirect Discrimination Based on Religion or Belief
You say the needs of faith-based students will be considered, but provide no evidence of:

  • How religious requirements for same-sex privacy are recorded, updated, and verified.
  • What alternative options are made available to preserve these beliefs.
  • Whether any impact assessments have been conducted to understand how "case-by-case" deters some faith communities from attending xxxx school altogether.

12. Headteachers' Statutory Duties Under the Education and Equality Acts
Headteachers in UK secondary schools are legally obligated to uphold the principles and requirements set out in both the Education Act 1996 and the Equality Act 2010. These include the duty to provide a safe, non-discriminatory learning environment and to promote the welfare of all pupils equally.
By endorsing or permitting mixed-sex changing arrangements—where female pupils may be required to undress in the presence of male pupils—the school fails in its duty to uphold sex-based protections clearly enshrined in the Equality Act. Such arrangements undermine the fairness, balance, and inclusivity that the Education Act demands, particularly where they elevate one pupil’s preference over another pupil’s dignity, privacy, and safeguarding rights. This complaint is centred on the need for lawful, single-sex provision to protect the rights of all pupils equally.

Required Actions
I seek a clear, point-by-point written response to each item listed above. Each concern must be addressed separately to ensure transparency and clarity. Furthermore, I expect:

  1. A permanent and unambiguous assurance that all changing rooms and showers will remain single-sex.
  2. Withdrawal of any reliance on Brighton & Hove's Trans Inclusion Toolkit.
  3. A review of all school safeguarding training and policy materials to ensure compliance with the Supreme Court’s judgment.
  4. Confirmation that your insurer has been notified of the current legal risk.
If you cannot confirm these points, I will take the matter to:
  • The full Governing Body
  • Brighton & Hove’s LADO
  • Ofsted
  • The Department for Education
  • Legal representatives
This is a formal safeguarding complaint. Please confirm receipt and provide a full written response within five working days. Yours sincerely, xxxxxx Father of two pupils at xxxxx School
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Peregrina · 22/04/2025 18:44

You have repeated some sentences in point 6, but otherwise, it's very good and I think you should get it sent off asap.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 22/04/2025 18:45

Once again, very clear. You have a repeated set of sentences in section 6 In Loco Parentis; other than that, it looks solid.

TheOtherRaven · 22/04/2025 18:56

Excellent job.

TangenitalContrivance · 22/04/2025 19:40

Peregrina · 22/04/2025 18:44

You have repeated some sentences in point 6, but otherwise, it's very good and I think you should get it sent off asap.

Why it’s so great to have proof readers like you all thank you!!

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BonfireLady · 22/04/2025 22:05

It might well be a personal preference (on my part) but I preferred your "I now formally request" style of language to the "each point must be addressed...".

It packed plenty of punch in its original style IMO.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 22/04/2025 22:10

Well done - that's such a good letter. If I received a letter like that as a senior teacher in a school or a governor (both of which I've been) my heart would sink. 😂

Redshoeblueshoe · 22/04/2025 22:17

Excellent letter.

WarriorN · 22/04/2025 22:39

That’s a blisteringly good letter. The explicit demands at the end are excellent.

It makes it very easy for them to concede, if they don’t it makes it very easy for you to take it further, point by point.

TangenitalContrivance · 22/04/2025 22:41

BonfireLady · 22/04/2025 22:05

It might well be a personal preference (on my part) but I preferred your "I now formally request" style of language to the "each point must be addressed...".

It packed plenty of punch in its original style IMO.

All advice is good advice thank you

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 22/04/2025 22:57

Globules · 22/04/2025 18:12

Sharing this, as it might be helpful. It's from a company which advise schools. I found it today on the Teacher Tapp website (v useful app for the education community to keep abreast of current issues)

https://www.edapt.org.uk/blog/2025/04/supreme-court-ruling-schools-sex-definition/?utm_source=teachertapp&utm_medium=app

Thanks for this. There's some useful case studies here. They're evidently tiptoeing carefully with this but the advice is consistently in favour of safeguarding and the right to single sex facilities with clear warnings that any exemptions must not only be clearly documented, including legally, but with the warning that an exemption may nullify a single sex space - thus leading to legal challenges.
A real indication of how the ruling will compel some schools to return to centring children's needs and rights again.

TangenitalContrivance · 23/04/2025 10:28

BonfireLady · 22/04/2025 22:05

It might well be a personal preference (on my part) but I preferred your "I now formally request" style of language to the "each point must be addressed...".

It packed plenty of punch in its original style IMO.

Sent this morning - with that section reinstated!

I shall update everyone with a fresh post when I get a response (likely 20 days I suppose)

I feel I might also put together a set of letters other parents could send to schools using the trans toolkit, but thats for another day!

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TwoLoonsAndASprout · 23/04/2025 12:10

Just popping on to commend you @TangenitalContrivance. This is a huge piece of work, and not easily carried out in the current climate. I already feel like you’ve given a lot of us courage to tackle things similarly, so thank you.

SchoolGuidanceQ · 23/04/2025 12:43

Globules · 22/04/2025 18:12

Sharing this, as it might be helpful. It's from a company which advise schools. I found it today on the Teacher Tapp website (v useful app for the education community to keep abreast of current issues)

https://www.edapt.org.uk/blog/2025/04/supreme-court-ruling-schools-sex-definition/?utm_source=teachertapp&utm_medium=app

@Globules it's had a lot of challenges on Twitter and they've had to edit what they said, so probably best not to follow it - see all the QTs / corrections https://x.com/edaptuk/status/1912780273869115554/quotes

That page also now has a sort of disclaimer at the top saying how much feedback they've had!

SchoolGuidanceQ · 23/04/2025 12:43

TangenitalContrivance · 23/04/2025 10:28

Sent this morning - with that section reinstated!

I shall update everyone with a fresh post when I get a response (likely 20 days I suppose)

I feel I might also put together a set of letters other parents could send to schools using the trans toolkit, but thats for another day!

Good luck!

SinnerBoy · 23/04/2025 12:46

Well done, Tangential - you've certainly put in the hard yards. I look forward to reading the next piece of evasive waffle they try to fob you off with.

moto748e · 23/04/2025 13:05

Yes, this is great work you've done, @TangenitalContrivance . I very much appreciated your "I'm not taking any any shit on this" tone! 💪

LittleBigHead · 23/04/2025 13:57

Good luck!

thenoisiesttermagant · 23/04/2025 14:27

Great work, well done. Let's hope appropriate safeguarding is restored at your children's school asap.

I do think this will be an excellent template for others to use too.

Let's hope they respond appropriately. If not, there are an army of us willing to support a legal challenge.

BonfireLady · 23/04/2025 16:01

Great work OP. It really is a phenomenal letter.

Also, this may be of interest... a court case in Scotland about mixed-sex toilets in schools. Yes, it's Scotland but it refers to the EA so my understanding is that it would apply across the UK:

https://archive.is/CntyW

Short thread on X (scroll up from here ⬇️):

https://x.com/SunriseDances/status/1915055444588138592?t=HNb-GaBquQltYzktDBX4cg&s=19

Screenshots below for anyone not on X.

Secondary School complaint about mixed sex changing rooms. Update, school response and request for help writing the escalated complaint to governors
Secondary School complaint about mixed sex changing rooms. Update, school response and request for help writing the escalated complaint to governors
BonfireLady · 23/04/2025 16:13

BonfireLady · 23/04/2025 16:01

Great work OP. It really is a phenomenal letter.

Also, this may be of interest... a court case in Scotland about mixed-sex toilets in schools. Yes, it's Scotland but it refers to the EA so my understanding is that it would apply across the UK:

https://archive.is/CntyW

Short thread on X (scroll up from here ⬇️):

https://x.com/SunriseDances/status/1915055444588138592?t=HNb-GaBquQltYzktDBX4cg&s=19

Screenshots below for anyone not on X.

To add:

There is legislation which stipulates separate toilets for each sex for schools from the age of 8 in England. Apologies if this is a repeat of something already up thread:

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2012/1943/regulation/4/made

IANAL but I can't imagine there is any wiggle room on this with both this and the Scottish ruling.

The SC judgement is simply good timing, as obviously children in schools won't have a GRC (possibly some in 6th forms but unlikely, given the "2 years as the opposite 'gender'" stipulation before applying), in that it seems to have given the whole country permission to state facts out loud.

The School Premises (England) Regulations 2012

These Regulations apply to schools maintained by local authorities in England (including pupil referral units).

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2012/1943/regulation/4/made

Keeptoiletssafe · 23/04/2025 16:37

BonfireLady · 23/04/2025 16:13

To add:

There is legislation which stipulates separate toilets for each sex for schools from the age of 8 in England. Apologies if this is a repeat of something already up thread:

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2012/1943/regulation/4/made

IANAL but I can't imagine there is any wiggle room on this with both this and the Scottish ruling.

The SC judgement is simply good timing, as obviously children in schools won't have a GRC (possibly some in 6th forms but unlikely, given the "2 years as the opposite 'gender'" stipulation before applying), in that it seems to have given the whole country permission to state facts out loud.

Edited

This great news is one step closer.
It’s the ‘lockable’ bit which is a problem in that they can’t truly be secure as you have to be able to get in. So kids may prat about and open them up from the outside.
Now the real bit for discussion is privacy v safety. If there’s going to be lots of mixed sex toilets how do they cater for that? Lots more security? Or open them up (door gaps) so you can see if anyone has collapsed and how many children/adults there are in each one?

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