Rape culture starts in primary school

[WarriorN]

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It’s so depressing. I have two boys and feel that we are doing everything right at home, my eldest has just started pre-school in a lovely area, great school and I’m appalled. The majority of the other boys are really rough bordering violent to the girls, already much talk of boys being better etc and many of them taking about violent games and YouTube videos that frankly aren’t suitable for teenagers never mind four year olds, I despair. It feels so difficult when you are going everything right and then sending your child into this cesspit because other parents seemingly can’t be bothered to parent their children, I dread to think what these boys will be like at 15 but also what my own will be like with these kind of influences, it makes me want to homeschool

A big part of the issue is the minimising, from schools, parents, society. They/we actively look for explanations that make it all innocent and not a big deal, until they/we find one (often giving a get out card to the child involved) and then they/we can pat ourselves on the back that the issue was dealt with.

Boys will be boys, curiosity, he didn’t mean it, he didn’t know what it means , he’s only little etc.

While he might be little, that’s not the case at 10 or 15 or 20. If he doesn’t learn at 5 that it is wrong, that there are consequences, that people are upset and that it is NOT ok, it’s fucking madness to expect them to suddenly understand that at a later age.

I had that problem as a child too. No phone, no shelter at the stop, no timetable. We just had to wait. No one died.

When I was a child, there were these things called "payphones". Boarding schools could use those.

Day schools don't have that pastoral requirement for the kids to phone home. Barring emergency, a child should be able to go from one end of the school day to the other without phoning a parent.

I remember going abroad and being amazed to find a wondrous thing called a Timetable on the bus stop! And last time I went abroad they were still there. Stop Press: we could try doing that!

It gets locked up in a big box and they have to go to ask for it after supper if they want to ring home. There's no texting friends or playing Snake, just ringing mum and dad. That's pretty close to using a payphone but without the queue.

Some buses now just cancel, whatever is on the timetable. That does not matter if there is one every few minutes but it does if there is one every half hour or hour.

I am against smart phones for children but am annoyed by how everyone is supposed/presumed to have one.

In a cafe today I found the loyalty card stamp of old now is a SP tap and if you don’t have one too bad.

That is annoying

I feel we are relying too much on tech now

if the tech us hacked/fails we are stuffed…

I keep maps and a compass in my car for that exact reason.

Some buses now just cancel

That happened when I was a child too. We just dealt with it.

Not sure how having smartphone helps though. Bus still isn’t there.

If you are unfamiliar with the locality, you can use an internet-connected device to investigate alternative journey options.

When I was a child, I had a mental map of alternative buses and trains to get me home from school that served the same purpose.

See what you mean… we were/are pretty rural so there wouldn’t be any alternative , you’d just have to wait … I guess that is why that didn’t occur to me.