It is hard to imagine how anyone in the west could have any impact on the attitude and beliefs of the Taliban.
And it is worth remembering, that within families many men, sons, brothers, husbands share the views of the Taliban. This is partly why they are able to go to the extremes they are. Families are happy to enforce it.
Just as some countries who claim to be Christian practice it in a more extreme way than others do, it is no different in countries where Islam is the main religion. They do so at different levels.
It would need someone with a far greater knowledge of the history of the region to suggest what that might be. Whether partly a very public way of rejecting an over reaching west, it still doesn't explain how this is happening (and has in the past).
Not on the same level, but how did Scotland finish up with a Government that so totally swalled the trans agenda, and apparently with the support of many in Scotland. It was only because the UK Government question their right to implement self id etc., that they were stopped.
There is no equivilent political mechanism to stop the Taliban from doing what they want.