I'm going to have to mildly disagree with you on this point, DiaAssolellat.
Sexuality, as in being lesbian or gay, has a significance in how a person is, and is in society. That has changed over the centuries and around the world - in this part of the world we no longer have to hide our identity for fear of death, whereas there are places in the world where being lesbian or gay still results in a death sentence, whether judicial or just plain murder.
But there is still a difference in being lesbian or gay, it's not just who we sleep with, it ranges from assumptions in everyday conversations, to being sidelined by gender ideology, to being declared 'sinful', and even to being physically attacked for being lesbian or gay - that still happens, you know.
It's not unreasonable to look for expressions of lesbian or gay experience in the work of architects or painters or sculptors or garden designers, especially those who were operating at a time when they couldn't express themselves 100% openly.
But I completely share the rejection of the label 'queer', which is either an insult or a meaningless portmanteau word, or both.