On a recent thread, the OP asked for advice on how to fill in a form that only gave ‘ciswoman’ as an option. It made me think of the people I work with and what I want to say to them, but can’t in case I’m fired. I just need a place to put this out there.
Imagine you’re called Katie Smith. You’ve always been Katie. But the past five years, a lot of people think you should be called Ciskatie. You now have to fill in all government forms as Ciskatie Smith, so the people who were born Brenda or Susie but changed their name to Katie aren’t offended by your truthful existence. I repeat, you’ve to change your name because other people have sore feelings. Except in the real world, it’s not Brendas and Susies, it’s men. You have to do what the men tell you because if you don’t it hurts their feelings. What about Katie’s feelings? Doesn’t Katie matter at least as much?
Except this isn’t just one name. This is all women. We all have to rename ourselves to validate certain men having a sexist stereotype of us engrained in their mind. ‘How is it a sexist stereotype’ you might ask. Well, do you believe that all women feel the same and think the same? We know that’s not true about women, or men. So I know there’s no such thing as ‘thinking like a woman’ or ‘feeling like a woman’ or ‘lady brain’ - I reject all the stereotypes of us women that kept us out of the vote, the education system, the workplace by virtue of our sex. We are not different thinking, different feeling inside, to men by default. Sure there might be some averages that apply to one sex more than the other but how dare any fucker assume? A man can’t say truthfully ‘I feel like a woman’ only ‘I feel like what my prejudices toward women have informed me to assume a woman feels like’ and those same prejudices stop him realising this. This is the man you want to clap for while he thinks all you are is a bowed head and high heels?
Ask yourself, are a dumb blonde? A ditzy bird? Pregnant and barefoot? Emotional? Highly strung? Daddy’s little slut? Shit at maths because you’re a girl? Unfit to be a leader? Just need a good cock to put you off being a lesbian? No, me neither. I’m none of those stereotypes. How about men ‘be kind’ to women and not reinforce the notion that ‘If you’re ABC, you must be female’?
The only time I feel ‘like a woman’ is when I’m dealing with my reproductive system and the substandard care the NHS provides to deal with it, and that certainly won’t be happening to the men that wear our faces instead of dealing with their own confusion. I’m sorry to hear some people feel confusion but that’s their own responsibility to soothe, not all women’s, and they best not be entitled to things that aren’t theirs. Twerps with their degrees, soft jobs and luxury beliefs in government and clueless companies have declared we’ve to pretend there is such a disgusting notion as ‘lady brains’ to ‘be kind’. Well fuck those twerps, fuck their forms, fuck being kind, fuck anyone who doesn’t hear my NO, fuck the handmaids and the horses they rode in on who say my No doesn’t matter as much as a man’s Yes.
So no, Katie won’t be buying into HR DEI bullshit, because Katie is perfectly happy to say no to men and their flying monkeys.
I am woman, the whole category. And this woman is fed up to my back fucking teeth of ‘being kind’ to make sexist men happy. Aren’t we all fed up of the days when we had to make ourselves smaller, stupider, meeker, with no boundaries of our own, to please men? Why aren’t you, Ciskatie? You’re not kind, you’re not progressive, you’re a turkey voting for Christmas.
I feel a bit better now.