Followed by multiple people

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I have been followed by multiple people mainly men and some women this has been going on for 5 months. I don't know what the intention is or why. I contacted the police who were no help only saying because they had not harmed me there was nothing to go on. I googled it and it says Gang stalking! I’m in the UK and it happens mainly in America. I wanted to know whether anyone else on here has experienced this. I am scared to go out because of the stress and anxiety I am always looking at and watching people I get angry and tearful and stressed so much so that I multiple alarms and other safety gadgets and I have also been followed in my car, they chase me doing excessive speeds and try to run me off the road. I feel so isolated and when I did mention it to someone they said I was overly stressed but this situation is causing me stress. I have noticed as soon as I leave my house someone is notifying others and I have noticed people taking pictures of my car myself and just acting odd around me. You would think I was famous the way theses deluded people are caring on. On Monday I went for drinks with my friend, and I noticed this young girl in her twenties look back to stare at me then told her friend to change seats so she could continue her staring i’m in my late 50s I told my friend so she too could notice it we both looked at each other has I had just told her about the creeps that had been following me, I said to her let me go to the toilet whatcha ne and see if she follows me….. Low and behold the girl followed me to the toilet I was in the cubicle my friend had rung me to say as soon as she saw me get up she followed me, 😠🫣😨 I was going to confront her and she knew this so went and left the restaurant only to sit outside so she could do it again I had my back to her so my friend kept an eye on her, she was on the phone talking to whoever but was keeping an eye on me. I will give this evidence to the police and now I have a witness, I hope they will look into this. Please as anyone got any advice ex-police, security, or private detectives pn here can help me I'm desperate I need this to stop 😢

Why do you think someone would be stalking you, both physically and online? Have you fallen out with anyone badly?
It's very common for scammers to try and add strangers on SM. They use bots to send requests out to hundreds of thousands at a time. It's nothing personal. They don't know you at all. They just hope one person will respond.
Do you have an aggreaved ex? I just can't see what the purpose of this could be. I've never heard of 'gang stalking'. I m not trying to belittle your concerns but could the woman in the restaurant just have been a coincidence? She might have thought she recognised you, or just been a bit weird?
If you say people are trying to drive you off the road you need to get the reg numbers. This could then be taken to the police. If there is evidence of that then they could try and investigate.
Have you considered seeing a counsellor? As you say yourself you're very stressed out.
I hope things get better for you.

I dont want to sound dismissive, but the use of the phrase "gang stalking" is used to describe people who aren't actually being stalked but think they are.

Not saying what you are experiencing isn't true, but thought you should be aware that that is a public perception.

You could maybe ring the National Stalking Helpline, but not sure they provide support for the situation you describe. https://www.suzylamplugh.org/

This sounds really upsetting, OP, and I hope you get to the bottom of it and start feeling safer.

I don't want to sound dismissive at all, but did you know that the human mind is hardwired to see patterns? It's an evolutionary thing, something to do with spotting dangers or something..

So sometimes a number of random things that happen in a close timeframe can be fitted into a pattern in our minds, although they aren't in fact related.

I went through a really difficult time in my life when a number of bad things, big and small, kept happening. Everything from serious family illnesses to breaking my favourite mug to a tile coming loose on the roof etc etc - I felt 'Fate' was against me and used to joke about 'The Forces of Darkness' having it in for me.

A counsellor advised me not to think, even jokingly, about things like Fate or Forces or Darkness, because otherwise I would start to feel that there really was something out to get me! And there wasn't. All these things were just random happenings in my life, a few of them happened in a short timeframe, but then again, nothing bad had happened for years, and after that bad patch, nothing awful happened for another few year, and so on..

Seeing a counsellor, as BobbyBiscuits suggests, might help deal with what you are experiencing, Or taking IwantToRetire's* *good advice.
Sending you good thoughts.

I just looked up Gang stalking. OP, if you read about it you will see a lot of it is based around conspiracy and obviously can be fuelled by reading certain material and can be excasserbated by certain MH conditions.
I do think seeing your GP might help. And definitely counselling.
If you have had no animosity with anyone, the likelihood you are being stalked by multiple individuals who are strangers is extremely unlikely. What would be in it for them?
If they wanted to rob or burgle you then they would have.
Unless you were a spy with loads of crazy James bond style secrets, what would be the reason for several strangers to stalk you?
I hope you don't take this the wrong way but I just don't want you to panic.
Logic is difficult when you're in a panic though, I do understand that.

Unless you’re a drug dealer who’s fucked people over, some kind of crime boss or billionaire, you’re not being stalked by a gang of people.

you’re on edge so your noticing things you wouldn’t normally, sometimes the simplest answer is the one, she needed the toilet at the same time as you and she switched seats not to look at you but for a different reason.

unless you have some kind of criminal connection that would be very lucrative (and even then unlikely) no one is dedicating lots of people to stalking you and this is all probably coincidence. As the situation is stressing you out, it would be worth talking to your gp about and they can help.

You know those 'join the dots' pictures, OP? They are designed to be the outline of something, otherwise they'd be no fun.

But in the outside world, there are lots of dots that are just that - dots. Good dots and bad dots, but they are just dots, and they are not designed by someone to make a pattern.

Please try not to join random dots to make this really scary picture, that is obviously causing you great distress.

'Stuff happens' is true, and the 'stuff' that happens is usually unrelated randomness.
Please take care of yourself, and be brave enough to ask others for help - not an easy thing to do I know!

Paranoia is a terrible feeling and can be indicative of other issues. Go see your GP as they can help. Good luck.

This is really odd, and I'm not surprised it's unnerved you.

One important question to ask is: are they the same people? Do you recognise them, for instance had you had an encounter with that girl before? And you'd know if it was the same cars chasing you on the road.

It sounds like a creepy sort of bullying or harassment - in that case, it would have to be a particular group of friends, so you'd see the same faces regularly. Stalking and harassment are illegal so, if it's an identifiable group, the thing to do would be to confront them on video (you might need a friend with you) and tell them clearly to stop harassing you. If they carry on after that, take your videos to the police with times and places.

For your sake, though, I hope it's not happening and these are just random annoying incidents. Is something else in your life making you extra stressed or anxious at the moment?

I really hope the OP comes back and reads our posts, if only to know that we've listened to her and given a lot of thought to the difficult time she's going through.
Maybe just writing it all down helped get a handle on things..
Anyway, we're here to respond again, OP, if you want to come back any time.

Thanks for posting about this, StopRNM, there's certainly a lot of food for thought in your post.

In fairness, we all tried to do our best to support the OP, not gaslight her. If it is in fact RNM that she is being subjected to, she needs all the help and support she can get.
Whatever is happening to cause OP to be distressed, I wish her well, and I think all the other posters would wish her well too.

This must be awfully distressing for you. I hope these aren't connected incidents. Sometimes the randomness of the universe may make it seem so, even if it isn't.

Do you have a working carbon monoxide detector in your home? If not please consider getting one as carbon monoxide can cause anxieties like what you're describing.

Encouraging someone to get help isn't gaslighting.

What is RNM, sorry?

What exactly is neural monitoring, and does the technology behind it actually exist? - Quora seems to be a good place to start... i've been reading online about this since i saw this post and it's very tinfoil hat.

Thanks @Alwaystired94

let me know if you find anything else on it as i can't find anything credible which says it all to me...

On the off chance you're still reading this thread op and perhaps you saw the deleted post, there may be a temptation to think they get it and we're all potentially the stalkers or aiding them in some way and our calls to talk to a gp or similar are people "not getting it". If you can I would really suggest you read this article, with as much as an open mind as you can, about how those that feed into the conspiracy of gang stalking are not helpful to you, if you’re on another forum now, perhaps getting a lot more “supportive” answers about the perps following you, really really give this a read.
https://www.technologyreview.com/2020/08/07/1006109/inside-gangstalking-disturbing-online-world/

Mumsnet is one of the most supportive posters on the internet, when it comes to women in particular in distress and they’re really good at sign posting where to get help, there is a reason a lot of people are suggesting talking to a doctor, they can help they’re someone safe to talk to and they will be able to give you the help needed to tackle the gang stalking.

a very well written article, and glad that the comment was deleted as it was dangerous.