Capitalism & patriarchy are so intertwined I honestly don't think you can defeat either on their own
This.
It is the nature of capitalism that only a few men really benefit from it. Most men (indeed most workers of either sex) are victims of capitalism.
Even the ones who actually enjoy their jobs are trapped by them, having no choice but to carry on with the daily grind to keep housed and fed. Switching jobs does not change this fact. Even the well-paid feel hard-done-by as they are still under the control of employers.
Retirement is seen as the only way out. Some try to "start their own business" but the vast majority of businesses fail in the first few years.
When a man feels trapped, victimised, treated unfairly, or controlled, he is likely to become violent.
And the victim of his violence will either be another man (usually out on the streets, fuelled by alcohol), or a woman (usually in the home, though not always).
Patriarchy gives even poor and downtrodden men a way to feel powerful and in control. Capitalism supports patriarchy as it stabilises the males who would otherwise turn to violent revolution.
The problem we have now is that capitalism needed more workers (it always needs more workers as it has to grow forever or die), so it brought in the women. Women were tricked into thinking paid employment was liberation and freedom. For some it has been a better deal, but for many women it has just led to the 'double shift'.
And now that women are becoming more financially independent, so can be more picky about the men they choose, so the men who are left out, unable to keep a woman, are getting angrier.
How to solve all this, I do not know. But equality of the sexes cannot be achieved without equality of everyone, so no more class/wealth division.