The issue is sometimes that people can't separate the different general categories of those identifying as trans women and I can see some of this to a point. Younger DS now in his early 20s has 3 people (friends) from his bog standard primary who have gone on to identify as trans. 1 girl and 2 boys.
Obviously I'm not claiming to be an expert here, but having been on the periphery of these children's lives since they were 4/5 years old, my observations are:
The girl is pretty surely an undiagnosed neuro divergent (both my DC are neuro divergent so not completely clueless as to the signs)
The two boys are most certainly gay. Both dressed as boys in primary and both played more with the girls but I think sexually confused and neither I would ever see as any type of risk even though both now presenting as women.
So, I'd say that mental health intervention would probably have been an appropriate call. That is a very different scenario to men posing as women for predatory purposes and also those who do it for sexual gratification.
So, if your experience of trans men is only those generally nice lads who don't want to cause any harm and are trying to live their best life and haven't had the mental health support then of course you are going to have a different view, especially if you are not prepared to consider that not all trans are like that just as not all men are a predatory threat. You can't tell which is which (well sometimes you can) which is why protection needs to be given from ALL men, including those that wouldn't harm a fly.
The real threat to trans people trying to live their best lives are actually still men. They are the ones that are using this for their advantage and "stirring up hate" and are also a general threat to the trans people themselves.
It's not really correct to lay the anti trans label and anti feeling at women's door, it's still all caused by men. Again, not all men....