Reassignment surgery

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I have a relative who came out as trans a few years ago and is now going in for sex reassignment surgery. They are an adult, so entirely their own choice and none of my business - I will not be airing my views within the family. However it keeps playing on my mind and I just feel very sad that someone should be mutilating themselves this way, and that they will regret it in future. I would be devastated if this was my child, and they were to destroy their healthy body by doing something so drastic and irrevocable

As I say, it is not my business, but has anyone else experienced this in their family, and how did it play out?

Thankfully no personal experience of it, OP, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it in your family.

It must throw up a lot of difficult situations, like having to 'hold your whisht' when you can see all the negatives in what's going on so close to you.
Wishing you well in navigating your way around it.

hasn't it been said that if left alone these people end up being gay - masculine lesbians or effeminate gay men or any type in between. Which is great and to be celebrated!

edited to say without being pressured

I think it depends what their sex is and their age. If they're young they're potentially sterilising themselves, although I think they can be offered, I think it's called gamete preservation. Sperm and egg freezing. Obviously dodgier for a natal female, getting eggs extracted, implanted, the much greater chance of failure. For a natal male, wank into a cup. Although they both may need a surrogate. Older people may have completed their families or are more likely to be sure that's not what they want.

If they are younger and they haven't been counselled about their fertility, I think they need that conversation. Even if it's embarrassing or icky!