We all know men who come into these discussions with these overly simplistic and wildly oblivious points. We all know how it goes when their lack of empathy, insight, and ability to understand nuance, alongside their bullish desire to cling to their own, sense of rightness, means that any attempt to explain anything puts you on a road to nowhere. Personally, I just cba anymore.
As a small example - you are making an assumption that any woman who argues about a systemic issue, such as men's failure to take on unpaid work, means they are talking about their relationship with their partner, and that the solution to the problem is to address only their own circumstance. Well, 1) we can talk about things more broadly, even gasp if our own circumstances don't fit that description, because we see these issues causing problems for women more broadly and care about that, and 2) feminist solutions need to be systemic because the fundamental problems causing them are systemic.
Empathy, insight, and ability to understand nuance. Until you get these no amount of 'explaining where you're wrong' is going to make the tiniest bit of difference. These arguments are so tired, and the intention seems to be to just wear us down until we agree with you. Know this: silence does not equal agreement.