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I knew it was coming: teaching about Trans in school.

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ExcitedButNervous0424 · 08/05/2024 12:23

My son is in Year 5 (10 years old) and we’ve had the letter come home about what sex education topics they will covering in this school year, including a copy of the school’s policy on Sex Education.

Sex Ed starts next term and amongst the list of topics will be covered there is “gender reassignment”.

I feel really uncomfortable about this.

I’ve already talk about sex and gender with both my children at home but it doesn’t sit right with me that the school are going to discussing it and essentially feeding the children a false narrative.

I do not want the school, which is what my son sees as his place of learning and education, telling him that girls can turn into boys and boys can turn girls.

Has anyone else recently been in this position? I don’t know how to navigate it without coming across as some kind of bigot.

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 08/05/2024 12:27

Here you are OP - Safe Schools Alliance can help:
https://safeschoolsallianceuk.net/schools-resources-and-policies/

Have they sent you details of the materials they'll be using? Parents can ask to see them and they should be shared:

https://educationhub.blog.gov.uk/2023/10/24/rshe-relationships-health-sex-education-review-curriculum-to-protect-children/

Schools resources & policies - Safe Schools Alliance UK

Many schools' PSHE resources come from gender ideology lobby groups. This guide supports parents in countering incorrect information..

https://safeschoolsallianceuk.net/schools-resources-and-policies

ArabellaScott · 08/05/2024 12:28

Which bit of the UK are you in, OP?

LogicLoverLlama · 08/05/2024 13:01

this thread will help a little as well - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/feminism/5050645-cass-report-school-policies-write-to-your-childs-school-for-evidence-their-current-policies-and-practices-are-lawful-and-in-line-with-the-cass-report-links-starter-info

Cass report & School Policies - Write to your child's school for evidence their current policies and practices are lawful and in line with the Cass Report (links + starter info) | Mumsnet

This post is to give you, concerned parents, enough information to write to your child's school (or their old school) and ask if the schools policies...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/feminism/5050645-cass-report-school-policies-write-to-your-childs-school-for-evidence-their-current-policies-and-practices-are-lawful-and-in-line-with-the-cass-report-links-starter-info

Neolara · 08/05/2024 13:04

I think it's fine to talk about trans stuff in schools. It's everywhere and important for kids to know about it. The key issue is what will the school be saying. Hopefully the Cass report has given some clarity to the approach.

LakeTiticaca · 08/05/2024 15:28

Can you still refuse for your child to join the SE class?

Leafstamp · 08/05/2024 15:30

You are absolutely right to be concerned about this. I would ask to see the materials. The school is obliged to share them with you.

earther · 08/05/2024 16:06

Im so pleased my kids dont go to school now thankful them days are over.
The way schools are now i dont know how parents put up with it teachers put stress not only on kids but parents more.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 08/05/2024 16:09

The way schools are now i dont know how parents put up with it teachers put stress not only on kids but parents more.

Teachers put stress on parents? More like the other way around imo.

OP, are you able to request to see the materials or find out what slant the school will be putting on this? Hopefully in the light of the Cass report, schools will be less keen to just say children can change sex.

Biscofffan · 08/05/2024 16:27

As a retired teacher I am thankful that I was never asked to touch on this. How on earth do you? And if you get it 'wrong' or object to it, would your teaching union support you? Seems highly unlikely given that they are captured. Minefield for teachers and for parents.

ShakySwan · 08/05/2024 16:36

I basically am trying to treat this in the way I treat religion - we are not religious by my child was given a place in a very religious catholic school. I just keep on saying 'some people believe that....' and now my eldest is older she knows full well that I am not one of those 'some people'. She is 12 now and I am hoping that she won't be sucked into the cult. Her views on the trans kids in the school is that they all seem a bit sad really (as in miserable) and so I do have hope that she can see it for what it is.

IWilloBeACervix · 08/05/2024 16:58

I’ve been into my children’s primary and secondary school. I felt completely out of my comfort zone, but being as my youngest is a target of this ideology I am motivated to go in.

im probably quite lucky with the schools and they aren’t too bad. The primary school doesn’t touch the subject. They do puberty, different kinds of families etc.

I’d advise you to take a personal approach. I can go in to the primary and say how concerned I am that someone in authority might make her think she was born in the wrong body because she likes ‘boy stuff’. The old DFE guidance is clear that no one should be teaching the ‘wrong body’ narrative. The new guidance is a bit more messy and needs work.

id be really curious about what they would be teaching primary school children about gender re-assignment. How is that appropriate?

Pluck up your courage and ask to see the materials. Make them justify why they think it’s appropriate for children.

if they don’t listen the use your networks. Talk to every parent you know and see what they think. Encourage anyone you can to speak to the school.

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