Pregnancy/motherhood Discord servers that know what a woman is?

[ninetales]

Hello, I've got terrible tokophobia and am newly pregnant as a first time mum, so I'm in the pits right now, and my Discord bump group making everything gender neutral is making it worse. I could cringe past the "choose your pronouns" option (including he/him!), but "birthing parent" was my line in the sand. The simpering status-signalling has set me off and I want to be around normal, sex-realist women who won't contort themselves in knots to communicate in the socially acceptable way, and won't expect me to do the same. I am NOT a birthing parent. (Once I'm safely ensconced in a new community I'll challenge this group's policies openly.)
Not necessarily looking for somewhere expressly political (I know, birth is political) because I'm a bit wary of groupishness, but I'll take what I can get at this point. If you know of any Discord servers (or hell even Facebook groups) please DM me. I'm desperate. Thank you.

You could make one yourself perhaps? I'd happily join ^^

I'm due for my 20 week scan in 10 days and it's my first too so very nervous. Been hesitant to join any groups for fear of gender-woo bollocks - Even reddit spaces I've glanced at haven't been great.

The Pregnancy Talk space on MN is good though so far!
Not seen anything particularly "woo-y" just yet! Though it's not always massively active ime.

Does it have to be Discord? I don't know much about it but why not try mumsnet pregnancy boards? They were a life saver for me several moons ago.

ninetales and SpicyMoth Congratulations to you both ! 💐

Congratulations from me as well.
I'm surrounded by Mums and babies at the moment - all of who roll their eyes at the nonsense language. And all who became full on terfs the minute their baby was born - determined to protect them from this toxic nonsense.

Awh tysm @Myalternate ! ;u; <3
It's so exciting and terrifying all at the the first time, isn't it?!
There's nothing quite like the solidarity, comfort and reassurance from other women who have gone through it before you!

I'd honestly be lost without MN's Pregnancy boards as I don't have many irl friends anymore since moving, I really do highly recommend them @ninetales!

I don't have a phobia like you do OP, but there definitely is a fear element to the whole process even so - it's a massive thing to go through, but you're not alone and there's absolutely loads of women going through their pregnancies right along with you!
We're all here for each other <3

Congratulations @ninetales and sorry to hear you are experiencing tokophobia.

I've been in two bumpers groups, one for each of my babies. One started on Reddit and is mostly US based, the other here on good old Mumsnet and is mostly UK based.

If you find pronoun nonsense enraging then I suggest you avoid anything US based and stick to UK groups. Quite often bumper groups which start on the pregnancy board here will migrate to Facebook and WhatsApp.