The 'pregnant' man in the cafe today

[Dustyblue]

At the local cafe with my 7 y/o, queuing to order. Saw there was a pregnant woman (so I thought) next to me said "You go 1st if you like".

Reply was "Oh I couldn't but thank you for offering. I haven't decided yet- my tummy, you know?" patting her belly.

Deep voice, big hands, took a closer look & realised this was a man with a small basketball up his frock.

So, apart from anything else, he wants to experience the 'niceties' of being pregnant. Great. Is he going to self induce the nausea, perhaps drop some acid to attempt to replicate PND?

Just a moan, I'm tired of this shit.

"I haven't decided yet- my tummy, you know?"

realised this was a man with a small basketball up his frock.

It's taken coming back to this thread and re-reading it to realise he meant he hadn't decided what to eat because his decision was altered due to a pretend pregnancy.

On first reading I thought he was undecided what to do with his ball.

Are you sure it wasn't a beer gut?

Been thinking about this all day, and some of the posters here have hit the nail on exactly what I didn't like about this.

It's not only the misappropriation of womanhood, it's the involving of strangers in a fantasy/fetish. This man absolutely wanted to involve people in the idea he was pregnant and engaged with me as such. I felt a fool when I realised I'd been duped.

I don't know... but I feel like there's almost an unspoken code between woman in general and amongst mothers with their young. When I was pregnant, I trusted women with children, as a Mum I'd do anything for a pregnant stranger. The lines ae far too blurred.

Thanks all for an interesting discussion, I appreciate it.

🤣 it would be funny if it actually was just a guy wondering whether to have a cake or not because he thinks he's a bit portly.

Reproductive capacity is arguably one of the roots of women's oppression which is why it's so bloody galling and offensive when men like to play it as a costume.