It's a bullshit saying, used to justify racial discrimination.
You are still missing the point - it's evident wher you say, "I'm not saying it's laudatory to discriminate against a specific group,,,"
You have said, very clearly, that in a (clearly fake) choice between two equal candidates, it is laudatory to discriminate against a specific, real, white man, on the basis of his race.
That is the exact flip of choosing the white man over a black man, or a woman, on the basis of race or sex. In each case, you are specifically choosing to deny employment on the basis of race.
The relation between the actual individual person, and their "group" membership, is the same in every case.
This is why KB keeps trying to emphasise that the law on this is not just protecting members of certain groups, it's everyone who has these characteristics, at the individual level.
What you are esposing is deeply racist and will only lead to more deep racism.