Rant incoming as I have been stewing overnight.
Dear Evan Davis
You said there has been an absolute explosion in the number of teenagers, particularly girls attending gender clinics. Yes. Absolutely. You are 100% right.
The number is terrifyingly high.
And there are large numbers of people from their school teachers to their friends, and their GSA clubs and their online contacts on Pokemon discord servers, from the 'be kiiiind' do-gooders to the creepy random men on the Internet grooming them and trying to 'crack their eggs' all cheering them on.
Plus NHS doctors who have spent under an hour with them setting them on a path to potential medicalisation and barristers with a screamingly obvious vested interest misrepresenting the law and then add in Stonewall-captured organisations rewriting policies (so safeguarding and the social contract is broken) and you have a perfect storm. Next thank media and the BBC for shoehorning drag and the TQ in at every opportunity (but ignoring the scandals of WPATH - out go age limits and in comes Eunuch gender - way to go!) and the Guardian for cheerleading and the opposition saying that women have penises - yey, look at them all chipping in their pennyworth and feeling so virtuous and right side of history-ish!
And even here in this little corner of the Internet, if we talk about struggles with our girls or boys caught up in this gender madness, someone is sure to come along and censoriously correct us. When we talk about our boys they will say 'maybe you should just believe your daughter and accept her for who she truly is'. Ugh.
So I was supposed to think that my neurodiverse teenage boy, who I had loved and looked after and changed countless nappies for, who had suddenly adopted a fake high voice and a set of 'girly' mannerisms and had bought some black eyeliner and some girl knickers and was feverishly plucking his body hair and whose mental health had fallen off a cliff was now, magically, some sort of girl otherwise I was a bigot/he would kill himself? Riiiight.
Even Mumsnet makes us pussyfoot around and contort our language, what with not being able to use male pronouns for men with special identities and our Malaga airports and our c word and g word and don't mention the ultimate goal of the pressure on the age of consent unless you want to be deleted and that's 'not in the spirit' when we tell the truth.
So yes, Evan. They are girls.
I don't want anyone to come after you for saying so. After all they came after Justin Webb who just clarified that transwomen were male. But if they did, then I would say, that feeling you'd have, that mutinous feeling that underneath it all you know it's the truth and you shouldn't be punished for not contorting your language into transboy and demi boi and non binary when there are really no such things - that is nothing compared to the sick feeling I have had every day for the last few years trying not to let my son steer himself into the rocks.
They are girls. And they are boys.
And we are failing them.