As neurodivergent, I can totally see, "I don't fit into the "narrow social constraint of definition feminism". E.g. not delicate, not dainty, not eloquent, too blunt.
Therefore must be male.
Rather than: there are so many different ways to be female, and wearing makeup and fitting into size eight clothes and sitting and counselling other people and being the centre of attention for my looks and partying all night doesn't make me a female.
What does make me a female are my genetics that caused me to have a womb, ovaries, wide hips, breasts and restrictions from my family as to who I was meant to be friends with, what was acceptable as my interests, where I could and couldn't go.
I didn't ask for any of that to the point of naively age eleven trying to work out how many periods I might have "to get used to" before my mid forties, and wonder if I wished it hard enough I could have them done 12 weeks a year, so 12 weeks or three months, for 35 years so 105 weeks, so can I put them end to end and get periods done in 2 years please.
The mess, the unpredictability (especially in the first and later years) little red dictator every four weeks. I didn't want it, I didn't like it.
Why wasn't this put to us as celebratory? Explained it was part of life? So happy I haven't had my period for two months, intermittent for the last year. At last!!
No man would wish for periods, if they knew what it involved, physical and social and the pretence of it by those pretending to be female is insulting.