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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
LittleMissViper · 01/02/2024 13:50

"I asked Carol at the end of our first appointment if she thought I could become straight. She told me that, yes, she had faith it could happen. “There’s not a plan of where it has to go, but if that was something you wanted to explore the possibility of I would be open to that. Are you open to that?” I said that I was."

So she asked the therapist whether she could be converted, and when the therapist checked that was really what she wanted, she agreed.

Surely that's affirming? Just swap out 'straight' for 'trans'.

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 14:01

I admit I am somewhat disturbed by some of the responses on this thread, on a feminist page, arguing against the journalist as she went in 'in bad faith' and seeming to argue that she did not give the therapy a chance.

Firstly, its a bit of a non-starter as the journalist clearly and openly went in there to get material for an article, not to actually receive therapy. She does not hide it. So no wonder she did not talk about very personal matters like sexual trauma. That's perfectly legitimate.

This therapy is bad faith. It starts with the premise that being gay or lesbian is a sinful aberration, and that there is a reason for that to have happened, and if you can deal with that you can ungay people.

I have read quite a bit of Christian literature by Christians who think you can 'ungay' people and this counsellor comes out with all the classic lines and arguments that these particular Christians do.

We can surely mount arguments against the bad arguments for including gender identity in the conversion therapy bill, without having to resort to apparently defending such abhorrent practices of the counsellor in this article. I know we can.

But if the arguments people are presenting here are the best you have, then you have no case at all.

PencilsInSpace · 01/02/2024 14:27

This therapy is bad faith. It starts with the premise that being gay or lesbian is a sinful aberration, and that there is a reason for that to have happened, and if you can deal with that you can ungay people.

I have read quite a bit of Christian literature by Christians who think you can 'ungay' people and this counsellor comes out with all the classic lines and arguments that these particular Christians do.

Well yes, but the website the journalist mentions (Core Issues Trust) is very upfront about who they are and what they do. This is from their home page:

We support those leaving LGBT identities, behaviours, attractions and life choices.

We campaign for the freedom to access pastoral care, counselling and therapeutic choice, now under threat, internationally, by ‘conversion therapy’ bans. Its trustees and projects are advised by a range of like-minded individuals from Anglican, Roman Catholic, Pentecostal and Reformed traditions.

I don't like what they do but they can hardly be accused of 'bad faith'. They have a genuine belief that homosexuality is wrong and can be 'cured' and they do exactly what it says on the tin.

NecessaryScene · 01/02/2024 14:29

This therapy is bad faith. It starts with the premise that being gay or lesbian is a sinful aberration, and that there is a reason for that to have happened, and if you can deal with that you can ungay people.

But what's actually the problem here that merits a "ban"?

"I want to become straight." "I can help you with that with some talking therapy."

Okay, so the evidence is that the counsellor probably can't provide the service being asked for, but this is something for trading standards at most, surely?

It's on a par with homeopathy or astrology. Do we ban everything nonsensical or ineffectual? If you want to lobby for not spending public money on it, I'm with you, but trying to go around prosecuting people who waste clients money while providing what they ask for is rather illiberal.

And it's clearly far less bad than

"I want to become a man." "Okay, I can give you testosterone injections and chop your breasts off, and maybe later we'll remove part of your arm."

That's not being ineffectual - that's actually doing permanent physical damage with no benefit.

If you are going to ban attempts at sexual orientation change through talking therapy while not banning attempts at sex change through physical operations then your ethical framework seems to be incoherent.

If you're going to fling around words like "abhorrent" for the idea that there can be something wrong with your sexuality, then why aren't you applying it to the idea that there can be something wrong with your sex?

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 14:56

PencilsInSpace · 01/02/2024 14:27

This therapy is bad faith. It starts with the premise that being gay or lesbian is a sinful aberration, and that there is a reason for that to have happened, and if you can deal with that you can ungay people.

I have read quite a bit of Christian literature by Christians who think you can 'ungay' people and this counsellor comes out with all the classic lines and arguments that these particular Christians do.

Well yes, but the website the journalist mentions (Core Issues Trust) is very upfront about who they are and what they do. This is from their home page:

We support those leaving LGBT identities, behaviours, attractions and life choices.

We campaign for the freedom to access pastoral care, counselling and therapeutic choice, now under threat, internationally, by ‘conversion therapy’ bans. Its trustees and projects are advised by a range of like-minded individuals from Anglican, Roman Catholic, Pentecostal and Reformed traditions.

I don't like what they do but they can hardly be accused of 'bad faith'. They have a genuine belief that homosexuality is wrong and can be 'cured' and they do exactly what it says on the tin.

Bad faith was perhaps not the right word.

Reprehensible may be better.

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 15:13

NecessaryScene · 01/02/2024 14:29

This therapy is bad faith. It starts with the premise that being gay or lesbian is a sinful aberration, and that there is a reason for that to have happened, and if you can deal with that you can ungay people.

But what's actually the problem here that merits a "ban"?

"I want to become straight." "I can help you with that with some talking therapy."

Okay, so the evidence is that the counsellor probably can't provide the service being asked for, but this is something for trading standards at most, surely?

It's on a par with homeopathy or astrology. Do we ban everything nonsensical or ineffectual? If you want to lobby for not spending public money on it, I'm with you, but trying to go around prosecuting people who waste clients money while providing what they ask for is rather illiberal.

And it's clearly far less bad than

"I want to become a man." "Okay, I can give you testosterone injections and chop your breasts off, and maybe later we'll remove part of your arm."

That's not being ineffectual - that's actually doing permanent physical damage with no benefit.

If you are going to ban attempts at sexual orientation change through talking therapy while not banning attempts at sex change through physical operations then your ethical framework seems to be incoherent.

If you're going to fling around words like "abhorrent" for the idea that there can be something wrong with your sexuality, then why aren't you applying it to the idea that there can be something wrong with your sex?

Genuine wow at this post on a feminist board.

Firstly I completely reject your equivalence between sexual orientation and gender dysphoria.

Sexual orientation is part of normal human (arguably mammalian) variation. It only causes distress if the culture the gay/lesbian person lives in is homophobic. Same as the social experience of being a female only causes distress if there is sexism, and being black only causes distress if you live in a society where there is racism targeted at your race. Sexual orientation does not inherently cause distress, only the culture the individual lives in. That is why attempts to 'cure' homosexuality are inherently homophobic.

Gender/ sex dysphoria is a condition that always causes distress because of the condition. There are many different potential causes of GD, as outlined in the Cass report, and as used to be accepted. People can find their gender dysphoria resolves naturally, or they can find ways to manage it without transitioning, perhaps with therapy. It is a condition, like other mental health conditions, that may be resolved or managed with support or therapy ( or just puberty if you are a child with GD). Furthermore, due to the 'marketing' around GD, there is good reason to believe that children who do not have GD are self diagnosing and progressing down inappropriate health care paths. All of these factors need to explored.
A conversion therapy ban assumes, that GD is not GD but is rather an innate, born state of Gender Identity being that must be affirmed and supported with transition. In other words, this legislation is based on an ideological rather than an evidence based understanding of why people express feelings of GD. And it will lead to the cause and management of GD not being fully or appropriately explored.

PorcelinaV · 01/02/2024 15:37

@NecessaryScene

Okay, so the evidence is that the counsellor probably can't provide the service being asked for, but this is something for trading standards at most, surely?

I would say just require that people are given a warning about the lack of evidence. If adults then choose to try anyway, that's up to them.

There is lots of questionable stuff in religion, like handling poisonous snakes. I doubt it's a good idea; it's clearly dangerous, but I'm not going to tell consenting adults that they can't do it.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 01/02/2024 15:38

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 14:01

I admit I am somewhat disturbed by some of the responses on this thread, on a feminist page, arguing against the journalist as she went in 'in bad faith' and seeming to argue that she did not give the therapy a chance.

Firstly, its a bit of a non-starter as the journalist clearly and openly went in there to get material for an article, not to actually receive therapy. She does not hide it. So no wonder she did not talk about very personal matters like sexual trauma. That's perfectly legitimate.

This therapy is bad faith. It starts with the premise that being gay or lesbian is a sinful aberration, and that there is a reason for that to have happened, and if you can deal with that you can ungay people.

I have read quite a bit of Christian literature by Christians who think you can 'ungay' people and this counsellor comes out with all the classic lines and arguments that these particular Christians do.

We can surely mount arguments against the bad arguments for including gender identity in the conversion therapy bill, without having to resort to apparently defending such abhorrent practices of the counsellor in this article. I know we can.

But if the arguments people are presenting here are the best you have, then you have no case at all.

Except the journalist did hide that from the therapist - and then moaned about how the "therapy" made her feel. An honest approach would have been to interview her. She went in undercover and misled the therapist about her intentions while making much of the fact that she didn't like the experience.

Of course feminists should analyse journalism. Imho especially when a journalist attempts to conflate LGBT as one coherent group and then writes a disjointed article that presents her "experiences" as a rationale for why "conversion therapy" is wrong, ignoring all the recent in depth debates as to why this is more complex than it at first appears for different groups.
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I'm not defending the therapist or her practices - they appear unimpressive. I just think that the "journalism" was rather uninformed and failed to accurately represent the issues and that's a perfectly legitimate position.

How you get to "But if the arguments people are presenting here are the best you have, then you have no case at all" I'm not sure?

ResisterRex · 01/02/2024 15:51

Hold on, have they trotted out almost the same article from 2021?

x.com/transgendertrd/status/1753068176706052498?s=46&t=WHoOZ_3Kv5G6-FyQuvE0LQ

NumberTheory · 01/02/2024 15:54

ResisterRex · 01/02/2024 15:51

Hold on, have they trotted out almost the same article from 2021?

x.com/transgendertrd/status/1753068176706052498?s=46&t=WHoOZ_3Kv5G6-FyQuvE0LQ

It does say at the start of the article that she did this in 2021, it’s cheap on the Guardian’s part but it doesn’t really change anything about it, does it?

PorcelinaV · 01/02/2024 15:56

@aarghnotmeagain

Firstly, its a bit of a non-starter as the journalist clearly and openly went in there to get material for an article, not to actually receive therapy. She does not hide it. So no wonder she did not talk about very personal matters like sexual trauma. That's perfectly legitimate.

I'm not sure in this situation.

Of course it's sometimes OK for journalists to be deceptive or withhold things for the sake of a story; but if that then (possibly) messes up the process, and you are later complaining about the therapy process in your story, arguably you aren't in a position to give fair criticism.

Perhaps you could say that such and such criticisms don't depend on her genuinely taking part in the therapy.

PorcelinaV · 01/02/2024 16:05

@aarghnotmeagain

Sexual orientation is part of normal human (arguably mammalian) variation. It only causes distress if the culture the gay/lesbian person lives in is homophobic. Same as the social experience of being a female only causes distress if there is sexism, and being black only causes distress if you live in a society where there is racism targeted at your race. Sexual orientation does not inherently cause distress, only the culture the individual lives in. That is why attempts to 'cure' homosexuality are inherently homophobic.

This is a reasonable perspective, but why force it on the whole of society?

Against a Christian, you would be begging the question that there can't be a spiritual reality, and the spiritual reality can't be in conflict with the natural order in certain ways.

Should your worldview be imposed on everyone else, when we are talking about consenting adults doing some "therapy" you disapprove of?

Obviously we can't allow just anything in the name of religion; but I think we shouldn't be treating adults like children.

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 16:36

@PorcelinaV

I absolutely don't agree with this open market place of all ideas and practices and adults can do what they like.

No I don't.

That's why I don't think its okay to purchase access to women's bodies for money.

I don't think its okay to surgically remove women's breasts, or iron them flat, if sexism has caused them to reject their femininity, or to feel safer if they don't look feminine.

I don't think its ok to perform nullification surgery on a man.

And I don't think its okay to offer a 'therapeutic' service to agree with clients that being same sex attraction is a manifestation of something that is wrong with them, when that belief is rooted in homophobic beliefs.

All of these things are exploiting someone's vulnerability rather than enabling them to withstand the forces oppressing them.

They are all the opposite of what feminism should be.

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 16:38

Should your worldview be imposed on everyone else, when we are talking about consenting adults doing some "therapy" you disapprove of?

Those adults are not equal. One of them is vulnerable because of internalised homophobia. The other is exploiting that to push their ideology onto them.

That should not be allowed, no.

Just as therapists should not be pushing their gender identity beliefs onto those presenting with apparent symptoms of gender dysphoria.

aarghnotmeagain · 01/02/2024 17:28

OK for journalists to be deceptive or withhold things for the sake of a story; but if that then (possibly) messes up the process, and you are later complaining about the therapy process in your story, arguably you aren't in a position to give fair criticism

Except the journalist did hide that from the therapist - and then moaned about how the "therapy" made her feel....She went in undercover and misled the therapist about her intentions while making much of the fact that she didn't like the experience

Can you two actually hear what you are arguing for here?

This was an article about how it feels to be told there is something inherently wrong with a core part of you. Its the same as going to a racist counsellor who confirms to you that yes, there is something wrong because you are black. Or a misogynist counsellor who tells you, yes you are inferior because you are a woman.

The article was about how it feels, to be in that sort of therapy that tells you there is something wrong with an inherent (and unalterable) part of you, a part of you that a prejudiced culture is telling you is wrong and bad.

You are attempting to argue that such a therapy could have been a positive experience after all, if only the journalist had been 'fair'.

That if only the journalist had revealed more of her traumatic past to such a person, there was a possibility that the therapy might have been helpful after all! What are you thinking here? That maybe, the counsellor could have convinced her that her abuse had made her a lesbian and now she could be cured of that bad lesbianism. Hoorah! And then we could have all seen that converting lesbians to being straight can be a great thing after all and the article was fair??

There is no sense in this case you are making.

We have to argue with integrity. Knee jerk reactions where on tries to demolish everything someone says, simply because of the box we have put them in, not only makes us no better than TRAs, but means we have lost our integrity.

OldCrone · 01/02/2024 21:36

ResisterRex · 01/02/2024 15:51

Hold on, have they trotted out almost the same article from 2021?

x.com/transgendertrd/status/1753068176706052498?s=46&t=WHoOZ_3Kv5G6-FyQuvE0LQ

I've just read that earlier article. At the end it says that The Times contacted 'Carol', the therapist, who told them:

“I have never held myself out as a provider of, nor do I offer, counselling to any client with the aim to change their sexuality. To the best of my knowledge there are no UK therapists who have ever described themselves as ‘conversion therapists’. The term ‘conversion therapy’ is an imposed term, is misleading and forces an implied definition of ‘conversion’. I took ‘Rachel’ at her word and sought to serve her in a bid to help her come to terms with her true self.” She added that she was very sad to learn that “Rachel” is a journalist.

PriOn1 · 01/02/2024 23:15

You are attempting to argue that such a therapy could have been a positive experience after all, if only the journalist had been 'fair'.

I think this is where you have misunderstood what people are saying.

I don’t imagine anyone here thinks the therapist is doing something particularly good

It’s quite possible to criticize the way the “journalist” investigated the topic without thinking that.

PorcelinaV · 02/02/2024 10:08

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