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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
CuriousAlien · 09/12/2023 08:44

Thanks for posting this. I found it very interesting to listen to Az Hakeem's clinical experience. More data. More conversations. More awareness. More choice. More helpful action. No debate and affirmation only would mean the death of psychotherapy.

RoyalCorgi · 09/12/2023 10:35

Dr Az is great. He's very forthright, which makes a refreshing change. So many of us beat about the bush when talking about this issue.

WhickDittington · 09/12/2023 10:47

It’s also worth listening to the podcast “The Queens’ Speech” with Dr Hakeem. I ❤️ the Queens. Dennis Kavanagh on Twitter is wonderful.

BonfireLady · 09/12/2023 11:44

Just listened to this. A really interesting conversation.

The bit that I still think is missing is helping adolescent boys who are being drawn, through a combination of social contagion and their own emerging sexuality, towards Malaga Airport behaviour.

Benjamin Boyce asked Dr Az about how a therapist would know if someone could be helped with their perversion or not and the answer was "you can't change someone's sexuality". That makes sense. But what if someone is young and confused, for example an autistic adolescent boy who doesn't understand the blurry lines between why they feel turned on looking at anime or gaming as female avatars and seeing themselves as women IRL? This could easily lead to escalating behaviour to explore how it feels to wear women's clothes and use women's spaces etc. It seems like a combination of early Malaga Airport behaviour being exacerbated by an autistic black and white understanding of what women are and sexual fantasy. Left unchecked, this could well develop in to full-blown Malaga Airport but surely there must be a point at which this could be course-corrected. Just as adolescent girls (gay and straight) and gay boys are being failed by what's happening with the affirmation model, I think heterosexual adolescent boys are being failed at scale too. The largest common factor within all these groups of young people is autism. The knock-on effect is felt by women and girls because of the boundary crossing, when these adolescent boys grow in to young men and assert their "gender identity" as women. Heterosexual men who identify as women are by far the most active group online. I can't believe that all of them are beyond hope or help when they are young.

OldCrone · 09/12/2023 12:29

RoyalCorgi · 09/12/2023 10:35

Dr Az is great. He's very forthright, which makes a refreshing change. So many of us beat about the bush when talking about this issue.

It's very much like the way Helen Joyce talks about it. He says at one point "there's no such thing as trans". He's right. Whenever we ask gender ideology believers here to explain what they mean by 'trans', they can't do it. That's because "trans" now covers everything from the fetishist who is aroused by wearing women's underwear to teenagers saying that they are non-binary because "trans" is the new youth movement. How can you put both those categories (and all the others) under the same "trans umbrella"? It makes no sense.

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/12/2023 14:30

I think it is reasonable to say that "trans" is an umbrella that covers a wide group of people who have two things in common (1) they claim to be trans, and (2) there are very good reasons why, after balancing their individual situation and motivation and their wants, and the needs of civilized society, they should not be presenting the way they do in public.

OldCrone · 09/12/2023 14:49

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/12/2023 14:30

I think it is reasonable to say that "trans" is an umbrella that covers a wide group of people who have two things in common (1) they claim to be trans, and (2) there are very good reasons why, after balancing their individual situation and motivation and their wants, and the needs of civilized society, they should not be presenting the way they do in public.

But it also covers perfectly normal teenage girls who like to have short hair and wear 'boyish' clothes. Just like loads of girls used to do 40 or 50 years ago. Except now they call themselves 'non-binary' and are under the trans umbrella. Why shouldn't they present like that in public when lots of us used to in the 70s?

pronounsbundlebundle · 09/12/2023 18:00

I really think a lot of Malaga airport behaviour is fuelled by porn. If you took away porn, I honestly believe abuse of women and girls would be reduced - all the choking stuff definitely wasn't a thing when I was in my dating years (so very, very, long ago...). The internet has made it much worse. Men used to have to go into a newsagent and ask for the saucy mags which were pretty vanilla from memory compared to the horrors of abuse today.

Villagetoraiseachild · 09/12/2023 18:47

Thanks for posting this Op. Came across it a few days ago and thought it was a great dialogue. Dr Hakeem is a clear communicator. Has anyone read his book?

WitchyWitcherson · 09/12/2023 19:18

Is Malaga airport the same as "alpha golf papa"? Are we not allowed to use the acronym any more?

BonfireLady · 09/12/2023 19:22

It is indeed.
I think we are allowed but my one and only deletion happened when I used the acronym (about 3 or 4 months ago) so I avoid doing so. Comments do seem to stay with it in these days.

Sisterpita · 10/12/2023 12:04

I have repeatedly used AGP and Autogynaephilia on these pages over the last few years and to my knowledge have never had a post deleted.

How on earth did we end up with “Malaga Airport” as a code word?

Villagetoraiseachild · 10/12/2023 12:15

AGP is the three letter airport code for Malaga airport.

Sisterpita · 10/12/2023 13:08

Thank you - never would have got that.

Tallisker · 10/12/2023 18:32

I think discussions about AGP leanings in general are ok to use the TLA, but when you get to talking about an actual identifiable individual it becomes problematic. Hence the airport code.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 10/12/2023 18:38

MN moderators haven’t been completely consistent when applying their policies on the use of AGP, for which I don’t really blame them. It feels as if there has been a bit of a shift from very strict policing.

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