Every day girls are being forced to have degrading, violent sex their boyfriends have seen in porn

[IwantToRetire]

Almost every shift, it would happen again. A young girl writing in, describing what was quite clearly a rape, but not fully understanding that’s what had happened to her — almost always with a boy she was in a relationship with.

Every day, young girls would describe being pressured, coerced, manipulated, and downright forced to have painful sex, degrading sex, violent sex, and sex like their boyfriends had seen in porn. This charity wasn’t a rape crisis charity, but it was becoming one. I wasn’t a rape crisis worker, but I was becoming one. Quite quickly, I started to dread my shifts. After I’d clocked out, I didn’t feel fulfilled for my altruistic contribution to the world, but a deep rage at what was happening to young girls.

The impact of pornography appeared to infiltrate every shift. It happened in overt ways, like girls worried about the safety of being choked, or being expected to have anal sex, and then there were boys writing in, getting increasingly addicted to porn, unable to be turned on by a ‘real’ girl, and worried about their penis size or how long they can last. But there was a worrying covert impact too. A mass miseducation about what sexual consent really meant, sold to a generation raised on free, explicit, violent porn where up to 90% of the content shows physical aggression or violence, and women were the targets of this violence 97% of the time. Women in porn are almost always depicted as responding to this violence with pleasure or neutrality, meaning a generation of teens are internalising assumptions and expectations about the ‘sex’ expectation of young girls.

https://uk.news.yahoo.com/every-day-girls-being-forced-112806827.html

Not posted to promote a book, but to recognise that this has been discussed now for more than a few years, and if anything, it is getting worse.

Lets stop lying by saying this is all on men shall we. Which sex was the one who bought Fifty Shades of Grey in droves? A bunch of women really really like violent degrading porn:

https://fightthenewdrug.org/women-watch-more-violent-and-extreme-porn/

The rise of strangulation in sex is down to porn and also to fashion, Lib Fem sexual empowerment ideas. It is complicated.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8579901/

It is depressing, but true that women are asking for choking in sex as well as having it inflicted on them. Pretending all men are violent in the same way is nonsense. They all have the potential sure, but humans are social creatures they LEARN from each other what is good and bad behaviour. Some men are way way more aggressive than others [but can learn to control themselves], some seem kind and are secretly vicious, others are sickened by violence and avoid it in sex and get upset if asked to do it.

Forty years ago choking in sex was rare the fact it has become common in a time when women have gained way more political/social power is down to failures by both sexes. If we want to change that we need to actually address the deeper problems.

I can’t recall which feminist writer it was that suggested women’s use of bdsm and violent porn was a response to vawg, as a way of trying to take back some agency. It feels like there is something in that line of thought.

Indeed. I think girls are very prone to doing what is expected of them, including risking injury to themselves to impress boys by what they are prepared to do.

Yes I think we need to remember that much of what is discussed/done amongst kids in schools is becuawe of the need/want to " shock "

It used to be anal that was the more extreme thing to do that would have your mates Impressed. Give a lesson on how to have anal safely and teach them its a normal activity amongst couples and what happened. We moved on to choking, and inserting inanimate objects inside sone poor girls vagina ripping her to shreds.

If we start teaching how to do that " safely " in schools we simply provide a need to come up with something else every more risky dangerous or outrageous.

This nails it ^.

Gail Dines gives more info here ;