As you can see on the other thread about Cheryl Hole, there are differences in how women and men are expected to behave.
A woman complaining at misogyny, often by very calmly and factually stating 'this is misogyny' is labelled a 'twisted bigot' and this is 'hate speech' and 'abuse'.
If she explains why she objects to being called a 'hole' or being parodied by a man wearing fake breasts, she is pilloried.
If she objects to Lloyd Russell Mole's intemperate speech and behaviour, she is guilty of 'abuse'.
It's abhorrent to say that a woman calling a man 'misogynist' is the equivalent of a rape or death threat, and this is exactly what LRM is claiming.