It is not without significance that my negative attitude towards gay people, important for further events, was also influenced by the image of homosexual people in the media.
They often showed pictures from pride parades, in which gays, fetishists, and exhibitionists were seen strangely dressed and acting in a disturbing way.
And I, like so many other homosexual men, absolutely did not identify with such patterns and behaviors. I don't identify with them to this day.
Such media coverage reinforced my belief that homosexuality was something strange and repulsive, and in any case related to disorders - since individuals who appear to be mentally and sexually disturbed are shown as gay and seem to be almost the only ones who openly talk about it.
I was not aware that the media message does not reflect reality, that there are many ordinary gays outside the clubbing, exhibitionist, parading subculture. I do not condemn the latter, but I do criticize it for going too far in the wrong direction.
Unfortunately, the stereotype of coarse, flashy, immature, and hysterical, theatrical or exhibitionist gays manifesting their sexuality is still promoted by the gay subculture and some mainstream media, thus harming the next generations of young homosexual boys.
As a child and teenager, I was under the delusion that this kind of provocative-aggressive style was standard for gay people, which became another cause of my denial of my orientation.
I gave up hope of finding a regular gay boyfriend because I started to think that 'normal' gays were almost non-existent.
Today, after many years of observing the LGBT activist community, I know that the reason for the dominance of such controversial people or motifs at parades is that in many LGBT organizations the greater influence on their form and activity had and still has not homosexual people but 'queers', fetishists, and other special activists who link up to the theme of homosexuality, which gathers more and more social sympathy.
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The dispute on this topic is different from the way it is currently stereotypically presented.
It is not, as activists portray it, that we have poor and oppressed transgender people on the good side of history and transphobic bigots on the other side who got bored of bullying gays and switched to trans people.
The fact is that a large part of the critics of transactivists (and their demands) are gays and lesbians (who in English-speaking countries have started to set up new organizations - LGB, without trans and non-binary people), and classic feminists. And more and more scientists, doctors and psychologists.
The right wing primarily captures and publicizes this conflict, but it is not the main party to the dispute here. Presenting it on the basis that anyone who is against the demands of transsexuals supports the right-wing, is a demagogic falsification of reality.
Personally, I am definitely closer to left-wing views and I would not like my story to be used for political games.
This is a very informative article. I hope more will read it but fear because it is quite long they wont.
But apart from describing his experience, him calling out the manipulation of gay men and lesbians by queer activism is really important.
Even if many people dont realise it, there needs to be much greater understanding of the wilful damage done by extreem queer activists.