In talking about this subject I was introduced to the term 'toxic empathy', and it is particularly clear when it comes to sports.
You empathise so much with one person that you completely exclude all others. And this is so apparent when talking to any of my pals about this. They KNOW men can never be women, etc, but they might have in mind one trans person they know personally and they feel so sorry for that person, or could not ever imagine being rude to that person, that they apply it to ALL AREAS of this debate.
The claims about suicide, or trans women being murdered, buy in very effectively to toxic empathy. So now you empathise SO STRONGLY with these poor trans women you think the truth is somehow cruel, and trying to point out the impact on others is somehow cruel.
You even see video footage of TRAs being violent towards old women, but you are blinded by the 'empathy' you feel for that one confused teenager you know, or that trans woman crying after pouring soup on KJK. And you will NEVER see KJK crying. Or Maya, or Helen Joyce, or Sharron, or JKR.
A pal of mine said she was cheering for Laurel Hubbard because of all the awful online abuse she had suffered. When I pointed out online abuse directed at Riley Gaines who was, after all, forced to be named in front of a 6 foot 4 man in her changing rooms, she glazes over.
Toxic empathy!!!