Seen in the wild

[SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth]

OK. Now I am amused, confused, bemused

Went to a student house today, 2 tenants met me.

One was dressed like Holly Hobby. Pink ruffled pinafore dress, long hair tied up with a matching hair bow, ruffled ankle socks, Mary Jane shoes and a little gathered bag, also matching the dress, hanging from her wrist with a bow.

Cute and very retro I thought

Other tenant was pretty much Sporty Spice

Then apropos of nothing, I hadn't even asked their names, Holly Hobby says "I am non binary, you can call me They/Them"

I smiled and got on with the job "Is there anything you would like to report to the landlord?"

Holly Hobby stomped out of the house.

Sporty tells me, with an eye roll, I should have phrased that "Is there anything you/they/them would like to report to the landlord?"

I am afraid I laughed and said "but you were both here, talking directly to me, that's weird" and then got on with the job.

I am still trying to work it out. But maybe there is no sense in it?

Otherwise known as bullying. Though trying to bully your landlord (landthem?)/ agent (what are you OP?) during an inspection has got to win some sort of award for stupidity.

Next time I'd be tempted to retort by telling them your pronouns are 'Lord/Master'.

I am reminded of a super-posh, definitely female voice in a stairwell announcing “My pronouns are they, you cunt”.

Hopefully they’ll grow out of it, but I pity the poor sods who employ these prickly pears.

Be prepared for HH to make a complaint about you, to your boss if you have one, OP.

In the unlikely event of this causing flak, suggest the boss has a chat with HH... bound to commit an error!

Bahahaha! What an attention-seeking twerp!

😂

'I'm pro nouns, but I can't abide adjectives'.

"I am non binary, you can call me They/Them"

Wait a mo...
If HH objected to the second person, unsexed, singular or plural 'you' being applied to HHself and sporty, shouldn't HH also have refrained from using the conventional first person 'I' and 'me'?

Hang on some more.... so did HH assume that you were a 'you' without even asking which third-person pronouns you demanded that people use to address you in the second person?

How would you even ask what pronouns somebody uses, if you can't even assume you can address them as 'you'? "So what pronouns do... erm, this person I'm talking to now... use?" Even then, if you identify as a cat, sea cucumber, bottle of shampoo or wheelbarrow, by arrogantly assuming that you are a 'person', they've exposed themselves as the hateful, actually violent bigot that they are.

I once went to a conference (I think we can probably guess which party) with a young woman who resembled a Lolita French maid. With enormous nu-rock boots. A they/them of course. 🙄

I’ve heard this before too.

I don’t seem to encounter a lot of ‘this’, possibly due to my line of work and ability to give off a don’t mess with me I’m busy vibe, but sometimes something is sprung on me. Earlier this month, meeting a 26 or so year old woman who looked mainstream in a work context she said casually ‘by the way I’m non-binary’.

I heard myself say, in my gran’s voice, ‘that’s nice’.

Sniggering at this.

I'd be tempted to say "cool story bro" and see if they accused me of misgendering.

They, their....

Maybe NBs want us to address them in the third person now, like a King? It would be natural development for that level of self-importance.

"Does their Nonbinariness have any house repairs to report?"

I may start identifying as Oliver Cromwell.

😁

A reasonable explanation when the thread wants to ridicule?
Steady now...

I'm working on "Really?" and a raised eyebrow.

Must study some clips of Roger Moore.

A punk that wasn't attention seeking? How did that work then? Attention was at the heart of the style and movement!

I'd go with 'ah, aren't we all'.

Usually, when a young person is attention seeking, they need some, erm, attention. They could be being a complete idiot, or obnoxious, but often aside of that, they are in need.

So are we all. Part of the experience of becoming an adult is learning that.

'They you cunt' would be how I'd refer to them in that case.

It's very sad that you all want to mock and ridicule a young person in this way.
I'm sure some of your parents and grandparents generations didn't like the way you dressed or behaved. It's all a part of finding your way in this world. The current 20 year olds were locked down at 17- we all suffered from Covid but the current under 25s suffered worse IMO because they should have been able to be learning to navigate their young adult or teen lives. But they couldn't.
As I say, the jumping to conclusions, ridicule and mocking is very sad. In every way.

Who’d have thunk it? Those old folk from the Midlands and the North have been ahead of this accurate gendering game for generations.

We're helping them to make up on the socialisation learning experience they missed out on during Covid. They should be paying us.

It's very sad that you all want to mock and ridicule a young person in this way.

Any adult who flounces off at being quite correctly addressed as 'you' deserves all the ridicule they get. This behaviour isn't 'navigating your way in the world', it's trying to control the world and make everyone else in it participate in your play-acting.

Calmly ignoring the nonsense and continuing as normal was probably the kindest way for the OP to deal with this person in the long run. HH will need to learn (albeit belatedly) that the world doesn't revolve around her.