Men's Rights Activists

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OnMyOwnSoSad · 01/04/2023 13:33

My marriage is imploding and I have a nasty feeling that DH is caught in a MRA rabbit hole on the net. The things he's coming out with sound logical to him and without much thought sound logical too, but they are not. For example, all strategies to encourage women to advance in the workplace are inherently discriminatory towards men. It's too late to save the marriage now but I was wondering if anyone else had experienced this with the men in their lives and how you dealt with it.

I'm very sad that my lovely caring husband has turned into this bitter person.

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OnMyOwnSoSad · 03/04/2023 14:16

IwantToRetire · 01/04/2023 19:53

Just a quick thought, do you or he have any family members or friends that you could ask that they take him out for a walk, an evening drink or something, to see if by getting him out of the house, away from the computer and doing more normal things, could help break the spiral he seems to be in.

However, having seen you post where you talk about controlling behaviour, please put yourself first, and even though you might want to help him, you need to [rioritise yourself, even if it means that's it for you and him.

Unfortunately he's cut out all friends and doesn't want to talk to his family. He really has gone over a cliff with his relationships... this is part of the problem because he doesn't have a counterbalance to what he's reading...

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OnMyOwnSoSad · 03/04/2023 14:17

spiderplantparty · 01/04/2023 19:29

OP - what has jumped out at me from your posts is that this behaviour is fairly recent and your DH hasn't really come out of lockdown and is socially isolated. Could he be going through a form of midlife crisis? I wonder if a new direction could help him, something that would get him out of the house and away from his new found online friends. Perhaps a new hobby that you could do together? Something that could displace some of the online activity? It almost sounds as though he is looking for MRA type arguments and that by arguing against you he could be validating some of the ideas inside his head.

I had thought about that and tried, but he's so adamant he doesn't want to do anything. I'm at a loss as to what to do.

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AmuseBish · 11/05/2023 13:31

How's it going, OP? I can barely deal with MRAs for 5 mins on an online parenting forum, so feel for you living with it.

Zilla1 · 11/05/2023 13:39

I'm sorry to hear that, OP. It must be most upsetting. I don't want to offer suggestions as you'll have thought of everything and you shouldn't have to but have you tried appearing to agree with a (bonkers) point to try and help him think? Something better worded but along the lines of 'That sounds terrible. If a groups had enormous privilege then I suppose the loss of a tiny part of that privilege might feel unfair...' He'll see through it but might find it harder to through you being sexist at you every time you disagree.

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