Raising boys, not raising misogynists

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I have a boy, older than this woman’s son but I was rather aiming to not raising a rapist at all.

im shocked by this video and wondering where I get info on raising boys to be kind and not threatening to girls when they get older.I’m not a perfect mum but I don’t think I behave like this

What an appalling woman.

I think the key thing you can do is model good and respectful relationships yourself. Also talk about this stuff, but talking won't do much unless you're also living by the same principles.

I'm also a believer in having high standards and having faith in boys' ability to be decent and kind- talk to your son about being a good man because that's what he wants to be. I think some of the dialogue about all this has gone too far towards telling boys they're monsters who can't control themselves, and I think it's utterly cruel and counter-productive.

My eldest is 10 and no one so far has told him he is (or will be) a monster who can't control himself. Who or what organisations have been sending that kind of message to your sons, @Kitchenette ?

The woman in that video is behaving very bizarrely, who knows why. Her companion who tries to placate and mediate obviously has experience of her friend/relative behaving in this illogical way. It's not hard to manage to avoid behaving like her!

I expect kindness, empathy, respect, consent etc etc from my children. I treat him as fully capable of all those things and we model it ourselves. We discuss any examples of sexism and misogyny that we might encounter, in an age appropriate way and talk about the unfairness and lack of logic around it. And so on and so on. So far he's an absolute delight.

You don't think you behave like this? I'm sure you don't.

This woman is unhinged and I feel sorry for her because she has internalised some very serious misogyny, but not nearly as sorry as I feel for her poor little boy. He doesn't stand much chance, does he? It's obviously extremely fucked up to be thinking about your sweet, innocent little boy as a future rapist but you know that. You know this is not normal behaviour from a mother or anyone. It's not exactly widespread.

DONT LET THEM HAVE UNFETTERED ACCESS TO THE INTERNET. Or they will gorge on violent porn...