The compulsion to degrade and defile

[Calistan]

Where on earth does this originate from? So much porn these days is catering to this instinct. There was a subreddit called enough Internet which was banned because of a video so extreme that I won't even describe it (obviously didn't watch, title was enough)

Where does this come from? Do you think it always originates from prior abuse?

No idea.

I also don't get why we suddenly have so much slapping, choking, spitting and hair pulling (of course this is done to the female partner) and so on being shown in non BDSM porn and passed as regular parts of mainstream sexual activities.

Unfortunately it probably comes down to good old misogyny and seeing women as inferior, passive beings that can be controlled and abused without the male perpetrator facing any negative consequences.

It is really sickening this is being presented as what sex should look like and has had a huge impact on men's behaviour on the dating scene and the way teenage boys view sex.

One of the reasons I will not use porn anymore, the widespread degradation of women sickens me.

A few years ago I watched a program on the Romans. Long story short, the games got ever more brutal as the crowd became desensitised to the current level of cruelty and demanded ever greater spectacle.

I suspect that either porn makers are attempting to drive greater sexual cruelty or responding to greater demand in a self-reinforcing cycle. Not good in any case.

Its about power not sex.

Inadequate, low status men needing to find a weaker target to show how brave and strong they are

Power. Also desensitisation.

I don't know how we roll back from it all.

Rome fell, that's how we roll back.

A bloke I used to work with sat his early teens son down and talked to him about it, telling him that what he would see on the internet was abusive and not how he should behave with a girl, when the time came.

I think part of the solution is more conversations like that between parents and kids.

It appeals to people who need constant stimulation, and the old boundaries and practices become boring very quickly. It doesn't facilitate real life relationships so creates a vicious circle.
Real women fail to live up to the fantasy. Either they go along with the abuse so the fantasy of boundary violation is broken, or they refuse to engage. Or press charges.