It’s happening at my workplace

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Man at work - well known for making women feel uncomfortable - seems to be starting the ‘transition’. Started with lots of ranting about ‘transphobes’, now the make up and women’s clothes have started. Is there anything I can do? I really don’t want him sharing the loos etc, he gives me the creeps, openly stares at women’s’ bums/boobs and makes seedy remarks I’m just going to have to put up with this shit aren’t I?

Does your company have a policy about this kind of thing? That would be where I would start.

Also, are you in the UK or somewhere else?

I’m in the U.K.

What sort of policy would I be looking for? Sorry I’m new to this type of rebellion!

Our inclusion and diversity manager is a TW.

We also have work showers 😕

Seedy remarks would count as harrassment, surely?

Contact sex matters

sex-matters.org/

If he's making seedy remarks, might be a good idea to lodge harassment complaints BEFORE he's officially transitioning. Are you the only one bothered?

I would complain about sexual harassment. You don’t have to accept it and if it doesn’t stop after you complain, you could take it further. You should never be made uncomfortable by ‘seedy’ remarks and staring.

If you feel concerned doing it alone, make sure you find someone to support you. If you know of others who wish to complain maybe support each other.

As a practical background measure, start keeping a work diary. Every time you encounter anything that makes you uncomfortable, make a note and include the date. You can also make a record of whenever you mentioned an incident to another colleague. No skipping of making entries even if it's a pain, get something down each time.

Ignore the trans issue and report the sexual harassment. You should not be made to feel uncomfortable at work.

I agree.

This. And keep dated, timed records if anything occurs that's sexual harassment.

How big is your work? We have an inclusion and diversity policy which is perfectly reasonable. We also have proper unisex loos and showers (individual cubicles fully enclosed, and regularly cleaned). Transpeople are protected in law, but so are women's sex based rights and you are within the law to insist on sex segregated toilets.

Otherwise, as PPs have said, deal with the harassment sooner rather than later.

Any colleague being inappropriate should be documented and reported.
if this is as you say you should write down incidents and ask Co-workers who are experienced this to do the same.